For my Master and i , i prefer him to be aggressive, the rose pedals and candles is not our thing. Master, takes it upon himself to do what he wants, tells me what to do, (not asks) or even prepares. When he is ready for a session he just grabs me. i love it this way. i love to submit power to him and He loves to hear me say it. I refer to him only as Master, therefore during a session i start and complete my sentances with Master. It sounds like this is what she wants. It sounds like she wants you to have total control and wants you to make her speak to you this way. A good sub. will obey, but only if she is made to. You have to train yourself and her to comply. Good luck.