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does anyone else have trouble taking *the first step*? I mean how do you approach someone, or even worse tell someone you have known for a long time and tell them that your thoughts are not always so.. so pure? And even if you go to an alternative lifestyle site, how do you admit on how you really feel about some things? I mean how can you trust someone to admit your most intimate thoughts.. to tell them what arouses you, what excites you.. what is a turn on? So my approach is always.. well what ...

Having read and read and read anything under the sun about bdsm, made the decision to take it a step further. But then again that is easier said then done. Even though bdsm and other fetishes seem to be in vogue and accepted as an *in* thing to do, there is still a certain stigma attached, especially when one would want to have a serious conversation about it. I mean it is ok for *others* to be that way, but for themselves it is just not acceptable. I guess what I mean I was trying to have a conversation ...