New to lifestyle

Hello, I'm new to the lifestyle. I have found out through stories/erotica that while I enjoy reading about sex, this lifestyle has really gotten me aroused. I am a virgin and masturbate to the particular fantasy of submitting. I have done some research on it and realize how much I am attracted to it. I am getting sick of just masturbating and being a virgin (though I don't want to give it up right away) I also would like to have a dominant who is into the "vanilla" relationship as well. I have looked to see if there are any ways to learn about the lifestyle more in my city, but found nothing. I'm 22 and have never been in a relationship. Is there any advice that can be given to me on where to start?

smiles.. welcome ALM i hope you find what you are seeking.. lol..even if your not exactly sure what that is yet.. hun.. all i can advise is go slowly.. talk to people.. most are very lovely here and only too willing to offer information.. become involved in the forums...read as much as you can ... take your time to explore and experiment..

fetlife (sorry Torq if im not allowed to mention that here) allows you to search for people in your area.. please remember tho to protect yourself it should be safe, sane, consensual (unfortunately there are people out there who will not have your best interests at heart and most submissives will have a tale of hurt .. and not the good kind.. smiles.. scary stuff finished now) but most of all.. ENJOY!!!!

Thank you emeralds. So far I am finding the community to be accepting and hopefully when I have found a good dominant and no I will not jump at the first one just because he is the first. Like I said I have done research and have an idea of what I like, now it is just about exploring and experimenting and hopefully finding a good dom in my area. I have thought of the possibility of being in a cyber relationship first, but with very little privacy and no webcam I am afraid it wouldn't be too good, plus I have also heard that they aren't a very good idea.

Hello, Welcome to the Library!
Enjoy!

xx rosie