Quote Originally Posted by tazkill
SO my question is, broadly speaking can anyone give me some background to how they serve their master in daily tasks? i hope that will let me see what i should be doing even though he won't command me.
You want to stay with your husband and you want to serve him even when he isn't openly demonstrating the roll of Master too you? Fine, then do that proudly and with as much willingness and love that is in you. I believe that rather it's D/s or vanilla we must follow our heart and do what we feel is best for us.

I was married for 18 years to a man in a vanilla marriage and that didn't stop me from serving him. I took care of his home, his child and his sexual needs. I did all that was required to ease his life and give him the happy home life he wanted. That did end for me because I personally needed much more and found it. But, I am proud to say that while I was his wife I did do my part in serving him.

You know your husband better then anyone. You know what it is he needs and wants. Give it to him with a merry heart out your need to serve and not out of your need to be validated. Let your own pride in serving be your reward and maybe you will get from your husband much more then you ever realized he could give.

Best of luck.