Oh we're all freaks here lily...

Well it's complicated for me- I was a real nervous nellie up til I was around 20 yrs of age & would have indentified as a sub if I'd known what one was.

I gradually grew in confidence until I could easily rule the world.

A couple of years ago I sort of lost interest in being tied up by my wife & the fantasy sort of died. Soon after I became fascinated by the whole Dom thing.

So a bit of both- I spent years being confident & powerful, but wanting to grovel for the right woman (at times) & now feel very comfortable in being in control pretty much everywhere.

And yeah it was a release after a hard day's work, when I was a sub.

Tojo