How to pick a Dom in a crowd???

[Socrates]

I just realised I've simultaneously ignored about 5 Doms here by calling this a sub-only thread. This was of course evidence of my great observational skills. Love the irony. My apologies people. :-)

[icey]

they tend to spot me lol ...i really cant say how i can just tell, maybe its because they're that tiny bit more confident and sure than the people surrounding them that my sub-concious notes, the way they interact with other people is generally a dead give away once you've spotted them.

[sinderella]

After reding what I feel was/is an interesting post on how to spot a sub? I feel that the subs should point out how they spot a a Dom, and what they look for in a Dom. What features do you look for in a Dom???

i know this sounds odd, but they usually have the same eyes...and the eyes have a direct, clear gaze and they don't just look at you, they look into you. Doms carry themselves differently than other men...they are extremely confident but it is something more that i can't even express...the submissive in you just instinctively responds to it like a magnet to steel.

did you ever have a kitten and enjoy watching it gambol about? that is the same look they have sometimes when they watch you. it's kind of like quiet amusement mixed with being very taken with you, enjoying watching you flutter. oh boy...

[jeanne]

i know this sounds odd, but they usually have the same eyes...and the eyes have a direct, clear gaze and they don't just look at you, they look into you.
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did you ever have a kitten and enjoy watching it gambol about? that is the same look they have sometimes when they watch you. it's kind of like quiet amusement mixed with being very taken with you, enjoying watching you flutter. oh boy...

That's an excellent description. Thanks!

[aussiesubgirl]

i know this sounds odd, but they usually have the same eyes...and the eyes have a direct, clear gaze and they don't just look at you, they look into you. Doms carry themselves differently than other men...they are extremely confident but it is something more that i can't even express...the submissive in you just instinctively responds to it like a magnet to steel.

did you ever have a kitten and enjoy watching it gambol about? that is the same look they have sometimes when they watch you. it's kind of like quiet amusement mixed with being very taken with you, enjoying watching you flutter. oh boy...

That is exactly it!!!

[SauvagePouline]

Some of this all seems true... but others IDK. I don't think its universally applicable. Sometimes its just... a vibe. Not a certain look or way of acting. Sometimes it takes a couple weeks to pick up and then you're just like ooohhhhhh...

Or at least, I've found that. I have one friend who fits the amused look, quietly controlling norm... but another is just a goof ball, but just has, well, a vibe that gives him away.

[Quenthel]

It is easy to spot a Dom when they walk in the room, they are the ones who are measuring up everyone else to see who they can take and who will be a challenge. You know the look, *oh that one looks edible* or *I bet I can take that one without breaking a sweat*.

[icey]

im sorry but i really have to disagree with that! just because someone is Dominant it doesnt mean they strut around with a confidant cocky he/she's a challenge air, (that sounds soo internety!) in fact if anything it's very often the opposite they dont even feel the need to strut around or put on the whole ''i can have that one'' act,(thats more of a 20 yr olds im on a lads night out pulling act) they just are who they are and if anything generally more relaxed, casual, laid back and not out to impress.

[blythe spirit]

~Thinks, Mr. Big~ *swoons*

[SeX-FiENd]

I noticed that a few people mentioned silence ...someone that was more of the quiet type then the talker type. I suppose this could be true for most. At the same time I believe more SUBS to be the quiet types then Dom/Dommes type. subs tend to be the passive, shy, quiet types. I have NEVER really been shy and no one would EVER accuse me of being quiet. I have always had a presence about me that demanded people's attention ....not that I think this is a part of my Domme quality, I'm almost positive most people paid attention just because they just couldn't help but wonder what shocking thing would come out of my mouth next. LOL

[satisfied]

I'm almost positive most people paid attention just because they just couldn't help but wonder what shocking thing would come out of my mouth next. LOL

Wow! you're right, this isn't a Domly quality. I do that exact same thing. and I don't have a domly bone in my body.......well......only when Silver puts one there........but that's not really a bone is it? Fuck got distracted again.....what were we talking about?

[Stone]

Well it is always in the eyes it seems to me i walk around and stare women in the eyes most vanilla girls look away sub girls dont seems weird but i just think the doms and subs can spot eachother

[SeX-FiENd]

well thank you Satisfied