Sir, new to this and saw you posted "poly" under bdsm kinx -- do you mean i've been out of the closet the whole time that i thought my bdsm was in the closet? easier for me to be up front about the poly thing. i also discovered that the triscal i have tatooed on my back is a bdsm sign. shit. here i thought that today was the day finally to take my "real" kinx seriously. Glad to meet'cha. First-timer here.