Quote Originally Posted by her_Joe
Everyone here has been very gentle. I'll step up on this --

if you force her it is not BDSM --

it is assault. It is rape. It is coersion. It is bullying.

It is also inexcusable but that's a different story.



hJ
It's also a crime that really could land you in JAIL. If she does not really want to engage in this style of foreplay, she doen't want to. Not everyone is interested. I'm sure there are other aspects of your relationship that attracted you to her.

You might try explaining that it's just a form of foreplay that you would like to explore.