I recently became interested into the BDSM theme (from the sub perspective).

Just I want to say that I have some trust problems in real life and usual sex.

As I know, the main base of BDSM relationships is trusting each other.
And there I suppose is a question: how to start trust people, how to make the first step into BDSM?

I mean if I will be lucky enough to find somebody adequate (who won't go to the 'restricted area' and who doesn't want to record whole thing on the video and will never told anybody about it (I know this sounds kinda paranoid)). Even if I'll found that rare guy/girl, how to start trust to him/her?

Please, no jokes, only responses.