Hello all

When I was fresh out of high school I visited my mother's relatives in England. My uncle took me to dinner where the hostess, a lovely Indian woman, read my tarot cards. She got only a couple cards into it before a curious look crossed her face and she asked me quite directly, "Are you a sadist?" I did what any 18-year-old American virgin would do. I laughed it off uncomfortably and then suppressed it for many, many, many years.

I've spent the last 17 years in a sexless relationship. I now accept that I am a Dom, that I always have been, and that I desire to control. I'm still married, and am struggling to find my way with who I am. Where it will go with my current relationship I have no idea. I have found a sub that I have grown to care for tremendously. It will be a long distance arrangement, which I acknowledge will be fraught with as much frustration as satisfaction for both of us.

I found this site as I was exploring what bdsm was all about. To say that I'm new to this would be an understatement. I will look to your guidance and experience to help me to realize who I am.

Thanks for being so welcoming. Please be patient with my many, many questions.

Hi and welcome. I hope you find everything you're looking for here!

Welcome to our kinky little corner of the internet!

Thank you both. Best twisted corner of the internet hands down.

Hello, Welcome to the Library!

xx rosie

Welcome to the Library!

Hello, Cold Harbor.
Welcome to the Library! You're lucky to have found this site. You say you have many, many questions. You'll find that the members here have such a wide array of experience that there's sure to be someone who can help you find some of the answers you seek. Enjoy your time here!