I have talked to several of the new submissives and tried to answer their questions to the best of my ability. I have listed a few of my own thoughts on how my relationship with MasterStone operates, this works well for us and it may not for you but if you are able to draw something out of it and apply to your relationship then my time wasn't wasted. Like I said this isn't gospel just my own point of view.

1) You have the right to be respected. No one should be ordering you around or expecting you to answer questions or doing things you're not comfortable with.

2) You have the right to your freedom. Just because someone is interested in you, they can't take your freedom from you. Don't let anyone try to intimidate you; you belong to no one until you offer yourself to them. They can't restrict you in any way until you allow that; and they try.

3) You have a right to be satisfied--emotionally and physically. This is a relationship, people. While the power control aspect does add a few kinks (pun intended) into the mix, you don't get extra points for making yourself into a sacrificial lamb for someone else's amusement and/or satisfaction. Get what you need or find someone else that will give it to you.

4) You have a right to take your time and not rush into anything … ever. Being chained in the doorway, naked and … vulnerable … isn't really the best time to find out your Dominant wants to explore their sadistic side a little more. Talk, talk, talk … and talk some more. If you have concerns that aren't addressed, move on. It's not worth the risk.

5) You DON'T have a right to play "needy and desperate." Who in the world wants to own someone that doesn't have a backbone and will submit to anyone for any reason? Take resposibility for you actions....make informed decisions.

6) You have a right to respect yourself. This means holding out for the relationship YOU want and not being talked into the relationship someone else wants with you. We are submissive, not stupid and, if you're not going to be happy, you're only wasting everyone's time. And, a collar … any collar … isn't worth your peace of mind. Honest. It has to be the right one.

7) You have a right to be safe. This means having the identity of the one you're going to be spending time with. If you have concerns, tell them. If they don't readily offer information you request, wonder why. And, keep moving.

8) You have the right to enjoy this … always. If you find you're in a relationship that's bringing more tears, confusion and unreasonable or uncomfortable demands than smiles and … warm fuzzies … take some time to pull back and see what's going on or talk with someone else about it, either your Dominant or a friend who knows the lifestyle. It's very possible that you've fallen into the "comfort zone" of being in a relationship just to be in a relationship. That's not good. The same basics apply here as anywhere; something's wrong if you're taking medication just to get up in the morning. You deserve more than that. Have the courage to find it. You'll be glad you did!"

I hope I have answered some question that so many are afraid to ask or really never thought about asking.

To be honest I wasn't fully aware of my own rights until my Master and I sat down and discussed both of our roles and our responsiblities to ourselves and to each other.