Scenario idea. Comments?

Will be getting back to a semi-normal bdsm life after a little break caused by having 2 kids and having them both sick at the same time. We had already agreed to push things a little further and so here is my idea. I'm curious to have your comments/ideas on this.

I will ask her to undress completely and kneel before me. Then my request will be for her to take some time to write a letter where she will explain everything that her master can ask of her being very specific. Everything that is not in this can still be asked and if declined will result in a consequence ranging from physical pain to another request that is different but maybe harder to perform.

After the letter is written she will take some time to make herself sexy and then present the letter to me. I will then probably have her read it aloud and sign her consent.

I think it will be a great transition to get back into the bdsm life ans also make the jump to a more involved life as we had planned.

I'd like to hear what you think of this scenario.

Thanks

It sounds like it could be fun- the part of her reading it aloud- that would turn me on and be difficult, therefore also a good learning experience- to learn to be able to express my needs, wants.
In thinking of this scenario, have you considered how it would best help her to grow and get back into this lifestyle with you? Depending on her personality, it may or may not be the best thing.
I have to add I was a bit confused about the "Everything that is not in this can still be asked and if declined will result in a consequence ranging from physical pain to another request that is different but maybe harder to perform."- why would you punish her or give her a more difficult task if she asks something and you decline it? b/c she didn't think of it at the time of the letter... or... ?... i would just like to understand that part.
Overall, though, it sounds like a good idea.
If you go through with it this way, i would be curious to know how it goes.

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Originally Posted by Fastfwd

Everything that is not in this can still be asked and if declined will result in a consequence ranging from physical pain to another request that is different but maybe harder to perform.

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This raised some red flags for me too... are you talking about punishing her for saying she doesn't want to do certain things? That seems like a very bad idea to me. Even submissives have limits. Or did you just mean that, if she refuses something because it runs against her limits, you'll find a substitute that doesn't? So that she can avoid specific things she's not willing to do, but can't use that to get out of doing anything at all? 'Cuz that's a lot more reasonable.

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Originally Posted by NatalieD

This raised some red flags for me too... are you talking about punishing her for saying she doesn't want to do certain things? That seems like a very bad idea to me. Even submissives have limits. Or did you just mean that, if she refuses something because it runs against her limits, you'll find a substitute that doesn't? So that she can avoid specific things she's not willing to do, but can't use that to get out of doing anything at all? 'Cuz that's a lot more reasonable.

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I would have to say yes to both. It is a punishment for refusing to do something which is an incentive to push her own limits and is something that we already wanted to work on. It's also a way out so she can get out of doing something that I ask of her without having to end the scenario.

I guess she is your full-time live-in slave, right? (this scenario wouldn't make much sense if it were online). Still I felt a bit confounded by the same lines as the two submissives above. there are hundreds of possible tasks and ways of using a subbie, different scene ideas and if she fails to mention something simply because she thought you'd never ask that, is it reasonable to punish her for not wishing to do this task (e.g. taking a piece of excrement between her lips and crawling away with it to dump it in the waste basket - just to make my point)?? Besides, okay for pushing limits, but you seem to imply a slave proper can't be allowed to have any hard limits, and even less ask you to recongnize those limits.

Moreover, if she's your r/l partner and you've got kids, how will you easily bring in another slave on short notice to do an extravagant task your normal slave doesn't wish to perform? Please clarify.

I have the same query about the sentence which has already been highlighted, suspect I just don't understand your thinking there.

Apart from that, I think it is a powerful re-introduction to bdsm activities. My only other observation is that if I was your sub, it would work most effectively if I was given a period of time, maybe a week, to carefully think out what I was going to offer in my letter. That would not only provide a build of anticipation on both parties, but would give her the opportunity to really think through the options, meaning she would be more likely to include everything she wished to, and not include things she did not really wish to.

Hope you both enjoy...

cariad

I meant finding a substitute task, not a substitute slave. We are nowhere near ready to experiment with a 3rd person. The way I had this figured is that the letter would give me the opportunity to see from her perspective what the role of a slave is.

Our goal is to push the limits so surely I will ask of her things that are not included on the list, knowing that refusing will bring a punishment I expect that it will help accomplish this. It will also help me to find the hard limits from tasks that she will prefer to refuse. The hard part will be finding a punishment that is motivating but not so cruel that it ruins the game.

We are living together but it's not a true 24x7 arrangement since we have kids.

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Originally Posted by cariad

My only other observation is that if I was your sub, it would work most effectively if I was given a period of time, maybe a week, to carefully think out what I was going to offer in my letter. That would not only provide a build of anticipation on both parties, but would give her the opportunity to really think through the options
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Good idea. Since we are not always at liberty to be spontaneous with the kids we often have tasks with deadlines instead of needing immediate attention.

Fastfwd:

Now that you've clarified that part- I think you have some logical merit there.

Please let us know how it goes!