Can you be identified?

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Originally Posted by His_pita

It's not something I feel we should flaunt, but I don't see that we should hide it either.

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i totally agree.

am i identifiable? i don't know but i would guess so if people knew what they were looking for.

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Originally Posted by orchid

i totally agree.

am i identifiable? i don't know but i would guess so if people knew what they were looking for.

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Good point. I'm not at all sure what to look for. Vanilla and BDSM seem to have so many telltale signs in common.:freakout:

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Originally Posted by her_Joe

I'm reaching a different conclusion, and not sure which if either is correct -- that you can be identified, just not by a prescribed sign or set of signs, that usually it's a sense or attitude or feel communicated via something like a "vibe" -- no?

hJ

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Once again, I'm with you. Behaviors, jewelry, or clothing that looks BDSM-related could just be a relationship dynamic or fashion statement. I think there are plenty of BDSM-ers running around in suits and ties, or shorts and T-shirts, looking quite innocent. But sometimes you just get that feeling.

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Originally Posted by Phantome

You never fail to make a point, Oz. :) Perhaps I just like the idea of a gentleman; the assholes seem to be everywhere these days...
-Phantome

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Ever notice that the words chivalry and cavalier (as in cavalier attitude) are both rooted from the same word/concept?

Looking back at the original question, I was reminded of a wedding I performed at (I'm a violinist) this weekend. Drove 2 hours from my urban home to the middle of "Podunk" Georgia. Ceremony was held in a large Baptist church.

The bride was about 22. Groom was maybe 26 and an Air Force captain. It was emphasized that this was a "Christian" marriage a couple of times. Vows included the following:
- Wife agreed in the statement of intent ("I do" part) to submit to her husband in all things.
- Wife's vows (which the couple apparently wrote themselves) included "obeying" her husband.
- At 3 different places in the ceremony the passage from 1 Corinthians about the "husband is the head of the wife" was mentioned.

I found myself thinking that it almost sounded like a "master-slave" ceremony, except that her parents were sitting there... Maybe they meant "Christian" marriage as in the type of about 2000 years ago? :/

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Originally Posted by quietkarin

- Wife agreed in the statement of intent ("I do" part) to submit to her husband in all things.
- Wife's vows (which the couple apparently wrote themselves) included "obeying" her husband.
- At 3 different places in the ceremony the passage from 1 Corinthians about the "husband is the head of the wife" was mentioned.

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Maybe this was intentional and related to the lifestyle but then again who knows? It could be just another instance where vanilla and BDSM overlap and become indistinguishable from each other.

This is the type of wedding Vixey desires above all. She loves to play with the words, "Love, Honor, and OBEY".

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Originally Posted by VixeyandPhoenix

This is the type of wedding Vixey desires above all. She loves to play with the words, "Love, Honor, and OBEY".

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Sounds like she knows what she wants. :cool: