A thought occurs to me- I'm seeing a submissive girl and while she delights in me dominating her sexually, she doesnt have it in her to be dominant over me in the bedroom.

Now I'm relatively new to the reality of BDSM, so I've never had an opportunity to be the submissive one, even though I've had a few fantasies about it over the years.Its something I'd like to at least experiment with. I've had a few fantasies about being the dom too, and those are coming true for me with her, but I'm worried that I'll never experience the other half of my desires- always the dom, never the sub.

So, have other switches had relationships with non-switchs and how did you reconcile the incompatibility? Do you work with your partners, domming from the bottom? Or is the only answer to repress/forget half of your nature? Going poly isnt an option for us.

Thx.

V.