I'm curious how other pairs work out their "bedroom only" WIITWD relationship? My him and I are also friends and "romantic partners" and both of us are willing to "sub" for eachother, in terms of serving as a support system for the other. In the bedroom though, there is no switching....

Our "bedroom" roles do extend into RL quite a bit (and he is adamant about it, even when I am not as rigid as he is), but in other areas he is definitely dominant over me. For instance I am having to buy a new car right now, and I am a quivering mass of indecisive jello, and he truly is having trouble containing his frustration with me.

I am starting to sense that this ambiguity is ultimately causing problems. I am not sure that my dominance can be maintained if I regularly hand the reins over to him, in RL. (for instance, asking him to take charge of the buying a car thing). On the other hand, maybe it is just a sign that our relationship is not mature enough at this point, to withstand this "switching".

What do others think? Can this work? What should I tweak? (hmm.. that's a good question....)