submisives they become or they are born with it?

[sub10]

Wjen I was young, my cousin used to make me strip naked and she would ride me like a horse. She would direct me by pulling on my cock. She would make me lay across her lap while she played with me. I would have to lick her pussy while her friends watched. I am submissive and don't know if this has something to do with it.

[sub10]

When I was young, my cousin used to make me strip naked and she would ride me like a horse. She directed me where to go by pulling on my cock. She would make me lay naked across her lap while she played with me in front of her friends. She made me lick her pussy while her friends watched. I had to masturbate in front of her friends and then eat my cum. I think that this made me submissive to this day.

[thir]

I doubt it would have had that effect if the tendency had not already been there.

[sub10]

I am sure that you are right. It sure heightened my awarness of this need to submit.

[didoanna]

I think, to be totally honest, that to be really submissive, rather than just 'acting it', somewhere inside you there has to be a little 'nugget' of true submissive / non-pushyness so that in certain circumstances you already indentify with the submissive side of the situation.

And because of that 'auto-indentification', it feels natural. Yes, I agree maybe, the submissiveness can be 'honed' to a 'fine edge' but that inital desire / strong association with the role of submissive also has to be there.

[Xmaster1]

Ok granted I am coming from the opposite side and I apologize if this is unwelcome here.

Who really knows if it is born or learned. I loved the dom side of things since I can remember but in real life I am very laid back and don't have to be the leader all the time. Although my uncle once said I had a daddy complex and always had to be in charge. Hmm, I had forgotten that. Well I guess I am pretty laid back as long as I get my way. I don't bully people, but I always stood up to the bullies, got beat up a few times but they didn't pick on me for long or anyone I was around. I don't have to be Steve Jobs, I can work for him just fine but then again don't try to micro manage me, leave me alone and I will get the work done. I can't say there is a dominant gene or a submissive gene but I do suspect there are combinations that lead a person to be not submissive or not dominant.

just my .$02 worth

[thamlin]

i feel it is somewhat borned and learnd. it depends on your parents before you were born wicth way you will lean then it depends on how you are raised as a child

[Misschief]

As I previously stated in another thread, my earliest masturbation material, at age 8, was strongly power-exchange based.. I had no prior experience sexually.. I was submissive in my early fantasies which engendered my dominant tendencies later in life..
I understand and enjoy power-exchange from the submissive stand-point.. Always have..