What was the first submissive thing you did?

[magicgrl]

When you first decided to follow the d/s lifestyle, what was the first thing you did, or had done to you?

Was it a little bit of light bondage? Or a spanking? Or maybe you were ordered to please your dom. with no pleasure for you?

There seem to be some people here that are fairly new to this, and I just thought we could give them some ideas ...

i had done some online stuff, but the first serious submissive action i took when we were finally together in person was to strip, get on my knees, present a riding crop to Him and ask permission to be His slave. That was more than five years ago.

[learner]

We have been married for 13 years and it is only in the last 12 months that I have allowed my desire for subsmission to surface - too much Story of O at an impressionable age! - but I'm not sure that my husband is in to it as much as me. I can only do submissive when I have had too much to drink - i guess that the real test of my dedication is when I can do it sober. And we have nipple clamps (which I love!) and vibrators and apparantly a paddle (I can't wait). It is all very new to us and I wish that my husband could get some guidance as to what it takes to be dominant (as this is not his natural position - up until now) it is causing real conflict.

[sirken]

When I was younger living at home , older woman nextdoor introduced Me to D/s I would go to her house to cut grass and do trees and other odd jobs, Went over one day and she was sunning self in back yard in bikini, did the work and was called over afterwards to her , started talking as we always did and she asked if I had ever felt the urge to tie a woman up and have my way with her, what boy in his right mind hasnt, guess all started before then with cartoons and herion being tied up remember Dudley Dooright and penelope.

[Ranai]

Hi sirken & welcome,
Aaah, the handsome lad in the garden... If you would like to elaborate, or if you have some more interesting memories to share, here are a couple of threads that might interest you:
What was the first age?
Early fantasies
Enjoy!

[learningtopleez]

The first submissive thing I did was to (at the time, not now!) mastubate over the phone for my Dom as he told me what to do and where to touch, etc! I must say it was quite a powerful orgasm! I still think it was his voice! But whatever it was...it was goooood!!

~ltp~

[Sir Lanceloth]

We have been married for 13 years and it is only in the last 12 months that I have allowed my desire for subsmission to surface - too much Story of O at an impressionable age! - but I'm not sure that my husband is in to it as much as me. I can only do submissive when I have had too much to drink - i guess that the real test of my dedication is when I can do it sober. And we have nipple clamps (which I love!) and vibrators and apparantly a paddle (I can't wait). It is all very new to us and I wish that my husband could get some guidance as to what it takes to be dominant (as this is not his natural position - up until now) it is causing real conflict.

be carefull, personaly i will not do bdsm when drunk.

My first and only submissive thing ive done was allow my gf to tie me up, and of course to follow her commands for an evening (same scene). was actually rather funny, i still consider myself a dom though Oh allmost forgot, it was rather recent, only a month or so ago. I might do it again, if she forces me to it

[Masters_petal]

Master has always been of the Dominant nature.. and i have always known i was submissive deep down. We've been married for 14 years, and we did a lot of talking about this lifestyle and our dark secrets and fantasies, a lot of research, and a lot more talking before we eased our way into it... that was over 6 years ago.

We started out with a small flogger and servitude (and that was all i need to know that i wanted to be His collared one).... and then onto bondage.. and then onto everything else... i couldn't image any other lifestyle, nor could He

[Xelebes]

Well.... I was in high school in the Communications and Technology 10 class, the class was separated into five groups where each was put into a station. I was with a group who was doing video at the time - I forget what the other group was doing, possibly photography. Anyways, the teacher left us in the classroom (there was the class room, the printing lab and the silkscreen lab) so were all together. We were admittedly slacking on our assignments and out of our boredom I was ordered to sit on a chair. On the teacher's desk there was a few rolls of masking tape. They tied me up until I moved and taped my mouth shut leaving me to be laughed at in our mischief. The best part was when they pulled off the tape before the teacher came back to check on us. They were totally freaked that I was going to scream when they pulled the tape off of my mouth and neck, concerned about the pain they were putting me under.

It was fun - it would actually take a while before I realised that I would like it more in bed than anything.

[SL232997601]

I tied myself up w/ hand cuffs on ankles and wrist and swiveled clumpsy around on a carpeted floor. I suddenly got an orgasm and the carpet went wet. I had no idea that day what had happend to me and was very afraid somthing went wrong. I might have been eight years old or even younger, attending the primary school. The handcuffs I used those days were these for kids to play sherrif or police officer. You could buy them in any toys shops and looked almost like the darby style cuffs we use today. I have no idea what motivated me to do so but I suspect some of the Tarzan movies and 'Devil at four o'clock' might have had some influence on me, in which prisoners where chained together and arrested. I also whipped myself with a rope. Sometimes I slept w/ handcuffs on during the nights. There was no suspicious about it as my parents had no idea what the background of it may be, since I was too young. Later I learned that I had indeed an orgasm and sperm ejaculated. I practiced this for several years before I really got to know what an orgasm is... as a teen then.

So this was - in one way or another - the first time. But I would not call it D/s lifestyle. Please mind that there were no information about SM available those days. And sexual life styles were not discussed, neither in public nor behind the curtains. Mind this was in the late 60, early 70. Many years later my parents told me a bit about sex and I somehow got to know what masochism is.

[SalesGirl]

When you first decided to follow the d/s lifestyle, what was the first thing you did, or had done to you?

Was it a little bit of light bondage? Or a spanking? Or maybe you were ordered to please your dom. with no pleasure for you?

There seem to be some people here that are fairly new to this, and I just thought we could give them some ideas ...

My first experience took place after we had returned to my house after a movie that showed a girl tied by a man. One thing lead to another and my date tied my wrists behind my back with his belt. After he let me try(unsuccesssfully) to get free he started to put his hands over me(things he had done on several prior dates). The effect that it had on me with my hands tied was unbelievable with a massive sexual arousal like I had not had before. With my parents in the house,it was too much for either of us to "go all the way" but the next night I let him tie me again and it was the first of several wild and exciting times we had with each other. Since that time(ten years ago) I have been very eager to do it again with others.

[NightDaughter]

I desided to rejoin the lifestyle becuase the vanillas I dated just couldn't handle the fact that I was raped by my first parterner I ever had, or the things that he did to me. Most couldn't handle it and left within various lenths of time, so I said for get you, I'm going back to those that I know will understand and even accapt what I've gone though.

[sarahgetswet]

we were very much into wrestling about and one day having lost to my older sister, she started to tie me up, then did all sorts of stuff to me - i found it soo exciting. I used to brat at her to get her to 'deal' with me again - sometimes spanks, sometimes wrestles and sometimes tiue up or tickles. I usually lost but ocassionally the tie would be on the other leg.

[EnolaGay]

I had to give a blow job. Doesnt sound alot, but what goes into my mouth im OCD about. It was derlibratly not washed, and he didnt look twice at me, it was revolting humiliating, and made me vomit more than once (shows it was my first time) Also to make me feel like I had done and awful job and not made him feel good, he decided not to cum.

[Najasim]

I have always played around with light bondage and tried to make my boyfriends dominate me, but never had much luck with it until I met my Dom. The first thing he did was to undress me till I only had my underwear and high heals on, and then tied me up on to a wall standing there while he watched me. And played with me for a long time teasing me.. I had never been so turned on before and knew that this was something I really wanted more of.. I'm still learning and always wanting more

[perfectlittleslave]

The first submissive thing I did was bow to his feet and kiss them and lick them. Master wanted to see if I would humiliate myself for him. I did this in the middle of a carnival. He then pulled my hair and made me suck him right there. It was so exciting. I have been with Master ever since, Submissively obeying his every word, pleasurably.

[Act21]

First submissive thing I did. I was in 3rd grade and we used to play star wars. Guess who was princess Leah tied up to a flag pole with jump rope. I will admitt that latter on I made a pincess Leah slave outfit for "Holloween" It got worn quite a bit more often.

First dominate: Making my guy lie on his back with his arms over his head and not move while I teased him. Cold drink and warm mouth.

[lionking22a]

i had to put my wifes panties in my mouth ,she tied my hands and made me stand for an hour

[Jenny123]

my first was becouse I potched my G/F fella. he asked if I was into Bondge I said yes not knowing what it was all about, I found my self tied naked to a cross, and listening to him say "I think a little pain I think now love" as he felt my clitoris, but I survived and became addicted,

[CrimsonWineGlass]

It was only about..2 years ago? Feels much longer, but I went over to my girl friends house, we were going to relax and watch a movie and halfway through the movie she just got up and went into her room. At this point we had only been dating for maybe 2 weeks max and I was still a very shy virgin. I am still quite shy, but not as bad. But she came back out, dressed in a full dominatrix outfit with a riding crop. She turned off the movie and told me to kneel. I asked why and suddenly -WHACK- as she smacked the riding crop over my back. It was enough incentive, she put a collar on me and a leash, took me into the bedroom, tied me down with leather srips, told me that she was mistress, and I was her prick, nothing else. She continued to verbally humilate me, whip me, and eventuall pissed on me. She noticed that I was getting hard, and it kinda took off from there.

[slave for any]

my first bdsm experience,was when i met a guy online and he asked me to meet him ,he was old he was 56 years old man and i was only 22 at that time,,the thing is i am straight more than being a bi,,but couldnt resist his orders when he asked to see me,,,he asked to be completely naked ,pulling me from my penis,forcing my to suck and when i was sucking his dick,he spanked the hell out of my ass till i was nearly screaming in tears,,then u can imagine what happened afterwards,,he fucked me one time and my ass was virgin and it was bleeding,i went to wash it up and he brought me this cream that`s some kind of a drug that makes dont feel any pain,,that was gentle of him till i understood why he did that,,,HE FUKED THE SHIT OUT OF ME afterwards,,,damn i was in tears,,but till now i cant resist getting back to him whenever he calls,sometimes he brings other MEN over to his house to fuck me and i simply cant say no

[Brosco]

My first submissive thing was selfbondage. Going thru puberty, wet dreams, and learning self-pleasure was amazing and the first reaction I had was to want to make arousal last longer. The selfbondage was not a bondage kink, but just a way to delay the inevitable climax. Over 40 years later, having been both sub and Dom, Orgasm control is still my favourite kink.

Brosco

[Dongthong2005]

HI I am dongthongs wife. I still look back on the days of when I was pushed and groped by my brother's friend. I grew up in the Dominican Republic and bythe age of 13-14 would deliberately hang around my brother's friends and antagonize them until they would put me in a head lock and spank me. It grew from there into groping and wedgies, and later in the water sucking them. I only wish I hadn't felt bad about it then. Now I understand, it is normal, but then I didn't understandwhy I was different.

[servent_o]

My first expierience wen i was 12 my Sister Tide me to a Chair and left me for a half a hour wen she cam back she told me she liket the quiet and she will tie me up again wen i make a lot of Noise. I liket it and found out my Submisif Side

[disturbed]

in the first time i knelt in front of my girl frind and made her slap me a few times. After a while she got the hang of it .. Now I dont even masturbate without her permission. I love her a lot

[submissivewife]

When I was in grade school there was this boy I liked...he liked me but he picked on each other all the time. One day, he and a friend were outside my house, he had handcuffs. He wanted his friend to hold me so he could put these handcuffs on me. Weird thing was I really wanted him to put me in handcuffs, but a sister of his friends saw what he wanted to do and interrupted the whole thing.

[Warbaby1943]

Not counting mostly vanilla type of tying to the bed by my wife years ago, the first submissive act for me was just very recently.

I was ordered to strip naked in front of a beautiful lady I had never before laid eyes on. Granted she was a paid Mistress but it was still me giving up all my rights to privacy. It was thrilling and proceeded from there to other activities. I get excited just remembering the lose of control and facing a beautiful stranger with noting on but a smile.

[VixeyandPhoenix]

Hey everyone, this is Vixey - just to clarify.

The first night I met Phoenix (a couple weeks before we started dating) he told me how to reorganize my bedroom furniture. I kind of liked it the way it was and asked him why I had to move it around. His answer was simply "Because I said so." The very next day, hungover as I was, I put everything exactly how he had told me to.
And then when we were actually together as a couple, he spanked me lightly in bed one night, and I was instantly drawn to the feeling. Over a short time we began exploring and realized just how much we enjoyed the elements of BDSM in our sex life. Then we also began exploring it as a lifestyle.
We have come such a long way since the first night and the first spanking, and yet it's simply still so thrilling, every time I feel that hard smack on my ass.... or anything he does to me for that matter....

[playme]

i lost my virginity to force of 2 guys so my mind was set to please rather than be pleased from the get go i guess you might say.

[submissivewife]

i lost my virginity to force of 2 guys so my mind was set to please rather than be pleased from the get go i guess you might say.

Is that rape or was this consentual? From what you wrote it sounds like rape...if I'm wrong..sorry. A little more detail might be needed to clarify.

[playme]

Is that rape or was this consentual? From what you wrote it sounds like rape...if I'm wrong..sorry. A little more detail might be needed to clarify.

I guess it's a case of a mix of things - I was 14, dumb and naive, got myself tricked into a jamb I didn't Iunderstand WAS a jamb that after I got myself into it I wasn't able to get myself out of it.... outsmarted, overpowered, ouwitted, tricked, manipulated, intimidated, ... the one guy was married and I use to watch his kids and the other guy was a friend of his. He was driving me home after I'd watched the kids, asked if I'd mind if he stopped and picked up his friend before taking me home....yada yada ya one thing led to the next and well the rest as they say is ancient history now.
They had no business doing what they did but in the same breath I had no business getting myself into that situation to begin with.
As young as I was I got mself led to believe it was no more fault of any one of them or me and babysitting was my only source of cash so didn't dare do anything that might lose me that income so it all got sort of twisted into how my mind got set to be the way it works now.
And thats the long and short of that.