Hard limit questionaire for both Doms and subs to help them find long term partners

Here are my answers Sir Russell. Some of your instructions for the Master/Dom list was a little vague. I tried to answer them as best I can and honestly. I am a fairly new Dom with aspirations for Master/slave lifestyle.

Abrasion: no 0
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: no 3
Anal plugs (small): no 3
Anal plugs (large): no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 1
Asphyxiation: no no
Auctioned for charity: no 0
Bathroom use control: no 4
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): no 3
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: no 1
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no no
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3
Breast whipping: no 0
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 2
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 4
Choking: no no
Clothespins: no 2
Cock worship: yes 4
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): no 2
Cuffs: no 4
Cuffs (metal): no 4
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no no
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no no
Enemas: no 3
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical): yes 5
Exercise (forced/required): yes 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no 4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no no
Face slapping: no 1
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 1
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 2
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 5
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: no 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): no 3
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 1
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 0
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: no 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only N/A
High heel worship: yes 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 4
Hot oils (on genitals): no no
Hot waxing: no 0
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 4
Hypnotism: no 1
Ice cubes: no 4
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no no
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no no
Kidnapping: no no
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints: no 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): no 4
Manacles & Irons: no 0
Manicures (giving): no 0
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: yes 5
Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Mouth bits: no no
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: no 2
Nipple weights: no 2
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 3
Outdoor sex: no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes no no
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no 3
Pussy/cock whipping: no no
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no no
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes: no 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping: no 0
Scratching – getting: no 2
Scratching – giving: no 2
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 3
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 3
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 4
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no 1
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleepsacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 4
Spanking: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 5
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 4
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no no
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no no
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no no
Strapping (full body beating): no 2
Suspension (upright); no 1
Suspension (inverted): no 1
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 0
Swinging (multiple couples): no no
Tattooing: no no
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 5
Triple penetration: no no
Uniforms: yes 5
Including others: no 1
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 1
Video (watching others): no 2
Video (recordings of you): no 2
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping yes 4
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling: no 3

Doing this again wrote a reply and lost it when the sight went down and I must say getting tired of that. Shame that it has become so unstable these days.

aerodomain
I find it refreshing that you admit to being new and I also think that it is brave and shows an honesty that will serve you very well as a Dom.

Your answers show that you are new so let me give you some advice that should help you in this journey. First though I want to remind not just you but everyone that at sometime the greatest Dominant ever was where you are now.

Now for the advice, first go back to the list and buy each of the pain devices you have shown interest in. These you will us on yourself to learn how they feel and how the pain is controlled. This is essential for you to overcome a fear of using them and to understand their potential for damage in the wrong hands.

Another reason that many so called Doms fail to do this is the fear of hurting themselves so they weld the clips, pin, pegs, paddles, whips, flogger and all the other without any real knowledge of them. Any idiot can use any of these but to use them well, to know how to blend them in to increase the pain pleasure takes a real in depth first hand knowledge.

Read what real Doms think is important, study that. Take those tenants that they expound on that seem right to you and learn all you can about them

After or while doing that look at photos to find out which things excite you then plan how you will do them to her in a safe sane manner.

Lastly when you plan don't stop at the how will I do this but take the most important step for a Dom. HOW WILL I RESPOND WHEN THINGS GO WRONG. They will be sure of that and when they do if you haven't a plan for what to do then your lost and she is hurt or worse. These include having keys close by when using locks, cutters for any type of bondage gear including bolt cutters for padlocks when they jam.

Good luck to you, be smart and you will do well.

havnt taken this for a while so it will be interesting to compare any differences. , thankyou for posting it :)



Abrasion: yes 5
Age play: yes 5
Anal sex: yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): yes 4
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: yes 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 4
Asphyxiation: yes 5
Auctioned for charity: no 4
Bathroom use control: yes 3
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 3
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): n/a
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 5
Breath control: yes 5
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: yes 3
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): yes 5
Caning: yes 4
Catheterization: no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): yes 5
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no (cant drive)
Choking: yes 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 4
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing): yes 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: yes 5
Dilation: no 3
Double penetration: yes 5
Electricity: yes 1
Enemas: NO
Enforced chastity: yes 4
Examinations (physical): yes 5
Exercise (forced/required): yes 1
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 5
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 5
Eye contact restrictions: yes 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: yes 5
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 5
Fantasy gang-rape: yes 5
Fisting (anal): no 1
Fisting (vaginal): yes 5
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 5
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: yes 3
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 1
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 2
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 2
Gags (cloth): yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): yes 3
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 5
Gates of Hell: no 2
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: NO
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): n/a
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): yes 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 2
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 3
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 5
Hypnotism: NO
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: yes 5
Initiation rites: yes 5
Injections: no 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 5
Interrogations: yes 5
Kidnapping: yes 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 1 (am veggie)
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 1
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 1
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: yes 5 (i answered yes diy improvisations,not actual shop bought equip)
Manicures (giving): yes 2
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving):yes 1
Medical scenes: yes 4

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 5
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 4
Mummification: yes 5
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes 5
Piercing (permanent): no 5
Prison scenes: no 4
Pony slave: yes 4
Public exposure: yes 5
Public tasks: yes 5
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: yes 1
Riding crops: yes 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 5
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: yes 4
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 3
Rope body harness: yes 5
Saran wrapping: yes 5
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: no 1
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving:
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: yes 3
Serving as furniture: yes 3
Serving as a maid: yes 5
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 0
Sleep-sacks: no 5
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 5
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 3
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 1
Strapping (full body beating): yes 5
Suspension (upright); yes 5
Suspension (inverted): yes 5
Suspension (horizontal): yes 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 2
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: NO
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 3
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 3
Tattooing: yes 4
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: yes 5
Uniforms: yes 5
Including others: yes(not in this r/ship) 4
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): yes 5
Water torture: yes 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: no 4

icey
Hard to see where any Dom wouldn't be happy to own you. The few things you seem to be uninterested in are normally things that most of us don't care for.

Glad your one of us

Im new to this so I thought I would fill it out here and see if I could get some feedback. Also i was looking at Sir Russell's photo post and read about his website if you could give me the link to it I would greatly appriciate it.



Abrasion: no 2
Age play: no no
Anal sex: no 3
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no no
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 2
Auctioned for charity: no no
Bathroom use control: no no
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): no 3
Beating (hard): no 1
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: no 2
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 2
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no no
Caning: no 1
Catheterization:no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of):no 0
Chastity belts: no 0
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 1
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no1
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private): no 2
Collars (worn in public): no 1
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): yes 4
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal): no 3
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 2
Double penetration: no 3
Electricity: no 1
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity: no 1
Examinations (physical: no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 0
Eye contact restrictions: no 3
Face slapping: no 0
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no no
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no no
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: no 2
Following hand signals: no 1
Following orders: no 4
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 1
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): no 2
Forced nudity (around others): no no
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped): no 0
Gags (rubber): no 0
Gags (tape): no 0
Gates of Hell: dont know what this is?
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 2
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): no no
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): no no
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only):yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 1
Hot oils (on genitals): no 2
Hot waxing: no 1
Housework (doing): yes 2
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private): no 2
Humiliation (public): no 1
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 3
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 2
Kneeling: no 2
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: no 3
restraints rope: no 3
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): yes 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 3

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 3
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: no no
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins: no 1
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: no 2
Orgasm control: no 2
Outdoor scenes: no 3
Outdoor sex: no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): yes 2
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no no
Public exposure: no no
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: no 1
Pussy worship: no no
Riding crops: no 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping:no 1
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 4
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no no
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 2
Sexual deprivation (long term): no no
Shaving (body hair): yes 4
Shaving (head hair) no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: no 4
Spanking in public: no no
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 0
Spanking pleasure: no 5
Spandex clothing: no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 2
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no2
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no no
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no no
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no no
Swinging (multiple couples): no no
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 4
Triple penetration: no 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: no no
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no no
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: no 3
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no no
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no no
Video (watching others): yes 2
Video (recordings of you): no 2
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 3
Whipping: no 2
Wooden paddles: no 2
Wrestling:no 2

Ohhh... thought I'd fill it out :p

Abrasion: 0
Age play: 0
Anal sex: 2
Anal plugs (small): 1
Anal plugs (large): 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 2
Animal roles: 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 1
Asphyxiation: 2
Auctioned for charity: no
Bathroom use control: no
Bestiality: no
Beating (soft): 4
Beating (hard): 2
Blindfolds: 4
Being serviced (sexual): 3
Being bitten: 2
Breast/chest bondage: 2
Breath control: 3
Branding: 0
Boot worship: 0
Bondage (light): 3
Bondage (heavy): 2
Bondage (multi-day): 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): 0
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 2
Brown showers (scat): no
Cages (locked inside of): 4
Caning: 2
Catheterization: no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 4
Chastity belts: 4
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 2
Clothespins body: 2
Cock worship: 5
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): no
Competitions (with other Subs): no
Corsets (wearing): 4
Cuffs: 4
Cuffs (metal): 4
Cutting: no
Dilation: no
Double penetration: 4
Electricity: 2
Enemas: no
Enforced chastity: 4
Examinations (physical): 2
Exercise (forced/required): 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no
Exhibitionism (strangers): no
Eye contact restrictions: 4
Face slapping: 4
Fantasy abandonment: 4
Fantasy rape: 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 4
Fantasy forced rape anal: 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no
Fisting (anal): 1
Fisting (vaginal): 2
Flogging: 3
Following hand signals: 3
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 0
Forced dressing: 0
Forced homosexuality: 3
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private): 5
Forced nudity (around others): no
Forced servitude: 4
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 3
Gags (penis shaped): 3
Gags (rubber): 3
Gags (tape): 4
Gates of Hell: 0
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: no
Greetings rituals: 4
Hairbrush spankings: 5
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 4
Hand jobs (receiving): 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): 0
Harnessing (leather): 3
Harnessing (rope): 3
Having food chosen for you: 4
Having clothing chosen for you: 0
Head (giving cunnilingus): 3
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): 2
Hot oils (on genitals): 2
Hot waxing: 3
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 5
Humiliation (private): 4
Humiliation (public): 4
Hypnotism: 0
Ice cubes: 4
Infantilism: no
Initiation rites: 1
Injections: 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 1
Interrogations: 1
Kidnapping: 1
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing: 2
restraints chains: 5
restraints leather: 4
restraints rope: 4
Lectures for misbehavior: 5
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 3
Manicures (giving): 0
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 5
Medical scenes: 0

Modeling for erotic photos: 3
Modeling for erotic videos: 3
Mouth bits: 3
Mummification: 0
Nipple clamps: 4
Nipple cloths pins: 4
Nipple weights: 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): 1
Over-the-knee spanking: 5
Orgasm denial: 5
Orgasm control: 5
Outdoor scenes: 2
Outdoor sex: 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no
Piercing (permanent): no
Prison scenes: 2
Pony slave: 2
Public exposure: 0
Public tasks: 1
Pussy/cock whipping: 1
Pussy worship: 1
Riding crops: 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): 2
Rituals: 1
Religious scenes: 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: 5
Rubber/latex clothing: 1
Rope body harness: 1
Saran wrapping: 1
Scratching – getting: 1
Scratching – giving: 1
Sensory deprivation: 2
Serving: 5
Serving as art: 0
Serving as ashtray: 0
Serving as furniture: 4
Serving as a maid: 5
Serving as toilet: no
Serving as waitress/waiter: 3
Serving orally (sexual): 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no
Sexual deprivation (short term): 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): 0
Shaving (body hair): 4
Shaving (head hair): no
Shaving (pubic hair): 4
Sleep deprivation: 1
Sleep-sacks: 1
Slutty clothing (private): 5
Slutty clothing (public): 2
Spanking in private: 5
Spanking in public: 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no
Spanking pleasure: 5
Spandex clothing: 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): 5
Speculums (Anal): 1
Speculums (vaginal): 1
Spreader bars: 2
Standing in corner: 3
Stocks (adjustable): 1
Stocks (fixed): 1
Straight jackets: 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): 1
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): 0
Strapping (full body beating): 2
Suspension (upright); 2
Suspension (inverted): 2
Suspension (horizontal): 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no
Swallowing semen: 4
Swallowing urine: no
Swapping (with one other couple): no
Swinging (multiple couples): no
Tattooing: 0
Teasing: 5
Tickling: 2
Triple penetration: 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no
Uniforms: 4
Including others: no
Vaginal dildo: 4
Verbal humiliation: 4
Vibrator on genitals: 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no
Video (watching others): 4
Video (recordings of you): 0
Water torture: 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: 3
Whipping: 3
Wooden paddles: 3
Wrestling: 0

and all have the * for only with a partner :)

sub84 and silver9

silver9 it hard to get much of a read without the yes/no for experienced or not. Makes a true reading almost impossible, I will say that your new to life I think and a lot of what you have here will change once you find a real Dom to train you.

sub84 I do see you as being new with little experience and yet a desire that may take you deep into the lifestyle. To you I warn that you need to be very careful with the Dom you select if he is a hardcore Dom that can't scale back to teach you will be lost from the life.

Quote:

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Originally Posted by Sir_Russell

sub84 and silver9


sub84 I do see you as being new with little experience and yet a desire that may take you deep into the lifestyle. To you I warn that you need to be very careful with the Dom you select if he is a hardcore Dom that can't scale back to teach you will be lost from the life.

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thank you for your input you are correct hat i have very little experince in this lifestyle. ive had a few boyfriends that have balked and said i was just too wierd for them because of the things i was interested in lol such is life. it seems to be proving difficult for me to find a dom at all

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: no 3
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 4
Animal roles: yes 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: yes 3
Auctioned for charity: no 3
Bathroom use control: no 2
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): yes 2
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: yes 3
Breath control: yes 2
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 3
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 4
Breast whipping: no 3
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 2
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: yes 2
Choking: yes 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: n/a
Clothespins body: yes 4
Cock worship: no 2
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no 2
Corsets (wearing): no 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no no no no
Dilation: ?
Double penetration: no 3
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: no 3
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 4
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment: no 2
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal): no 2
Fisting (vaginal): n/a
Flogging: no 2
Following hand signals: yes 3
Following orders: yes 3
Foot worship: yes 4
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 2
Gags (cloth): yes 4
Gags (penis shaped): no 4
Gags (rubber): no 4
Gags (tape): yes 4
Gates of Hell:no 1
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 3
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: yes 3
Hand jobs (giving): no 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): no 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): n/a
Head (receiving fellatio male only): yes 4
High heel worship: no 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 3
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3
Hot waxing: yes 4
Housework (doing): yes 3
Human puppy dog: yes 3
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 4
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: no 1
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 2
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): yes 4
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 4
Medical scenes: no 2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 4
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 4
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 2
Nipple clamps: yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 4
Nipple weights: yes 4
Oral/anal play (rimming):no 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 4
Orgasm denial: yes 4
Orgasm control: yes 4
Outdoor scenes: yes 3
Outdoor sex: yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 4
Piercing (permanent): no no
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no 3
Public exposure:no 4
Public tasks: yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 4
Pussy worship: yes 4
Riding crops: no 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):?
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 2
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping:yes 4
Scratching – getting: yes 3
Scratching – giving: yes 2
Sensory deprivation: yes 4
Serving: yes 4
Serving as art:no 2
Serving as ashtray:no 3
Serving as furniture: yes 3
Serving as a maid: no 3
Serving as toilet: no 3
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 3
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 3
Shaving (body hair): no 3
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks: no 1
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 3
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties:no 4
Spanking pleasure:?
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what):yes 2
Speculums (Anal): no 3
Speculums (vaginal): n/a
Spreader bars: yes 4
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 4
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 2
Suspension (upright); no 2
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 1
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: yes 3
Swapping (with one other couple): no 2
Swinging (multiple couples): no 2
Tattooing: no no no no
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: n/a
Triple penetration by 3 males: n/a
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: n/a
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 4
Water torture: no 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 2
Whipping: yes 3
Wooden paddles: yes 3
Wrestling:no 2

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: No 2
Age play: No - No
Anal sex: Yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 5
Anal plugs (large): Yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 4
Animal roles: No- No
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No - 3
Asphyxiation: Yes - 4
Auctioned for charity: No- no
Bathroom use control: No - 3
Bestiality: No - no
Beating (soft): Yes - 5
Beating (hard): Yes - 5
Blindfolds: yes -5
Being serviced (sexual): Yes - 3
Being bitten: Yes - 4
Breast/chest bondage: Yes 5
Breath control: Yes - 5
Branding: No - No
Boot worship: No - 3
Bondage (light): Yes - 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes - 5
Bondage (multi-day): No -5
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes 5
Bondage and Sex: Yes 5
Breast whipping: Yes - 5
Brown showers (scat): No - No
Cages (locked inside of): No -3
Caning: Yes - 3
Catheterization: No - No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No - 3
Chastity belts: No - 3
Chauffeuring: No - 3
Choking: Yes - 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes - 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes -5
Clothespins body: No - 3
Cock worship: No - 4
Collars (worn in private): no - 5
Competitions (with other Subs): No- No
Corsets (wearing): No - 3
Cuffs: Yes -5
Cuffs (metal): Yes -5
Cutting: Yes- 3
Dilation: No- No
Double penetration: Yes - 5
Electricity: No - 3
Enemas: No - 4
Enforced chastity: No- 3
Examinations (physical): No - 3
Exercise (forced/required): No - 2
Exhibitionism (friends): No - No
Exhibitionism (strangers): No - No
Eye contact restrictions: Yes - 5
Face slapping: Yes - 5
Fantasy abandonment: No - 3
Fantasy rape: No - 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes - 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: Yes -5
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes - 5
Fantasy gang-rape: No - 4
Fisting (anal): Yes - 4
Fisting (vaginal): Yes - 5
Flogging: Yes - 5
Following hand signals: No - 2
Following orders: Yes - 5
Foot worship: No - 3
Forced dressing: No - 3
Forced homosexuality: No - 3
Forced masturbation: Yes -5
Forced nudity (private): Yes - 5
Forced nudity (around others): No - No
Forced servitude: No- 3
Full head hoods: No - 3
Gags (cloth): Yes - 5
Gags (penis shaped): No - 5
Gags (rubber): Yes - 5
Gags (tape): Yes - 5
Gates of Hell: No - No
Genital sex: Yes - 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No -No
Given away to another Domme (temp): No - No
Given away to another Dom (perm): No - No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No -No
Golden showers: No - 3
Greetings rituals: No - 5
Hairbrush spankings: Yes - 5
Hair pulling: Yes - 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): no- No
Harnessing (leather): No - 2
Harnessing (rope): No - 2
Having food chosen for you: No - 3
Having clothing chosen for you: No -3
Head (giving cunnilingus): No - 3
Head (giving fellatio): Yes - 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes - 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: No - 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No - 3
Hot oils (on genitals): No - 4
Hot waxing: No - 3
Housework (doing): No - 3
Human puppy dog: No - 3
Humiliation (private): Yes - 5
Humiliation (public): No - No
Hypnotism: no - no
Ice cubes: Yes - 5
Infantilism: No -No
Initiation rites: No - 2
Injections: No - No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No - 2
Interrogations: No - 3
Kidnapping: No - 3
Kneeling: Yes - 5
Leather clothing: No - 2
restraints chains: Yes - 5
restraints leather: Yes -5
restraints rope: Yes - 5
Lectures for misbehavior: No - 4
Licking (non-sexual): No - 3
Manacles & Irons: No - 2
Manicures (giving): No - 1
Massage (giving): Yes - 3
Massage (receiving): Yes - 2
Medical scenes: No - 5

Modeling for erotic photos: No - No
Modeling for erotic videos: No -No
Mouth bits: No - 5
Mummification: No - 4
Nipple clamps: Yes - 5
Nipple cloths pins: Yes - 5
Nipple weights: No - 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes - 5
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes - 5
Orgasm denial: Yes - 4
Orgasm control: No - 4
Outdoor scenes: No - No
Outdoor sex: No - No
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes - 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No - NO
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No - No
Piercing (permanent): No - No
Prison scenes: No - 3
Pony slave: No -No
Public exposure: No - No
Public tasks: No -No
Pussy/cock whipping: No - 4
Pussy worship: No - 4
Riding crops: Yes - 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): Yes - 5
Rituals: No - 5
Religious scenes: No - 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: No - 4
Rubber/latex clothing: No - 3
Rope body harness: No - 3
Saran wrapping: No - 4
Scratching – getting: Yes - 5
Scratching – giving: Yes - 5
Sensory deprivation: Yes - 5
Serving: No - 4
Serving as art: No - no
Serving as ashtray: No 2
Serving as furniture: No - 2
Serving as a maid: No - 4
Serving as toilet: No - No
Serving as waitress/waiter: No - 3
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No - No
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No - no
Sexual deprivation (short term): No - No
Sexual deprivation (long term): No No
Shaving (body hair): Yes 3
Shaving (head hair): No - No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes - 4
Sleep deprivation: No - No
Sleep-sacks: No - 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes - 5
Slutty clothing (public): No and No
Spanking in private: Yes - 5
Spanking in public: no - no
Spanking in bdsm parties: no - no
Spanking pleasure: Yes - 5
Spandex clothing: No - 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 2
Speculums (Anal): No - 4
Speculums (vaginal): No - 4
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing in corner: No 5
Stocks (adjustable): No 4
Stocks (fixed): no 4
Straight jackets: no 4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 2
Strapping (full body beating): no 4
Suspension (upright); no 4
Suspension (inverted): no 4
Suspension (horizontal): no 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no 3
Swapping (with one other couple): no - no
Swinging (multiple couples): no - no
Tattooing: no- no
Teasing: yes- 5
Tickling: yes - 3
Triple penetration: no - 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: no -5
Uniforms: no -3
Including others: no - no
Vaginal dildo: yes -3
Verbal humiliation: yes - 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes - 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no - no
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no - no
Video (watching others): no - 3
Video (recordings of you): no - no
Water torture: no - 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no - 5
Whipping: yes - 5
Wooden paddles: yes - 5
Wrestling: no - 2

Lingeriebitchboy,
Please do not that this the wrong way but I have little experience with sub males. I would say though that your pretty new to the life but seem to have a willingness to expand your horizons. Since I don't know if your looking for a Dom or a Domme I am going to warn you to be careful in your selection. You need to be very open with any you are considering, show them you list and ask them to do one for you. Then talk about are they willing to train you at a pace you can handle safely.

SubbieTiedUp,
I get a strange reading from you not sure if your new with someone that asked for a lot in a short period or if your experienced but had a Dom that wasn't that creative or just knew what he liked.

You seem to be quite willing to try most things so I would say that you can become quite a good sub/slave for the right Dominant

Activity Experience Willingness Activity Experience Willingness
Abrasion y 1 Injections: N N
Age play Y 2 Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: N 5
Anal sex: Y 5 Interrogations: N 1
Anal plugs (small) Y 4 Kidnapping: N 5
Anal plugs (large) N 1 Kneeling: Y 4
Anal plugs (under clothing in public) Y 2 Leather clothing: N 5
Animal roles Y 2 Restraints chains: Y 5
Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders): N 3 Restraints leather: Y 5
Asphyxiation: Y N Restraints rope: Y 5
Auctioned for charity: N 1 Lectures for misbehavior: Y 4
Bathroom use control: Y 2 Licking (non-sexual): y 3
Bestiality: N N Manacles & Irons: Y 5
Beating (soft): Y 2 Manicures (giving): N 3
Beating (hard): N 2 Massage (giving): Y 5
Blindfolds: Y 5 Massage (receiving): Y 4
Being serviced (sexual): Y 4 Medical scenes: N 5
Being bitten: Y 3 Modeling for erotic photos: Y 4
Breast/chest bondage: Y 5 Modeling for erotic videos: Y 4
Breath control: N 1 Mouth bits: N 4
Branding: Y N Mummification: Y 5
Boot worship: N 1 Nipple clamps: Y 5
Bondage (light): Y 5 Nipple cloths pins: Y 5
Bondage (heavy): Y 5 Nipple weights: N 4
Bondage (multi-day): N 5 Oral/anal play (rimming): Y 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): Y 5 Over-the-knee spanking: Y 5
Bondage and Sex: Y 5 Orgasm denial: Y 4
Breast whipping: Y 4 Orgasm control: Y 5
Brown showers (scat): N N Outdoor scenes: Y 4
Cages (locked inside of): N 4 Outdoor sex: Y 4
Caning: Y 4 Phone sex (serving Dom): Y 4
Catheterization: N N Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): N 3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Y 1 Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): N 5
Chastity belts: Y 3 Piercing (permanent): y N
Chauffeuring: Y 3 Prison scenes: N 1
Choking: N N Pony slave: N 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: Y 4 Public exposure: Y 2
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Y 4 Public tasks: Y 3
Clothespins body: Y 3 Pussy/cock whipping: Y 4
Cock worship: Y 4 Pussy worship: N 3
Collars (worn in private): Y 5 Riding crops: Y 4
Collars (worn in public): Y 5 Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): N 4
Competitions (with other Subs): Y 3 Rituals: N 3
Corsets (wearing): Y 2 Religious scenes: N N
Cuffs: Y 5 Restrictive rules on behavior: Y 4
Cuffs: (metal) Y 5 Rubber/latex clothing: N 4
Cutting N N Rope body harness: Y 5
Dilation: N N Saran wrapping: Y 5
Double penetration: Y 5 Scratching – getting: Y 3
Electricity: Y 1 Scratching-giving Y 3
Enemas: Y 1 Sensory deprivation: N 5
Enforced chastity: N 1 Serving: Y 5
Examinations (physical): Y 4 Serving as art: N 5
Exercise (forced/required): Y 1 Serving as ashtray: N N
Exhibitionism (friends): Y 2 Serving as furniture: y 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): N 1 Serving as a maid: Y 4
Eye contact restrictions Y 1 Serving as toilet: N N
Face slapping: N N Serving as waitress/waiter: Y 5
Fantasy abandonment: N 1 Serving orally (sexual): Y 5
Fantasy rape: Y 4 Serving other Doms (supervised): N 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: Y 3 Serving other Doms (unsupervised): N 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: N 3 Sexual deprivation (short term): Y 4
Fantasy forced rape anal: Y 2 Sexual deprivation (long term): N 3
Fantasy gang-rape: N N Shaving (body hair): N 1
Fisting (anal): N N Shaving (head hair): N/A N/A
Fisting (vaginal): Y N Shaving (pubic hair): Y 2
Flogging Y 4 Spanking in private: Y 5
Following hand signals: N 3 Spanking in public: N 4
Following orders: Y 5 Spanking in bdsm party: N 5
Foot worship N 2 Spanking pleasure: Y 5
Forced dressing: Y 5 Spandex clothing: N 4
Forced homosexuality: N 1 Speech restrictions (when, what): Y 4
Forced masturbation: Y 3 Speculums (Anal): N 1
Forced nudity (private): Y 5 Speculums (Vagina): N 4
Forced nudity (around others): Y 4 Spreader bars: y 5
Forced servitude: Y 5 Standing in corner: Y 4
Full head hoods: N 5 Stocks (adjustable): y 5
Gags (cloth): Y 5 Stocks (fixed): N 5
Gags (penis shaped): Y 5 Straight jackets: N 5
Gags (rubber): Y 5 Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Y 5
Gags (tape): N 5 Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Y 5
Gates of Hell: N/A N/A Strap-on-dildos (wearing): Y 5
Genital sex: N/A N/A Strapping (full body beating): N 2
Given away to another Dom (temp): N 2 Suspension (upright); y 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): N 2 Suspension (inverted): y 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): N 2 Suspension (horizontal): y 5
Given away to another Domme (perm): N 2 Supplying new partners for Dom: N 1
Golden showers: N N Swallowing semen: Y 1
Greetings rituals: Y 4 Swallowing urine: N N
Hairbrush spankings: Y 5 Swapping (with one other couple): y 1
Hair pulling: Y 5 Swinging (multiple couples): N 1
Hand jobs (giving): Y 4 Tattooing: y N
Hand jobs (receiving): Y 4 Teasing: Y 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): Y 5 Tickling: Y 5
Harnessing (leather): N 5 Triple penetration: Y 5
Harnessing (rope): N 5 Triple penetration by 3 males: y 4
Having food chosen for you: Y 5 Uniforms: N 4
Having clothing chosen for you: Y 5 Including others: Y 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): Y 4 Vaginal dildo: Y 5
Head (giving fellatio): N N Verbal humiliation: Y 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Y 4 Vibrator on genitals: Y 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N N Voyeurism (watching others): Y 4
High heel worship: N 1 Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Y 4
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Y 1 Video (watching others): Y 3
Hot oils (on genitals): Y 4 Video (recordings of you): Y 4
Hot waxing: Y 4 Water torture: N 1
Housework (doing): Y 3 Wearing symbolic jewelry: N 4
Human puppy dog: N 3 Whipping: N 4
Humiliation (private): Y 3
Humiliation (public): Y 3
Hypnotism: N 3
Ice cubes: Y 5
Infantilism: N 1
Initiation rites: N 2

Abrasion: Yes 1
Age play: Yes 3
Anal sex: No 0
Anal plugs (small):Yes 5
Anal plugs (large): Yes 5
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 5
Animal roles: Yes 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No 5
Asphyxiation: Yes 2
Auctioned for charity: No 2
Bathroom use control: Yes 5
Bestiality: No 3
Beating (soft): Yes 5
Beating (hard): Yes 4
Blindfolds: Yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): Yes 5
Being bitten: Yes 4
Breast/chest bondage: Yes 5
Breath control: Yes 4
Branding: No 3
Boot worship: No 3
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): Yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): Yes 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): Yes 5
Bondage and Sex: Yes 5
Breast whipping: Yes 5
Brown showers (scat): No 0
Cages (locked inside of): Yes 3
Caning: No 4
Catheterization: No 2
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): Yes 5
Chastity belts: No 4
Chauffeuring: No 2
Choking: Yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes 3
Clothespins body: Yes 3
Cock worship: Yes 5
Collars (worn in private): Yes 5
Collars (worn in public): Yes 3
Competitions (with other Subs): Yes 2
Corsets (wearing): No 5
Cuffs: Yes 5
Cuffs (metal): Yes 3
Cutting: Yes 3
Dilation: No 2
Double penetration: Yes 5
Electricity: Yes 4
Enemas: Yes 3
Enforced chastity: No 4
Examinations (physical): Yes 3
Exercise (forced/required): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (friends): No (OL 4) (RL 2)
Exhibitionism (strangers): No (OL 4) (RL 1)
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 4
Face slapping: Yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: No 0
Fantasy rape: Yes No
Fantasy forced deep throat: Yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: No No
Fantasy gang-rape: No No
Fisting (anal): No 3
Fisting (vaginal): Yes 4
Flogging: Yes 5
Following hand signals: Yes 3
Following orders: Yes 5
Foot worship: Yes 2
Forced dressing: Yes 5
Forced homosexuality: No 4
Forced masturbation: Yes 5
Forced nudity (private): Yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): No 0
Forced servitude: Yes 5
Full head hoods: No 5
Gags (cloth): Yes 5
Gags (penis shaped): No 5
Gags (rubber): Yes 5
Gags (tape): Yes 5
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: Yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 4
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 4
Given away to another Dom (perm): No 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): No 0
Golden showers: Yes 1
Greetings rituals: Yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: Yes 5
Hair pulling: Yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): N/a
Harems (serving w/other subs): (RL no 3) (OL yes 4)
Harnessing (leather): No 5
Harnessing (rope): Yes 5
Having food chosen for you: Yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you: Yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: No 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals): Yes 3
Hot waxing: Yes 2
Housework (doing): Yes 1
Human puppy dog: No 2
Humiliation (private): Yes 5
Humiliation (public): Yes 3
Hypnotism: No
Ice cubes: Yes 4
Infantilism: No 4
Initiation rites: No 3
Injections: No 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: Yes 5
Interrogations: No 3
Kidnapping: No 0
Kneeling: Yes 5
Leather clothing: Yes 5
restraints chains: No 5
restraints leather: Yes 5
restraints rope: Yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: Yes 2
Licking (non-sexual): Yes 2
Manacles & Irons: No 4
Manicures (giving): No 4
Massage (giving): Yes 5
Massage (receiving): Yes 3
Medical scenes: No 4

Modeling for erotic photos: Yes No
Modeling for erotic videos: Yes No
Mouth bits: No 4
Mummification: No 4
Nipple clamps: Yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: Yes 3
Nipple weights: Yes 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes 2
Over-the-knee spanking: Yes 5
Orgasm denial: Yes 3
Orgasm control: Yes 5
Outdoor scenes: Yes 4
Outdoor sex: Yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 3
Piercing (permanent): No 2
Prison scenes: No 3
Pony slave: No 4
Public exposure: Yes 1
Public tasks: Yes 2
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 4
Pussy worship: No 4
Riding crops: No 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): Yes 3
Rituals: Yes 4
Religious scenes: No 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes 4
Rubber/latex clothing: No 5
Rope body harness: Yes 5
Saran wrapping: Yes 4
Scratching – getting: Yes 3
Scratching – giving: Yes 5
Sensory deprivation: Yes 5
Serving: Yes 4
Serving as art: No 2
Serving as ashtray: No 1
Serving as furniture: Yes 3
Serving as a maid: Yes 2
Serving as toilet: No 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: Yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes 3
Shaving (body hair): Yes 5
Shaving (head hair): No 2
Shaving (pubic hair): No 2
Sleep deprivation: Yes 2
Sleep-sacks: No 3
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): Yes 3
Spanking in private: Yes 5
Spanking in public: Yes 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: No 4
Spanking pleasure:Yes 4
Spandex clothing: Yes 3
Speech restrictions (when, what): Yes 4
Speculums (Anal): No 3
Speculums (vaginal): No 4
Spreader bars: Yes 5
Standing in corner: Yes 3
Stocks (adjustable): No 4
Stocks (fixed): No 4
Straight jackets: No 4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 3
Strapping (full body beating): Yes 3
Suspension (upright); No 4
Suspension (inverted): No 3
Suspension (horizontal): No 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 1
Swallowing semen: Yes 5
Swallowing urine: Yes 0
Swapping (with one other couple): No 2
Swinging (multiple couples): No 2
Tattooing: No 2
Teasing: Yes 3
Tickling: Yes 2
Triple penetration: Yes 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 3
Uniforms: No 4
Including others: No 2
Vaginal dildo: Yes 5
Verbal humiliation: Yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): (No RL 0) (Yes OL 3)
Video (watching others): Yes 3
Video (recordings of you): Yes 0
Water torture: Yes 4
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes 5
Whipping: Yes 4
Wooden paddles: Yes 3
Wrestling: No 3

xx

Thank You Sir Russell

Abrasion Y 1
Age play Y 2
Anal sex: Y 1
Anal plugs (small) Y 1
Anal plugs (large) N 1
Anal plugs (under clothing in public) Y 2
Animal roles N 2
Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders): N 3
Asphyxiation: Y N
Auctioned for charity: N 1
Bathroom use control: Y 2
Bestiality: N N
Beating (soft): Y 2
Beating (hard): N 2
Blindfolds: Y 5
Being serviced (sexual): N 4
Being bitten: Y 3
Breast/chest bondage: Y 5
Breath control: N 1
Branding: N N
Boot worship: N 1
Bondage (light): Y 5
Bondage (heavy): Y 5
Bondage (multi-day): N 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): Y 5
Bondage and Sex: Y 5
Breast whipping: Y 4
Brown showers (scat): N N
Cages (locked inside of): N 4
Caning: N 2
Catheterization: N N
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): N 4
Chastity belts: Y 3
Chauffeuring: Y 3
Choking: N N
Clothespins breast/nipples: Y 4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Y 4
Clothespins body: Y 3
Cock worship: Y 4
Collars (worn in private): Y 5
Collars (worn in public): Y 5
Competitions (with other Subs): Y 3
Corsets (wearing): N 2
Cuffs: Y 5
Cuffs: (metal) Y 5
Cutting N N
Dilation: N N
Double penetration: Y 5
Electricity: N 3
Enemas: Y 1
Enforced chastity: N 1
Examinations (physical): Y 4
Exercise (forced/required): Y 1
Exhibitionism (friends): Y 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): N 1
Eye contact restrictions Y 1
Face slapping: N N
Fantasy abandonment: N 1
Fantasy rape: Y 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: Y 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: N 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: Y 2
Fantasy gang-rape: N N
Fisting (anal): N N
Fisting (vaginal): Y N
Flogging Y 4
Following hand signals: N 3
Following orders: Y 5
Foot worship N 2
Forced dressing: Y 5
Forced homosexuality: N 1
Forced masturbation: Y 3
Forced nudity (private): Y 5
Forced nudity (around others): Y 4
Forced servitude: Y 5
Full head hoods: N 5
Gags (cloth): Y 5
Gags (penis shaped): Y 5
Gags (rubber): Y 5
Gags (tape): N 5
Gates of Hell: N/A N/A
Genital sex: N/A N/A
Given away to another Dom (temp): N 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): N 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): N 2
Given away to another Domme (perm): N 2
Golden showers: N N
Greetings rituals: N 2
Hairbrush spankings: Y 5
Hair pulling: Y 5
Hand jobs (giving): Y 4
Hand jobs (receiving): Y 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): Y 5
Harnessing (leather): N 5
Harnessing (rope): N 5
Having food chosen for you: Y 5
Having clothing chosen for you: Y 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): Y 4
Head (giving fellatio): N N
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only) Y 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N N
High heel worship: N 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): Y 1
Hot oils (on genitals): Y 4
Hot waxing: Y 4
Housework (doing): Y 3
Human puppy dog: N 3
Humiliation (private): Y 3
Humiliation (public): Y 3
Hypnotism: N 3
Ice cubes: Y 5
Infantilism: N 1
Initiation rites: N 2
Injections: N N
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: N 5
Interrogations: N 1
Kidnapping: N 5
Kneeling: Y 4
Leather clothing: N 5
Restraints chains: Y 5
Restraints leather: Y 5
Restraints rope: Y 5
Lectures for misbehavior: Y 4
Licking (non-sexual): N 3
Manacles & Irons: Y 5
Manicures (giving): N 3
Massage (giving): Y 5
Massage (receiving): Y 4
Medical scenes: N 5
Modeling for erotic photos: Y 4
Modeling for erotic videos: Y 4
Mouth bits: N 4
Mummification: Y 5
Nipple clamps: Y 5
Nipple cloths pins: Y 5
Nipple weights: N 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): Y 5
Over-the-knee spanking: Y 5
Orgasm denial: Y 4
Orgasm control: Y 5
Outdoor scenes: Y 4
Outdoor sex: Y 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): Y 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): N 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): N 5
Piercing (permanent): N N
Prison scenes: N 1
Pony slave: N 2
Public exposure: Y 2
Public tasks: Y 3
Pussy/cock whipping: Y 4
Pussy worship: N 3
Riding crops: Y 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): N 4
Rituals: N 3
Religious scenes: N N
Restrictive rules on behavior: Y 4
Rubber/latex clothing: N 4
Rope body harness: Y 5
Saran wrapping: Y 5
Scratching – getting: Y 3
Scratching-giving Y 3
Sensory deprivation: N 5
Serving: Y 5
Serving as art: N 5
Serving as ashtray: N N
Serving as furniture: N 3
Serving as a maid: Y 4
Serving as toilet: N N
Serving as waitress/waiter: Y 5
Serving orally (sexual): Y 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): N 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): N 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): Y 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): N 3
Shaving (body hair): N 1
Shaving (head hair): N/A N/A
Shaving (pubic hair): Y 2
Spanking in private: Y 5
Spanking in public: N 4
Spanking in bdsm party: N 5
Spanking pleasure: Y 5
Spandex clothing: N 4
Speech restrictions (when, what): Y 4
Speculums (Anal): N 1
Speculums (Vagina): N 4
Spreader bars: N 5
Standing in corner: Y 4
Stocks (adjustable): N 5
Stocks (fixed): N 5
Straight jackets: N 5
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): Y 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): Y 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): Y 5
Strapping (full body beating): N 2
Suspension (upright); N 5
Suspension (inverted): N 5
Suspension (horizontal): N 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: N 1
Swallowing semen: Y 1
Swallowing urine: N N
Swapping (with one other couple): N 1
Swinging (multiple couples): N 1
Tattooing: N N
Teasing: Y 5
Tickling: Y 5
Triple penetration: Y 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: N 4
Uniforms: N 4
Including others: Y 4
Vaginal dildo: Y 5
Verbal humiliation: Y 3
Vibrator on genitals: Y 4
Voyeurism (watching others): Y 4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): Y 4
Video (watching others): Y 3
Video (recordings of you): Y 4
Water torture: N 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: N 4
Whipping: N 4

Abrasion: no 0
Age play: no 0
Anal sex: yes 2/3
Anal plugs (small): no 2
Anal plugs (large): no no
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 2
Animal roles: no 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: no 0
Auctioned for charity: no no
Bathroom use control: no 2
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): no 1
Blindfolds: no 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 4
Being bitten: yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: no 2
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 4/5
Bondage (heavy): no 3
Bondage (multi-day): no 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 3/4
Bondage and Sex: yes 3
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 2
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 0
Choking: no 2
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3/4
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 2
Clothespins body: no 2
Cock worship: ?? I love cock
Collars (worn in private): no 4
Collars (worn in public): no 4
Competitions (with other Subs): no 1
Corsets (wearing): no 2
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal): yes 3
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 3
Electricity: no 1
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity: no2
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3
Eye contact restrictions: no 3/4
Face slapping: no 1
Fantasy abandonment: no no
Fantasy rape: no 4/5
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no no
Fantasy gang-rape: no 2
Fisting (anal) no no:
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 3
Following orders: yes 3
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: yes 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 2
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): no 4/5
Gags (penis shaped):no 4/5
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell: whats this?
Genital sex: yes 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: no 4/5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 3
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 3/4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 3
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 2
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 2
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 4
Hot waxing: no 3/4
Housework (doing): yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): yes 1
Humiliation (public): no no
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 2
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 4/5
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: yes 3
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: no 0
Licking (non-sexual): no 0
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving):no 0
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 2
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 2
Nipple clamps: no 2
Nipple cloths pins: no 3
Nipple weights: no 2
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: yes 3
Outdoor scenes: yes 4/5
Outdoor sex: yes 4/5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 4/5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 3
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): nipples maybe
Prison scenes: no 2
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 2
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: ?? I love pussy
Riding crops: mo 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no2
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping: no 2
Scratching – getting: no 1
Scratching – giving: yes 2
Sensory deprivation: no 1
Serving: yes 2
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: yes 2
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): no 1
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no 2
Slutty clothing (private): no 2
Slutty clothing (public): no 1
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 1
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 2
Spanking pleasure: yes 3
Spandex clothing:no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no no
Speculums (vaginal): no 0
Spreader bars: no 2
Standing in corner: no 1
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 4/5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no1
Suspension (inverted): no no
Suspension (horizontal): no 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 3
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 3
Tattooing: yes 3
Teasing: no 3
Tickling: no 0
Triple penetration: no 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 2
Uniforms: no 2
Including others: yes 3
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: no 0
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3/4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes 3
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): no 2
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3/4
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling: no 0

Abrasion: no 1
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: no 2
Anal plugs (small): no 2
Anal plugs (large): no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 4
Animal roles: no 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: no/ NO
Auctioned for charity: no 3
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: no 2
Beating (soft): yes 4
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no NO/1
Branding: no NO
Boot worship: no 4
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): no 3
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no NO
Cages (locked inside of): No 3
Caning: no 3
Catheterization: no 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 3
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no NO
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 0
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 1
Clothespins body: no 1
Cock worship: no 3
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 3
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: no 5
Electricity: no 2
Enemas: no 3
Enforced chastity: no 3
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): no 4
Exhibitionism (friends): no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 5
Eye contact restrictions: no 4
Face slapping: no 5
Fantasy abandonment: no 3
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 0
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 3
Fisting (anal): no 3
Fisting (vaginal): no 3
Flogging: no 2
Following hand signals: no 3
Following orders: no 4
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 4
Forced homosexuality: no 2
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): no 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 4
Forced servitude: no 5
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): no 3
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): no 3
Gates of Hell: ??
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no NO
Golden showers: no 0
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 2
Having food chosen for you: no 3
Having clothing chosen for you: no 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 0
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: no ??
Homage with tongue (on-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): no 2
Hot waxing: yes 4
Housework (doing): yes 1
Human puppy dog: no 2
Humiliation (private): no 2
Humiliation (public): no 0
Hypnotism: no 0/NO
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites:no 4
Injections: no 3
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 4
Kidnapping: no 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 3
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: no 3
restraints rope: no 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): yes 4
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 3

Modeling for erotic photos: no 4
Modeling for erotic videos: no 3
Mouth bits: yes 4
Mummification: no 1
Nipple clamps: no 1
Nipple cloths pins: no 1
Nipple weights: no 1
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 0
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 4
Orgasm control: yes 4
Outdoor scenes: no 3
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 4
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no NO
Piercing (permanent): no NO
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no 4
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 1
Pussy/cock whipping: no 3
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: no 3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): whats that?
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 4
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping: no 2
Scratching – getting: no 0
Scratching – giving: yes 4
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving: yes 4
Serving as art: no 5
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 1
Serving as a maid: yes 4
Serving as toilet: no NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 0
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 4
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 5
Shaving (body hair): yes 5
Shaving (head hair): no NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 3
Sleep-sacks: no 2
Slutty clothing (private): no 2
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 3
Spandex clothing: yes 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 4
Speculums (vaginal): yes 3
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 3
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 4
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 4
Tattooing: no 0
Teasing: yes 4
Tickling: yes 0
Triple penetration: no 2
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 2
Uniforms: yes 3
Including others: no 2
Vaginal dildo: na
Verbal humiliation: no 2
Vibrator on genitals: yes 2
Voyeurism (watching others): no 5
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): no 3
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling: yes 2

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

I’m looking for a Master, so I thought I should do this.
Very unlikely to have casual play-partners
As you can see I am inexperienced. Most of my experience is self-inflicted or with an on-line Dom.
I also know I am not slave material.
I’ve used 3 as I am not sure, but would like to try it

Abrasion: no-2
Age play: yes-2
Anal sex: no-3
Anal plugs (small): yes-4
Anal plugs (large): no-3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no-4
Animal roles: no-2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no-2
Asphyxiation: no-2
Auctioned for charity: no-3
Bathroom use control: yes-3
Bestiality: no-3
Beating (soft): yes-5
Beating (hard): no-3
Blindfolds: yes-5
Being serviced (sexual): no-2
Being bitten: no-4 (if no skin broken)
Breast/chest bondage: yes-4
Breath control: no-2
Branding: no-2
Boot worship: no-1
Bondage (light): yes-5
Bondage (heavy): no-3
Bondage (multi-day): no-3
Bondage (public, under clothing): no-4
Bondage and Sex: no-5
Breast whipping: yes-4
Brown showers (scat): no-No
Cages (locked inside of):no-3
Caning: no-3
Catheterization: no-3
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no-3
Chastity belts: no-3
Chauffeuring: no-3
Choking: no-2
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes-3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no-3
Clothespins body: no-3
Cock worship: no-3
Collars (worn in private): yes-5
Collars (worn in public): no-2
Competitions (with other Subs): no-2
Corsets (wearing): no-3
Cuffs: no-5
Cuffs (metal): no-3
Cutting: no-2
Dilation: no-3
Double penetration: yes (with dildos)-4
Electricity: no-3
Enemas: yes-2
Enforced chastity: no-2
Examinations (physical): no-4
Exercise (forced/required): yes-1
Exhibitionism (friends): no-4
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes(headless photos)-3
Eye contact restrictions: no-4
Face slapping: no-1
Fantasy abandonment: no-No
Fantasy rape: no-4
Fantasy forced deep throat: no-3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no-2
Fantasy forced rape anal: no-2
Fantasy gang-rape: no-3
Fisting (anal): no-3
Fisting (vaginal): no-3
Flogging: no-4/5
Following hand signals: no-2
Following orders: yes-5
Foot worship: no-2
Forced dressing: yes-3
Forced homosexuality: no-2
Forced masturbation: yes-5
Forced nudity (private): yes-5
Forced nudity (around others): no-4
Forced servitude: no-No
Full head hoods: no-2
Gags (cloth): no-2 hurts jaw
Gags (penis shaped): no-2 hurts jaw
Gags (rubber): no-2 hurts jaw
Gags (tape): yes-4
Gates of Hell: no-
Genital sex: yes-5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no-3
Given away to another Domme (temp): no-2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no-No
Given away to another Domme (perm): no-No
Golden showers: no-2
Greetings rituals: no-3
Hairbrush spankings: no-3
Hair pulling: no-2
Hand jobs (giving): yes-4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes-4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no-No
Harnessing (leather): no-3
Harnessing (rope): no-3
Having food chosen for you: no-3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes-4
Head (giving cunnilingus): no-2
Head (giving fellatio): no-3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes-3
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: no-1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no-2
Hot oils (on genitals): no-3
Hot waxing: yes-4
Housework (doing): yes-2 sorry I am lazy
Human puppy dog: no-1
Humiliation (private): yes-4 embarassent not degradation
Humiliation (public): no-4 embarassent not degradation
Hypnotism: no-2
Ice cubes: yes-4
Infantilism: no-1
Initiation rites: no-4
Injections: yes (insulin)-4
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no-2
Interrogations: no-2
Kidnapping: no-4
Kneeling: no-(would like to, but I don’t think y knees can take it)
Leather clothing: no-3
restraints chains: no-5
restraints leather: no-5
restraints rope: yes-5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes-3
Licking (non-sexual): no-3
Manacles & Irons: no-4
Manicures (giving): no-2
Massage (giving): yes-5
Massage (receiving): yes-5
Medical scenes: no-4

Modeling for erotic photos: yes(headless)-3
Modeling for erotic videos: no-3
Mouth bits: no-2
Mummification: no-3
Nipple clamps: yes-4
Nipple cloths pins: yes-2
Nipple weights: no-3
Oral/anal play (rimming): no-1
Over-the-knee spanking: no-3
Orgasm denial: yes-4
Orgasm control: yes-4
Outdoor scenes: no-5
Outdoor sex: no-5
Phone sex (serving Dom): no-2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no-2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): yes-4
Piercing (permanent): yes (ears)-5
Prison scenes: no-4
Pony slave: no-2
Public exposure: no-4 (to a consenting audiance)
Public tasks: yes-3
Pussy/cock whipping: no-4
Pussy worship: no-2
Riding crops: no-3
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no-3
Rituals: no-4
Religious scenes: no-4
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes-4
Rubber/latex clothing: no-2
Rope body harness: no-3
Saran wrapping: no-3
Scratching – getting: no-2
Scratching – giving: no-2
Sensory deprivation: no-3
Serving: no-1
Serving as art: no-2
Serving as ashtray: no-No
Serving as furniture: no-1
Serving as a maid: no-1
Serving as toilet: no-No
Serving as waitress/waiter: no-2
Serving orally (sexual): no-1
Serving other Doms (supervised): no-2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no-1
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes-3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no-2
Shaving (body hair): yes-2 (I have very little body hair)
Shaving (head hair): no-1
Shaving (pubic hair): no-2
Sleep deprivation: no-1 (I have sleep disorders, i don’t need to get it more screwed up)
Sleep-sacks: no-2
Slutty clothing (private): no-4
Slutty clothing (public): no-3
Spanking in private: no-4
Spanking in public: no-2
Spanking in bdsm parties: no-3
Spanking pleasure: no-4
Spandex clothing: no-3
Speech restrictions (when, what): no-4
Speculums (Anal): no-3
Speculums (vaginal): no-3
Spreader bars: no-3
Standing in corner: yes-3
Stocks (adjustable): no-3
Stocks (fixed): no-2
Straight jackets: no-4
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no-2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no-3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no-3
Strapping (full body beating): no-3
Suspension (upright); no-1 (I think I a too fat for safety)
Suspension (inverted): no-No (I think I a too fat for safety)
Suspension (horizontal): no-1 (I think I a too fat for safety)
Supplying new partners for Dom: no-No
Swallowing semen: no-3
Swallowing urine: yes-No
Swapping (with one other couple): no-No
Swinging (multiple couples): no-No
Tattooing: no-2
Teasing: yes-4
Tickling: no-3
Triple penetration: no-3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no-3
Uniforms: no-2
Including others: no-2
Vaginal dildo: yes-4
Verbal humiliation: no-No
Vibrator on genitals: yes-4
Voyeurism (watching others): no-2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no-1
Video (watching others): yes-2
Video (recordings of you): no-3
Water torture: no-3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no-4
Whipping: no-3
Wooden paddles: no-3
Wrestling: no-3 (with Dom, not with others)


Thank-you very much Sir_Russell for doing this for us.

This is done by request, I hope he doesn't mind my answers. I know how inexperienced I am...


Abrasion: no 2
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: no 1
Anal plugs (small): no 2
Anal plugs (large): no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes):no 2
Animal roles: NO
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 2
Asphyxiation: yes 2
Auctioned for charity: NO
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: NO
Beating (soft): no 3
Beating (hard): no 1
Blindfolds: no 4
Being serviced (sexual): yes 4
Being bitten: no 4
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no 1
Branding: no 1
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): no 4
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 1
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 3
Bondage and Sex: no 4
Breast whipping: no 3
Brown showers (scat): NO
Cages (locked inside of): no 4
Caning: no 2
Catheterization: NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 3
Chastity belts: no 1
Chauffeuring: no 1
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 3
Clothespins body: yes 3
Cock worship: no 3
Collars (worn in private): no 3
Collars (worn in public): no 1
Competitions (with other Subs):no 2
Corsets (wearing): no 2
Cuffs: no 4
Cuffs (metal): no 4
Cutting: no 1
Dilation: (no idea what this is)
Double penetration: no 4
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: NO
Enforced chastity: no 1
Examinations (physical): no 3
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 3
Eye contact restrictions: no 2
Face slapping: no 2
Fantasy abandonment: no 3
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 2
Fantasy gang-rape: no 4
Fisting (anal): NO
Fisting (vaginal): no 1
Flogging: no 3
Following hand signals: no 2
Following orders: no 4
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: no 3
Forced nudity (private): no 3
Forced nudity (around others): no 1
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 1
Gags (cloth): no 4
Gags (penis shaped): no 3
Gags (rubber): no 3
Gags (tape): no 4
Gates of Hell: (don’t know what this is)
Genital sex: no 4
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 2
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 2
Golden showers: NO
Greetings rituals: no 2
Hairbrush spankings: no 3
Hair pulling: no 3
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 4
Having food chosen for you: no 2
Having clothing chosen for you: no 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 2
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 2
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): no3
Hot waxing: yes 4
Housework (doing): no 2
Human puppy dog: no 1
Humiliation (private): no 3
Humiliation (public): no 2
Hypnotism: no 2
Ice cubes: yes 3
Infantilism: NO
Initiation rites: no 1
Injections: NO
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 3
Interrogations: no 2
Kidnapping: no 3
Kneeling: no 3
Leather clothing: no 3
restraints chains: no 3
restraints leather: no 3
restraints rope: yes 4
Lectures for misbehavior: no 3
Licking (non-sexual): no 2
Manacles & Irons: no 3
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): no 2
Massage (receiving): no 2
Medical scenes: no 2
Modeling for erotic photos: no 3
Modeling for erotic videos: NO
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 2
Nipple clamps: no 3
Nipple cloths pins: yes 3
Nipple weights: no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 1
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: yes 3
Orgasm control: no 3
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex: no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 1
Piercing (permanent): NO
Prison scenes: no 3
Pony slave: no 1
Public exposure: no 1
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: no 2
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: no 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 2
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 2
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: no 3
Scratching – giving: no 2
Sensory deprivation: no 3
Serving: no 3
Serving as art: no 2
Serving as ashtray: no 2
Serving as furniture: no 2
Serving as a maid: no 2
Serving as toilet: NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 2
Serving orally (sexual): no 3
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 2
Shaving (body hair): no 1
Shaving (head hair): NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: no 1
Sleep-sacks: NO
Slutty clothing (private): yes 4
Slutty clothing (public): no 1
Spanking in private: no 3
Spanking in public: NO
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 2
Spanking pleasure: no 2
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 2
Speculums (Anal): NO
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 3
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 2
Stocks (fixed): no 2
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 1
Suspension (upright); no 3
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 3
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 2
Swallowing semen: yes 3
Swallowing urine: NO
Swapping (with one other couple): no 1
Swinging (multiple couples): no 1
Tattooing: NO
Teasing: no 3
Tickling: no 3
Triple penetration: no 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 3
Uniforms: no 3
Including others: no 3
Vaginal dildo: no 3
Verbal humiliation: no 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 3
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): no 1
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 2
Whipping: no 3
Wooden paddles: no 3
Wrestling: no 2

^___^ I’m so new to all this it’s a wonder than not every item had a ‘no’ beside it. But, it seems quite interesting so here’s my two cents.

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: no 1
Anal sex: yes 4
Anal plugs (small): yes 3
Anal plugs (large): no probably 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 3
Animal roles: no 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): yes 2
Asphyxiation: no 0
Auctioned for charity: yes 2
Bathroom use control: no 1
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): yes 3
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: yes 2
Being serviced (sexual): yes 3
Being bitten: can’t remember -__-;; 3
Breast/chest bondage: no 2
Breath control: no 1
Branding: no NO. I might change to 2 if it’s with someone I would spend the rest of my life with.
Boot worship: no 2
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 2
Bondage (multi-day): no 2
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 3
Bondage and Sex: yes 3
Breast whipping: no 2
Brown showers (scat): no NO
Cages (locked inside of): no 2
Caning: no 4
Catheterization: Don’t know what this is, so no.
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 3
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 1
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 2
Clothespins body: no 2
Cock worship: yes 3
Collars (worn in private): no 2
Collars (worn in public): no 2
Competitions (with other Subs :no 2
Corsets (wearing): :no 2
Cuffs: yes 3
Cuffs (metal): yes 3
Cutting: :no 1
Dilation: :Can’t remember what this is. -__-;;
Double penetration: :no 0
Electricity: :no 1
Enemas: :no 0
Enforced chastity: :no 3
Examinations (physical): :no 2
Exercise (forced/required): :no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): :no 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): :no 1
Eye contact restrictions: :no 2
Face slapping: :no 2
Fantasy abandonment: :no 0 – childhood fear, it depends on what level this is carried out
Fantasy rape: :no 2
Fantasy forced deep throat: :no 2 (I can’t understand the ‘forced’ part)
Fantasy forced cunt licking: :no 2
Fantasy forced rape anal: :no 2
Fantasy gang-rape: :no 2
Fisting (anal): :no 1
Fisting (vaginal): :no 2
Flogging: yes 4
Following hand signals: :no 3
Following orders: yes 4
Foot worship: :no 2
Forced dressing: yes 3
Forced homosexuality: :no (I’m bi. No forced there. Lol)
Forced masturbation: yes 3
Forced nudity (private): yes 3
Forced nudity (around others): :no 1
Forced servitude: yes 3
Full head hoods: :no 0
Gags (cloth): yes 3
Gags (penis shaped): :no 2 (is it terribly different from any other type of gags?)
Gags (rubber): :no 2
Gags (tape): yes 3
Gates of Hell: :no 2
Genital sex: :no 2
Given away to another Dom (temp): :no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes 2
Given away to another Dom (perm): :no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): :no 0
Golden showers: :no NO
Greetings rituals: :no 3
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 3
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): :no 3
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 2
Harnessing (leather): :no 3
Harnessing (rope): :no 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): :yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: :no 2
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): :no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): :no 2
Hot waxing: :no 2
Housework (doing): yes 2
Human puppy dog: :no 1
Humiliation (private): :no 2-3 depends on the person
Humiliation (public): :no 1
Hypnotism: :no (Don’t know what this is, really. Lol)
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: :no 1
Initiation rites: :no 2
Injections: :no (Depends on what, might range from NO – 2)
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 4
Interrogations: yes 4
Kidnapping: :no 3
Kneeling: yes 3
Leather clothing: yes 3
restraints chains: :no 3
restraints leather: yes 3
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: yes 3
Manicures (giving): yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): no (everyone I’ve met till now didn’t know how to give massages so I don’t know. Probably 3-4)
Medical scenes: no 1 – depends. I have some bad memories of hospitals.

Modeling for erotic photos: :no NO
Modeling for erotic videos: :no NO
Mouth bits: :no 2
Mummification: :no (Don’t know what this entails)
Nipple clamps: :no 3
Nipple cloths pins: :no 3
Nipple weights: :no 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): :no 3
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 4
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: :no4
Outdoor sex: :no 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): :no 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): :no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): :no 2
Piercing (permanent): :no 2
Prison scenes: :no 2
Pony slave: :no 2
Public exposure: :no 1
Public tasks: :no 3
Pussy/cock whipping: :no 2
Pussy worship: :no 2
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" : No idea what this is
Rituals: :no 4
Religious scenes: :no 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: :no 4
Rubber/latex clothing: :no 2 – 3
Rope body harness: :no 3
Saran wrapping: :no 3
Scratching – getting: :no 3
Scratching – giving: :no (I sometimes do so unintentionally so I’m not quite sure what this falls under)
Sensory deprivation: :no 3
Serving: :no 4
Serving as art: :no 4
Serving as ashtray: :no 2
Serving as furniture: :no 2
Serving as a maid: :no 3
Serving as toilet: :no NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: :yes 3
Serving orally (sexual): :yes 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): :no 2
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): :yes 2
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 4
Sexual deprivation (long term): :no 2
Shaving (body hair): :no 2 (I’m asian, not much to shave. Lol)
Shaving (head hair): :no 2
Shaving (pubic hair): :no 0
Sleep deprivation: :no 2
Sleep-sacks: :no No idea what this is.
Slutty clothing (private): :no 3
Slutty clothing (public): :no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: :no 4
Spanking in bdsm parties: :no 5
Spanking pleasure:yes 5
Spandex clothing: :no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 3
Speculums (Anal): :no 3
Speculums (vaginal): :no 3
Spreader bars: :no 3
Standing in corner: yes 3
Stocks (adjustable): :no 2
Stocks (fixed): :no 2
Straight jackets: :no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): :no 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): :no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): :no 2
Strapping (full body beating): :no 2
Suspension (upright); :no 2
Suspension (inverted): :no 2
Suspension (horizontal): :no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: :no 2
Swallowing semen: yes 2
Swallowing urine: :no NO
Swapping (with one other couple): :no 1
Swinging (multiple couples): :no 1
Tattooing: :no 1-2 (depends on what and where it is)
Teasing: yes 2
Tickling: yes 2
Triple penetration: :no 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: :no 1
Uniforms: :no 2
Including others: :no 2
Vaginal dildo: :no 2
Verbal humiliation: :no 1 - 2 (After a certain time, I tend to get irrationally angry. So, lol, it depends.)
Vibrator on genitals: :no 2
Voyeurism (watching others): :no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): :no 1
Video (watching others): :no 1 (What’s the point?)
Video (recordings of you): :no (There would be no recordings.)
Water torture: :no 1
Wearing symbolic jewelry: :no 3
Whipping: :no 4
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: :no (Not quite sure what this involves)

Abrasion: yes 3
Age play: NO
Anal sex: Yes 5
Anal plugs (small): yes 4
Anal plugs (large): yes 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 4
Animal roles: yes 3
Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders): yes 4
Asphyxiation: NO
Auctioned for charity: no 1
Bathroom use control: yes 4
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): No No
Blindfolds: YES 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: yes 4
Breath control: no no
Branding: no 3
Boot worship: yes 3
Bondage (light): Yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no no
Bondage (public, under clothing): yes 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: no 1
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 1
Caning: no 1
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no no
Chastity belts: yes 4
Chauffeuring: yes 4
Choking: no no
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 4
Clothespins labia/clit: yes 2
Clothespins body: yes 2
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 3 (if they are classy or subtle)
Competitions (with other Subs): yes 1
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: yes 4
Double penetration: yes 4
Electricity: yes 4
Enemas: no 1
Enforced chastity: yes 2
Examinations (physical): no 1
Exercise (forced/required): yes 3
Exhibitionism (friends): yes 1
Exhibitionism (strangers): yes 1
Eye contact restrictions: yes 4 (haven’t done am curious)
Face slapping: yes
Fantasy abandonment: yes 1
Fantasy rape: yes 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 4
Fantasy forced cunt licking: yes 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: yes 4
Fantasy gang-rape: no no
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): no no
Following hand signals by sub/slave: n/a
Following orders by sub/slave: n/a
Foot worship: yes 3
Forced dressing of sub: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: yes 3
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): yes 1
Forced servitude of sub: yes 5
Full head hoods: yes 4
Gags (cloth): yes 4
Gags (penis shaped): yes 4
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): yes 2
Gates of Hell: n/a
Genital sex: yes 5
Given sub away to another Dom (temp): no no
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given sub away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: yes 4
Hairbrush spankings: yes 4
Hair pulling: Yes 4
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): yes 1
Harnessing (leather): yes 4
Harnessing (rope): yes 3
Having food chosen for sub: yes 4
Having clothing chosen for sub: yes 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): n/a
High heel worship: yes 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): yes 3
Hot oils (on genitals of sub): yes 3
Hot waxing of sub: yes 4
Housework (sub doing): yes 5
Human puppy dog: Yes 1
Humiliation (private): yes 1
Humiliation (public): no1
Hypnotism: yes 5
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: yes 5
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: yes 3
Interrogations: yes 2
Kidnapping sub: yes 1
Kneeling sub: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 5
restraints chains: yes 4
restraints leather: yes 4
restraints rope: yes 3
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: yes 5
Manicures (giving): yes 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 1
Modeling for Dom’s erotic photos: yes 5
Mouth bits: yes 4
Mummification: yes 4
Nipple clamps: yes 4
Nipple cloths pins: yes 1
Nipple weights: yes 3
Oral/anal play by sub (rimming): yes 4
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: no (I like orgasm delay not denial)
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no no
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no no
Piercing (permanent): yes 4
Prison scenes yes 3
Pony slave: yes 3
Public exposure: yes 3
Public tasks: yes 4
Pussy spanking: yes 5
Pussy whipping: no no
Pussy worship: yes 1
Riding crops: yes 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no no
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: no no
Restrictive rules on sub behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: yes 2
Rope body harness: yes 3
Saran wrapping: yes 2
Scratching – getting: yes 2
Scratching – giving: yes 3
Sensory deprivation: yes 5
Serving by sub: yes 5
Serving as sub art: yes 3
Serving as sub ashtray: no no
Serving as sub furniture: yes 2
Serving as a sub maid: yes 3
Serving as sub toilet: no no
Serving as sub waitress/waiter: yes 3
Serving orally by sub (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no no
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no no
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 1
Sexual deprivation (long term): no (please no)
Shaving (body hair): yes 4
Shaving (head hair): no 1
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: yes 2
Sleep-sacks: yes 3
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): yes 1
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: yes 2
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 1
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: yes 4
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 4
Speculums (Anal): yes 3
Speculums (vaginal): yes 3
Spreader bars: yes 5
Standing sub in corner: yes 4
Stocks (adjustable): yes 4
Stocks (fixed): yes 4
Straight jackets: no 1
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): yes 4
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): yes 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): yes 1 if used on another female sub
Strapping (full body beating): yes 1
Suspension (upright); yes 5
Suspension (inverted): yes 5
Suspension (horizontal): yes 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 1
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): yes 1
Swinging (multiple couples): yes 1
Tattooing of sub for ownership purposes: yes 3
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 3 reserve
Triple penetration of sub: yes 2
Triple penetration of sub by 3 males: no no
Uniforms: yes 4
Including others: no no
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: no 1
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no no
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of sub): yes 4
Water torture: no no
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping no no
Wooden paddles: yes 4
Wrestling: yes 4

Sir Russell

I've completed the questionnaire and would appreciate your feedback. As you will see I have little real life experience, but I am going to my first munch this evening and wanted to capture my baseline....maybe one day I'll be able to look back on this and smile. I do expect it to change.

I've tried to distinguish ratings between an activity I receive and the same activity I would give to my sub. eg Clothespins - I would rate on myself as 3 but as a 5 if I were placing them on my sub.

I've answered from a Dom's perspective.

I will send you my subs answers tomorrow.

Thanks,
Sardis

Abrasion: NO 2
Age play: NO 2
Anal sex: YES 5
Anal plugs (small): NO 3 ....but 4 if for my sub
Anal plugs (large): NO 3 ....but 4 if for my sub
Anal plug (public, under clothes): NO 4 if for my sub
Animal roles: NO 1
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): NO 3 but 5 if for my sub
Asphyxiation: NO 3 could go either way on this
Auctioned for charity: NO 1
Bathroom use control: NO 1
Bestiality: NO No...but 3 if for voyeurism
Beating (soft): yes 1 but 4 if for my sub
Beating (hard): NO but 4 if for my sub
Blindfolds: YES 4
Being serviced (sexual): YES 5
Being bitten: NO 3
Breast/chest bondage: NO 2
Breath control: NO 3
Branding: NO 1
Boot worship: NO 1
Bondage (light): YES 3 but 5 if for my sub
Bondage (heavy): NO 2 but 5 if for my sub
Bondage (multi-day): NO 2 3 for my sub
Bondage (public, under clothing): No 1 ...but 4 if for my sub
Breast whipping: no ....but 5 if for my sub
Brown showers (scat): NO NO
Cages (locked inside of): NO 2... 4 if for my sub
Caning: NO 2...if 5 for my sub
Catheterization: NO 1
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): NO 2
Chastity belts: NO 2
Chauffeuring: NO 1
Choking: NO 1
Clothespins: Yes 3 but 5 if for my sub
Cock worship: NO n/a
Collars (worn in private): NO 2 but 5 if on my sub
Collars (worn in public): NO 2 but 5 if on my sub
Competitions (with other Subs): NO 3
Corsets (wearing): NO 1 but 4 if on my sub
Cuffs: NO 2 but 4 if on my sub
Cuffs (metal): NO 2 but 4 if on my sub
Cutting: NO 2 if my sub needed it
Dilation: NO 3
Double penetration: NO 4
Electricity: NO 1
Enemas: NO 0
Enforced chastity: NO 1 ..but 4 if on my sub
Examinations (physical): NO 3
Exercise (forced/required): NO 2
Exhibitionism (friends): NO 2
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO 2
Eye contact restrictions: yes 2.. but 5 if for my sub
Face slapping: NO 2... 4 if on my sub
Fantasy abandonment: NO 1.... 4 on my sub
Fantasy rape: NO 0 ... 4 if on my sub
Fantasy gang-rape: NO 4 if on my sub
Fisting (anal): NO 2
Fisting (vaginal): NO 3
Following orders: NO 1 ..5 if for my sub
Foot worship: NO 2
Forced dressing: NO 2.. 4 for my sub
Forced homosexuality: NO 0
Forced masturbation: NO 3.. 5 for my sub
Forced nudity (private): NO 2 3 for my sub
Forced nudity (around others): NO 2 4 for my sub
Forced servitude: NO 2... 5 for my sub
Full head hoods: NO 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (cloth): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (rubber): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gags (tape): No 2 4 if on my sub
Gates of Hell (male) N/A
Genital sex: YES 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): n/a 3 for my sub
Given away to another Dom (perm): NO NO
Golden showers: NO 1
Hairbrush spankings: YES 5 if on my sub
Hair pulling: NO 3 if on my sub
Hand jobs (giving): YES 4
Hand jobs (receiving): YES 5
Harems (serving w/other subs): n/a but 4 if for my sub
Harnessing (leather): NO 4 if for my sub
Harnessing (rope): NO 4 if for my sub
Having food chosen for you: NO 2...3 for my sub
Having clothing chosen for you: NO 3 4 for my sub
Head (giving fellatio): N/A
Head (receiving fellatio)for males only YES 5
High heel worship: N/A
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): NO 3...
Hot oils (on genitals): NO 3
Hot waxing: NO 3
Housework (doing): NO 1
Human puppy dog: NO 0
Humiliation (private): NO 1
Humiliation (public): NO 1
Hypnotism: Yes 3...not sure this works on me...would like to try on my sub
Ice cubes: yes 4
Infantilism: NO 1
Initiation rites: NO 3 4 if for my sub
Injections: NO 1
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: NO 3
Interrogations: NO 2
Kidnapping: NO 1
Kneeling: Yes 2.. 5 if for my sub
Leather clothing: NO 3
restraints: Yes 5 if on my sub
Lectures for misbehavior: NO 3 if on my sub
Licking (non-sexual): yes 3
Manacles & Irons: NO 4 if for my sub
Manicures (giving): NO 1
Massage (giving): YES 4
Massage (receiving): YES 4
Medical scenes: NO 1
Modeling for erotic photos: NO 3...
Mouth bits: NO 1...4 for my sub
Mummification: NO 1
Nipple clamps: Yes 5 if on my sub
Nipple weights: NO 4 if on my sub
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: YES 5 if my sub is over my knee
Orgasm denial: Yes 2...4 for my sub
Orgasm control: Yes 2...5 for my sub
Outdoor scenes: NO 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): Yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): NO 3 if for for my sub
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): NO 2
Piercing (permanent): NO 2
Prison scenes NO 1
Pony slave: NO 3 if pony is my sub
Public exposure: NO 2
Pussy/cock whipping: Yes 4
Pussy worship: No 1
Riding crops: Yes 5 if on my sub
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): NO 3
Rituals: NO 4
Religious scenes: NO 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: Yes 5 for my sub
Rubber/latex clothing: NO 3
Rope body harness: NO 3 for my sub
Saran wrapping: NO 2
Scratching – getting: NO 2
Scratching – giving: NO 2
Sensory deprivation: Yes 2 ....5 if on my sub
Serving: NO 4 if from my sub (as for all serving)
Serving as art: NO 3
Serving as ashtray: NO 1
Serving as furniture: NO 1
Serving as a maid: NO 4
Serving as toilet: NO 1
Serving as waitress/waiter: NO 4
Serving orally (sexual): YES 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): NO 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): NO 1
Sexual deprivation (short term): NO 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): NO 1
Shaving (body hair): Yes 4
Shaving (head hair): NO 1
Sleep deprivation: NO 1
Sleepsacks: NO 1
Slutty clothing (private): Yes 4 for my sub
Slutty clothing (public): NO 3 for my sub
Spanking: YES 5 giving to my sub
Spandex clothing: NO 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): NO 5 if for my sub
Speculums (Anal): NO 1 .... 3 for my sub
Speculums (vaginal): NO 3
Spreader bars: NO 1...5 for my sub
Standing in corner: NO 4
Stocks (adjustable): NO 4 for my sub
Straight jackets: NO 1....3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): N/A...3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): NO 3 for my sub
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): NO 1 3 for my sub
Strapping (full body beating): NO 0... 3 for my sub
Suspension (upright); NO 1 3 for my sub
Suspension (inverted): NO 1 3 for my sub
Suspension (horizontal): NO 1 3 for my sub
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 3 if sub providing
Swallowing semen: NO 1..5 for my sub
Swallowing urine: NO 1
Swapping (with one other couple): NO 2
Swinging (multiple couples): NO 2
Tattooing: NO 3
Teasing: NO 2
Tickling: NO 1
Triple penetration: NO 3 for my sub
Uniforms: NO 3
Including others: NO 3
Vaginal dildo: N/A
Verbal humiliation: NO 0
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 4
Voyeurism (watching others): NO 3
Voyeurism (your slave w/others): NO 3
Video (watching others): Yes 4
Video (recordings of you): NO 3
Water torture: NO 2
Wearing symbolic jewelry: Yes 4
Whipping Yes 1 4 if on my sub
Wooden paddles: Yes 2 5 if on my sub
Wrestling: NO 2

Sir Russell

My sub has problems registering... MissLindyLoo's response will be submitted soon

Sardis

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Originally Posted by Sir_Russell

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 0 written by sub

Age play:no 3

Anal sex:yes 2
Anal plugs (small):no 2
Anal plugs (large):no 1
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 2
Animal roles: no not sure what animal role is
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 0
Asphyxiation:no 0
Auctioned for charity: no 0
Bathroom use control: no 0
Bestiality: no 1
Beating (soft): no 1
Beating (hard): no 0
Blindfolds: yes 4
Being serviced (sexual): no 1
Being bitten: no 0
Breast/chest bondage: no 1
Breath control: no 0
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: no 0
Bondage (light): yes 3
Bondage (heavy): no 1
Bondage (multi-day): no 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 1
Bondage and Sex: yes 2
Breast whipping: no 1
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 0
Caning: no 0
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 0
Chastity belts: no 0
Chauffeuring: no 0
Choking: no 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: no 0
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 0
Clothespins body: no 0
Cock worship: no 1
Collars (worn in private): yes 3
Collars (worn in public): yes 3
Competitions (with other Subs): no 0
Corsets (wearing): yes 2
Cuffs: no 2
Cuffs (metal): no 0
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: yes 2
Electricity: no 0
Enemas: no 0
Enforced chastity: no 0
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 1
Exhibitionism (friends): no 0
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 0
Eye contact restrictions: no 0
Face slapping: no 0
Fantasy abandonment: no 1
Fantasy rape: no 1
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 0
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 1
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 0
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: yes 2
Following hand signals: no 1
Following orders: yes 2
Foot worship: no 0
Forced dressing: no 2
Forced homosexuality: no 0
Forced masturbation: no 2
Forced nudity (private): yes 2
Forced nudity (around others): no 0
Forced servitude: no 1
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): no 1
Gags (penis shaped):no 0
Gags (rubber): yes 1
Gags (tape): no 0
Gates of Hell:no 0
Genital sex: yes 3
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 0
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no 1
Greetings rituals: no 3
Hairbrush spankings: no 1
Hair pulling: no 2
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving): na
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 2
Harnessing (rope): no 1
Having food chosen for you: no 3
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 0
Head (giving fellatio): no 0
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): no 2
Head (receiving fellatio male only): na
High heel worship: no 0
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 0
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 2
Hot waxing: no 2
Housework (doing):yes 3
Human puppy dog: no 0
Humiliation (private): no 0
Humiliation (public): no 0
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 2
Infantilism: no 0
Initiation rites: no 0
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 2
Interrogations: no 0
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: no 0
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 0
restraints leather: no 0
restraints rope: no 0
Lectures for misbehavior: no 1
Licking (non-sexual): no 0
Manacles & Irons: no 0
Manicures (giving): yes 2
Massage (giving): yes 2
Massage (receiving): yes 3
Medical scenes: no 0

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos: yes 2
Mouth bits: no 2
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 2
Nipple cloths pins: no 2
Nipple weights: no 0
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 1
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 3
Orgasm denial: no 2
Orgasm control: yes 2
Outdoor scenes: no 0
Outdoor sex: yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 0
Pony slave: no 0
Public exposure: no,,,0
Public tasks: no 0
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 2
Pussy worship: no 0
Riding crops: no 2
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 0
Rituals: no 2
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 3
Rubber/latex clothing: no 0
Rope body harness: no 0
Saran wrapping:no 0
Scratching – getting: no 0
Scratching – giving: no 0
Sensory deprivation: no 0
Serving: no 2
Serving as art: no 0
Serving as ashtray: no 0
Serving as furniture: no 0
Serving as a maid: yes 2
Serving as toilet: no 0
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 2
Serving orally (sexual): yes 2
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 0
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 0
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 4
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): no 2
Slutty clothing (public): no 0
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 0
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 0
Spanking pleasure:yes 3
Spandex clothing: no 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): no
Speculums (Anal): no 0
Speculums (vaginal): no 0
Spreader bars: no 0
Standing in corner: no 2
Stocks (adjustable): no 0
Stocks (fixed): no 0
Straight jackets: no 0
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 0
Strapping (full body beating): no 0
Suspension (upright); no 0
Suspension (inverted): no 0
Suspension (horizontal): no 0
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 0
Swallowing semen: yes 2
Swallowing urine: no 0
Swapping (with one other couple): no 0
Swinging (multiple couples): no 0
Tattooing:no 2Teasing: yes.....3
Tickling: yes 3
Triple penetration: no 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 0
Uniforms: no 0
Including others: no 0
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: yes 2
Vibrator on genitals: yes 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 0
Video (watching others): yes 3
Video (recordings of you): yes 2
Water torture: no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 3
Whipping: no 1
Wooden paddles: no 1
Wrestling:

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no 0

Abrasion: 3
Age play: 2
Anal sex: 3
Anal plugs (small): 4
Anal plugs (large): 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): 1
Animal roles: 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): 3
Asphyxiation: 5
Auctioned for charity: 1
Bathroom use control: 0
Bestiality: 0
Beating (soft): 5
Beating (hard): 5
Blindfolds: 4
Being serviced (sexual): 5
Being bitten: 5
Breast/chest bondage: 3
Breath control: 2
Branding: 0
Boot worship: 0
Bondage (light): 5
Bondage (heavy): 5
Bondage (multi-day): 3
Bondage (public, under clothing): 4
Bondage and Sex: 5
Breast whipping: 2
Brown showers (scat): 0
Cages (locked inside of): 1
Caning: 4
Catheterization: 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): 0
Chastity belts: 0
Chauffeuring: 2
Choking: 5
Clothespins breast/nipples: 2
Clothespins labia lips/clit: 2
Clothespins body: 2
Cock worship: 2
Collars (worn in private): 5
Collars (worn in public): 5
Competitions (with other Subs): 5
Corsets (wearing): 5
Cuffs: 4
Cuffs (metal): 5
Cutting: 4
Dilation: 1
Double penetration: 5
Electricity: 0
Enemas: 3
Enforced chastity: 3
Examinations (physical): 5
Exercise (forced/required): 2
Exhibitionism (friends): 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): 3
Eye contact restrictions: 5
Face slapping: 5
Fantasy abandonment: 5
Fantasy rape: 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: 5
Fantasy gang-rape: 5
Fisting (anal): 3
Fisting (vaginal): 5
Flogging: 2
Following hand signals: 1
Following orders: 5
Foot worship: 0
Forced dressing: 5
Forced homosexuality: 3
Forced masturbation: 5
Forced nudity (private): 1
Forced nudity (around others): 2
Forced servitude: 5
Full head hoods: 2
Gags (cloth): 5
Gags (penis shaped): 3
Gags (rubber): 5
Gags (tape): 5
Gates of Hell: 1
Genital sex: 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): 5
Given away to another Dom (perm): 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): 0
Golden showers: 0
Greetings rituals: 2
Hairbrush spankings: 3
Hair pulling: 5
Hand jobs (giving): 0
Hand jobs (receiving): 0
Harems (serving w/other subs): 3
Harnessing (leather): 5
Harnessing (rope): 5
Having food chosen for you: 2
Having clothing chosen for you: 3
Head (giving cunnilingus): 5
Head (giving fellatio): 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): 0
High heel worship: 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): 1
Hot oils (on genitals): 3
Hot waxing: 5
Housework (doing): 4
Human puppy dog: 5
Humiliation (private): 5
Humiliation (public): 2
Hypnotism: 0
Ice cubes: 2
Infantilism: 0
Initiation rites: 2
Injections: 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: 3
Interrogations: 5
Kidnapping: 2
Kneeling: 5
Leather clothing: 5
restraints chains: 5
restraints leather: 5
restraints rope: 5
Lectures for misbehavior: 2
Licking (non-sexual): 3
Manacles & Irons: 3
Manicures (giving): 1
Massage (giving): 4
Massage (receiving): 1
Medical scenes: 3

Modeling for erotic photos:
Modeling for erotic videos:
Mouth bits:
Mummification:
Nipple clamps:
Nipple cloths pins:
Nipple weights:
Oral/anal play (rimming):
Over-the-knee spanking:
Orgasm denial:
Orgasm control:
Outdoor scenes:
Outdoor sex:
Phone sex (serving Dom):
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends):
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce):
Piercing (permanent):
Prison scenes:
Pony slave:
Public exposure:
Public tasks:
Pussy/cock whipping:
Pussy worship:
Riding crops:
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.):
Rituals:
Religious scenes:
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Rubber/latex clothing:
Rope body harness:
Saran wrapping:
Scratching – getting:
Scratching – giving:
Sensory deprivation:
Serving:
Serving as art:
Serving as ashtray:
Serving as furniture:
Serving as a maid:
Serving as toilet:
Serving as waitress/waiter:
Serving orally (sexual):
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Shaving (head hair):
Shaving (pubic hair):
Sleep deprivation:
Sleep-sacks:
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Spanking in private:
Spanking in public:
Spanking in bdsm parties:
Spanking pleasure:
Spandex clothing:
Speech restrictions (when, what):
Speculums (Anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Spreader bars:
Standing in corner:
Stocks (adjustable):
Stocks (fixed):
Straight jackets:
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by):
Strap-on-dildos (wearing):
Strapping (full body beating):
Suspension (upright);
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension (horizontal):
Supplying new partners for Dom:
Swallowing semen:
Swallowing urine:
Swapping (with one other couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Tattooing:
Teasing:
Tickling:
Triple penetration:
Triple penetration by 3 males:
Uniforms:
Including others:
Vaginal dildo:
Verbal humiliation:
Vibrator on genitals:
Voyeurism (watching others):
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others):
Video (watching others):
Video (recordings of you):
Water torture:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Whipping:
Wooden paddles:
Wrestling:

I totally have to re-do this thing.

*Feels like an idiot.*

Here we go...



Abrasion: No, 0 (I don't even know what this is).
Age play: No, No
Anal sex: No, 4
Anal plugs (small): No, 3
Anal plugs (large): No, No
Anal plug (public, under clothes): No, 3
Animal roles: No, No
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No, 0
Asphyxiation: No, No (I care to live, thank you).
Auctioned for charity: No, No
Bathroom use control: No, No
Bestiality: No, No
Beating (soft): No, 3
Beating (hard): No, No
Blindfolds: No, 3
Being serviced (sexual): No, 3
Being bitten: No, 4
Breast/chest bondage: No, 2
Breath control: No, No (Dangerous).
Branding: No, No
Boot worship: No, 0
Bondage (light): No, 3
Bondage (heavy): No, 1
Bondage (multi-day): No, No (This cannot be healthy for circulation).
Bondage (public, under clothing): No, 3
Bondage and Sex: No, 3
Breast whipping: No, 1
Brown showers (scat): No, No
Cages (locked inside of): No, 0
Caning: No, 2
Catheterization: No, No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No, No
Chastity belts: No, 0
Chauffeuring: No, 0
Choking: No, No (Aren't people aware of how dangerous this is?)
Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes, 3
Clothespins body: No, 0
Cock worship: No, 4
Collars (worn in private): No, 0
Collars (worn in public): No, 0
Competitions (with other Subs): No, No
Corsets (wearing): No, 3
Cuffs: No, 3 (As in bondage handcuffs, right?)
Cuffs (metal): No, 3 (As in bondage handcuffs, right?)
Cutting: No, No
Dilation: No, No
Double penetration: No, 3
Electricity: No, 2
Enemas: No, No
Enforced chastity: No, 0
Examinations (physical): No, 2
Exercise (forced/required): No, 1
Exhibitionism (friends): No, No
Exhibitionism (strangers): No, No
Eye contact restrictions: No, No
Face slapping: No, No (Oh no 'u di'ent!)
Fantasy abandonment: No, No
Fantasy rape: No, 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: No, 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No, No
Fantasy forced rape anal: No, 4
Fantasy gang-rape: No, No
Fisting (anal): No, No
Fisting (vaginal): No, No
Flogging: No, 2
Following hand signals: No, No (Don't get it).
Following orders: No, 3
Foot worship: No, 3 (But only if they are nice feet...).
Forced dressing: No, 0
Forced homosexuality: No, No
Forced masturbation: No, 3
Forced nudity (private): No, 3
Forced nudity (around others): No, No
Forced servitude: No, No
Full head hoods: No, No
Gags (cloth): No, 3
Gags (penis shaped): No, 0
Gags (rubber): No, 0
Gags (tape): No, No (Like Duct tape? That isn't good for your skin!)
Gates of Hell: I have no idea what this is....
Genital sex: No, 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No, No
Given away to another Domme (temp): No, No
Given away to another Dom (perm): No, No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No, No
Golden showers: No, No
Greetings rituals: No, No
Hairbrush spankings: No, 4
Hair pulling: No, 4
Hand jobs (giving): No, 4
Hand jobs (receiving): No, 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): No, No
Harnessing (leather): No, 0
Harnessing (rope): No, 0
Having food chosen for you: No, 0
Having clothing chosen for you: No, 0
Head (giving cunnilingus): No, No
Head (giving fellatio): No, 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): No, 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: No, No
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No, No
Hot oils (on genitals): No, 2
Hot waxing: No, 3
Housework (doing): No, 3
Human puppy dog: No, No
Humiliation (private): No, No (No thanks, my self esteem doesn't need it).
Humiliation (public): No, No (No thanks, my self esteem doesn't need it).
Hypnotism: No, No (I personally don't believe in it).
Ice cubes: No, 4
Infantilism: No, No
Initiation rites: No, No
Injections: No, No
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No, 1
Interrogations: No, 3 (And if you have a sexy accent it pops up to a 4, lol).
Kidnapping: No, 3
Kneeling: No, 0
Leather clothing: No, 0
Restraints chains: No, 3
Restraints leather: No, 3
Restraints rope: No, 3
Lectures for misbehavior: No, 2
Licking (non-sexual): No, 0
Manacles & Irons: No, 0
Manicures (giving): No, 3
Massage (giving): No, 4
Massage (receiving): No, 4
Medical scenes: No, 3
Modeling for erotic photos: No, 2
Modeling for erotic videos: No, No
Mouth bits: No, No
Mummification: No, No
Nipple clamps: No, 3
Nipple cloths pins: No, 3
Nipple weights: No, No
Oral/anal play (rimming): No, No
Over-the-knee spanking: No, 5
Orgasm denial: No, 4
Orgasm control: No, 4
Outdoor scenes: No, 3
Outdoor sex: No, 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): No, 3
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No, 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No, No
Piercing (permanent): No, No
Prison scenes: No, No
Pony slave: No, No
Public exposure: No, 3 (Only if it was 'private-public).
Public tasks: No, 1
Pussy/cock whipping: N/A
Pussy worship: No, 5 (If I am receiving...yay).
Riding crops: No, No
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No, No (I don't know what this is...).
Rituals: No, No
Religious scenes: No, No
Restrictive rules on behavior: No, 3
Rubber/latex clothing: No, 0
Rope body harness: No, 0
Saran wrapping: No, No
Scratching – getting: No, 2
Scratching – giving: No, 3
Sensory deprivation: No, 3
Serving: No, 3
Serving as art: No, No
Serving as ashtray: No, No
Serving as furniture: No, No
Serving as a maid: No, No
Serving as toilet: No, No
Serving as waitress/waiter: No, 0
Serving orally (sexual): No, 4
Serving other Doms (supervised): No, No (I took this as serving them sexually...).
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No, No
Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, No (LOL, this was a funny one for me to fill out).
Shaving (body hair): Yes, 4
Shaving (head hair): No, No
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4
Sleep deprivation: No, No (Don't even try it).
Sleep-sacks: No, No
Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 3
Slutty clothing (public): No, No
Spanking in private: No, 5
Spanking in public: No, No
Spanking in bdsm parties: No, No
Spanking pleasure: No, 5
Spandex clothing: No, 0
Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 0
Speculums (Anal): No, No
Speculums (vaginal): No, No
Spreader bars: No, 1
Standing in corner: No, 0
Stocks (adjustable): No, No
Stocks (fixed): No, No
Straight jackets: No, No
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No, No
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No, No
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No, No
Strapping (full body beating): No, No
Suspension (upright): No, No
Suspension (inverted): No, No
Suspension (horizontal): No, No
Supplying new partners for Dom: No, No
Swallowing semen: No, 4
Swallowing urine: No, No
Swapping (with one other couple): No, No
Swinging (multiple couples): No, No
Tattooing: No, No
Teasing: No, 4
Tickling: No, 4
Triple penetration: No, 3
Triple penetration by 3 males: No, No
Uniforms: No, 3
Including others: No, 0
Vaginal dildo: Yes, 4
Verbal humiliation: No, No
Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 4
Voyeurism (watching others): No, 2
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No, No
Video (watching others): Yes, 4
Video (recordings of you): No, 1
Water torture: No, No (I don't even know what this kind of thing is).
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No, 0
Whipping: No, 0
Wooden paddles: No, 3
Wrestling: No, 4

Abrasion: no 0
Age play: no 2
Anal sex: yes 2
Anal plugs (small): no 3
Anal plugs (large): no 2
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no 3
Animal roles: no 2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no 3
Asphyxiation: no
Auctioned for charity: no 3
Bathroom use control: no 3
Bestiality: no
Beating (soft): no 2
Beating (hard): no 2
Blindfolds: no 2
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 5
Breath control: no 3
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: ?
Bondage (light): no 5
Bondage (heavy): no 4
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: no 5
Breast whipping: no 5
Brown showers (scat): no
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: ?
Catheterization: no 2
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 2
Choking: no 3
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no 5
Clothespins body: no 4
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): no 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): NO
Corsets (wearing): no 5
Cuffs: no 5
Cuffs (metal): no 5
Cutting: NO
Dilation: no 2
Double penetration: no 5
Electricity: no 3
Enemas: NO
Enforced chastity: no
Examinations (physical): no 2
Exercise (forced/required): no 2
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): NO
Eye contact restrictions: no 3
Face slapping: yes 3
Fantasy abandonment: no 5
Fantasy rape: no 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 3
Fantasy gang-rape: no 5
Fisting (anal): no 3
Fisting (vaginal): no 5
Flogging: no 5
Following hand signals: no 5
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 2
Forced dressing: no 5
Forced homosexuality: no 3
Forced masturbation: yes 4
Forced nudity (private): yes 4
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: no 3
Gags (cloth): no 5
Gags (penis shaped): no 5
Gags (rubber): no 5
Gags (tape): no 5
Gates of Hell: ?
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no
Golden showers: no 2
Greetings rituals: no 4
Hairbrush spankings: no 4
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): NA
Harems (serving w/other subs): NO
Harnessing (leather): no 3
Harnessing (rope): no 3
Having food chosen for you: yes 1
Having clothing chosen for you: no 0
Head (giving cunnilingus): no 3
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): no 3
Head (receiving fellatio male only): NA
High heel worship: no 1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): no 3
Hot waxing: yes 3
Housework (doing): no 5
Human puppy dog: no 3
Humiliation (private): no 3
Humiliation (public): no 3
Hypnotism: no 5
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 4
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 5
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: no 5
restraints rope: no 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 3
Licking (non-sexual): yes 5
Manacles & Irons: no 2
Manicures (giving): no 4
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): no
Medical scenes: no
Modeling for erotic photos: no
Modeling for erotic videos: no
Mouth bits: ?
Mummification: no
Nipple clamps: no 5
Nipple cloths pins: no 5
Nipple weights: no 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): no 2
Over-the-knee spanking: no 3
Orgasm denial: no 5
Orgasm control: no 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 5
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 2
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 3
Piercing (permanent): no
Prison scenes: no 5
Pony slave: no 2
Public exposure: no
Public tasks: no 2
Pussy/cock whipping: no 5
Pussy worship: no 3
Riding crops: ?
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): ?
Rituals: no 3
Religious scenes: no 3
Restrictive rules on behavior: no 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 3
Rope body harness: no 3
Saran wrapping: no 3
Scratching – getting: no 3
Scratching – giving: no 5
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 4
Serving as ashtray: no 4
Serving as furniture: no 4
Serving as a maid: no 4
Serving as toilet: no 2
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 4
Serving orally (sexual): no 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 3
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 0
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes 0
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 3
Sleep deprivation: yes 3
Sleep-sacks: ?
Slutty clothing (private): no 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 5
Spanking in private: yes 3
Spanking in public: no 3
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 3
Spanking pleasure: no 3
Spandex clothing: no 2
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 3
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 4
Spreader bars: no 4
Standing in corner: no 4
Stocks (adjustable): no 3
Stocks (fixed): no 3
Straight jackets: no 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no 3
Strapping (full body beating): no 2
Suspension (upright); no 2
Suspension (inverted): no 2
Suspension (horizontal): no 2
Supplying new partners for Dom: no 3
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no 3
Swapping (with one other couple): no 3
Swinging (multiple couples): no 3
Tattooing: no
Teasing: yes 3
Tickling: no 4
Triple penetration: no 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5
Uniforms: no 5
Including others: ?
Vaginal dildo: yes 3
Verbal humiliation: no 4
Vibrator on genitals: yes 3
Voyeurism (watching others): no 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no 4
Video (watching others): no 3
Video (recordings of you): no 4
Water torture: no 3
Wearing symbolic jewelry: no 5
Whipping: no 5
Wooden paddles: no 5
Wrestling: no 3

The one for sub/slaves

Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List

This questionnaire should be filled out by a sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:
First write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity.
Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.

NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).

0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit").

1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it were asked of you by your Dominant.

2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.

3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.

4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.

5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.

Note any additional information, which might be important for your Dom to know.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.

Experience, Willingness Question or Comments
yes/no NO or 0-5 written in by sub


Abrasion: no 1
Age play: yes 5
Anal sex: no no
Anal plugs (small): no no
Anal plugs (large): no no
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no no
Animal roles: yes 4
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no no
Asphyxiation: no no
Auctioned for charity: yes 0
Bathroom use control: no no
Bestiality: no no
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): yes 5
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 0
Breast/chest bondage: no 0
Breath control: no no
Branding: no no
Boot worship: no 1
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 5
Bondage (public, under clothing):no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): no no
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: no 4
Catheterization: no no
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 5
Chastity belts: no 2
Chauffeuring: no 1
Choking: no no
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: yes 5
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): yes 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no no
Corsets (wearing): yes 5
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no no
Dilation: no no
Double penetration: no 5
Electricity: no no
Enemas: no no
Enforced chastity: no 1
Examinations (physical): no no
Exercise (forced/required): no no
Exhibitionism (friends): no o
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 0
Eye contact restrictions: no no
Face slapping: no no
Fantasy abandonment: no no
Fantasy rape: yes 5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no no
Fantasy forced rape anal: no no
Fantasy gang-rape: no 5
Fisting (anal): no no
Fisting (vaginal): yes 5
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: yes 5
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 1
Forced dressing: yes 5
Forced homosexuality: no no
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private): yes 5
Forced nudity (around others): no 3
Forced servitude: yes 5
Full head hoods: no no
Gags (cloth): no no
Gags (penis shaped): no no
Gags (rubber): no no
Gags (tape): no no
Gates of Hell: N/A
Genital sex: yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 5
Given away to another Domme (temp): no no
Given away to another Dom (perm): no no
Given away to another Domme (perm): no no
Golden showers: no no
Greetings rituals: yes 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 5
Hand jobs (receiving): N/A
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 0
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): no 5
Having food chosen for you: yes 4
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 4
Head (giving cunnilingus): no no
Head (giving fellatio): yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: no no
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 2
Hot oils (on genitals): yes 5
Hot waxing: yes 5
Housework (doing): yes 2
Human puppy dog: yes 4
Humiliation (private): yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 5
Hypnotism: no 1
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no no
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no no
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 5
Interrogations: yes 5
Kidnapping: yes 5
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: yes 5
restraints chains: yes 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 4
Licking (non-sexual): yes 2
Manacles & Irons: no 5
Manicures (giving): no 1
Massage (giving): yes 4
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 1

Modeling for erotic photos: no 0
Modeling for erotic videos: no no
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no no
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: yes 5
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 0
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: no 4
Outdoor sex: yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 0
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: yes 5
Pony slave: no 5
Public exposure: no 3
Public tasks: yes 3
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: no no
Riding crops: no 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): yes 5
Rituals: yes 5
Religious scenes: yes 5
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 5
Rope body harness: no 5
Saran wrapping: no no
Scratching – getting: no 5
Scratching – giving: no 5
Sensory deprivation: no 5
Serving: yes 5
Serving as art: no 5
Serving as ashtray: no no
Serving as furniture: no 5
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no no
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 5
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 5
Sexual deprivation (short term): no 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 5
Shaving (body hair): no no
Shaving (head hair): no no
Shaving (pubic hair): no no
Sleep deprivation: no no
Sleep-sacks: no no
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 5
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 4
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes 5
Speculums (Anal): no no
Speculums (vaginal): no 1
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: no 3
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Stocks (fixed): no 5
Straight jackets: no no
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): no no
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no no
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no no
Strapping (full body beating): no 4
Suspension (upright); no 5
Suspension (inverted): no 3
Suspension (horizontal): no 5
Supplying new partners for Dom: no no
Swallowing semen: yes 5
Swallowing urine: no no
Swapping (with one other couple): no 4
Swinging (multiple couples): no 4
Tattooing: yes 5
Teasing: yes 5
Tickling: yes 0
Triple penetration: no 5
Triple penetration by 3 males: no 5
Uniforms: no 5
Including others: no 5
Vaginal dildo: yes 5
Verbal humiliation: yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): no 1
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): no no
Video (watching others): yes 5
Video (recordings of you): no 0
Water torture: no 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes 5
Whipping: yes 5
Wooden paddles: yes 5
Wrestling: no 0

Abrasion: yes 5
Age play:no 4
Anal sex:yes 2
Anal plugs (small):yes 5
Anal plugs (large):no 3
Anal plug (public, under clothes): yes 5
Animal roles: no 5
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders):no 3
Asphyxiation: no 0
Auctioned for charity: no 0
Bathroom use control: no 5
Bestiality: no 0
Beating (soft): yes 5
Beating (hard): no 4
Blindfolds: yes 5
Being serviced (sexual): yes 5
Being bitten: yes 5
Breast/chest bondage: no 3
Breath control: no 0
Branding: no 0
Boot worship: no 5
Bondage (light): yes 5
Bondage (heavy): yes 5
Bondage (multi-day): no 0
Bondage (public, under clothing): no 5
Bondage and Sex: yes 5
Breast whipping: yes 5
Brown showers (scat): no 0
Cages (locked inside of): no 5
Caning: yes 5
Catheterization: no 0
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no 0
Chastity belts: no 3
Chauffeuring: no 5
Choking: no 0
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes 5
Clothespins labia lips/clit:yes 5
Clothespins body: yes 5
Cock worship: no 2
Collars (worn in private): yes 5
Collars (worn in public): no 5
Competitions (with other Subs): no 5
Corsets (wearing): no 4
Cuffs: yes 5
Cuffs (metal): yes 5
Cutting: no 0
Dilation: no 0
Double penetration: no 2
Electricity: no0
Enemas: no 5
Enforced chastity: no 2
Examinations (physical): no 5
Exercise (forced/required): no 5
Exhibitionism (friends): no 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): no 2
Eye contact restrictions: no 5
Face slapping: yes 5
Fantasy abandonment: no 0
Fantasy rape: no 3
Fantasy forced deep throat: no 2
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no 5
Fantasy forced rape anal: no 0
Fantasy gang-rape: no 0
Fisting (anal): no 0
Fisting (vaginal): no 0
Flogging: yes 5
Following hand signals: no 4
Following orders: yes 5
Foot worship: no 5
Forced dressing: no 5
Forced homosexuality: N/A
Forced masturbation: yes 5
Forced nudity (private):yes 5
Forced nudity (around others):no 5
Forced servitude: no 3
Full head hoods: no 0
Gags (cloth): no 0
Gags (penis shaped):no 5
Gags (rubber): yes 5
Gags (tape): no 4
Gates of Hell:no 0
Given away to another Dom (temp): no 2
Given away to another Domme (temp):no 3
Given away to another Dom (perm): no 0
Given away to another Domme (perm): no 0
Golden showers: no 5
Greetings rituals: no 5
Hairbrush spankings: yes 5
Hair pulling: yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): yes 3
Hand jobs (receiving):
Harems (serving w/other subs): no 5
Harnessing (leather): no 5
Harnessing (rope): yes 5
Having food chosen for you: no 5
Having clothing chosen for you: yes 5
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes 5
Head (giving fellatio): yes 3
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes 5
Head (receiving fellatio male only):
High heel worship: no 5
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): no 5
Hot oils (on genitals): no 4
Hot waxing: no 4
Housework (doing): no 5
Human puppy dog: yes 5
Humiliation (private):yes 5
Humiliation (public): yes 3
Hypnotism: no 0
Ice cubes: yes 5
Infantilism: no 4
Initiation rites: no 3
Injections: no 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no 5
Interrogations: no 3
Kidnapping: no 0
Kneeling: yes 5
Leather clothing: no 2
restraints chains: no 5
restraints leather: yes 5
restraints rope: yes 5
Lectures for misbehavior: yes 5
Licking (non-sexual): no 5
Manacles & Irons: no 5
Manicures (giving): no 3
Massage (giving): yes 5
Massage (receiving): yes 5
Medical scenes: no 5

Modeling for erotic photos: yes 2
Modeling for erotic videos: no 0
Mouth bits: no 5
Mummification: no 0
Nipple clamps: yes 5
Nipple cloths pins: yes 5
Nipple weights: no 4
Oral/anal play (rimming): yes 5
Over-the-knee spanking: yes 5
Orgasm denial: yes 5
Orgasm control: yes 5
Outdoor scenes: yes 3
Outdoor sex: yes 4
Phone sex (serving Dom): no 5
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no 5
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no 4
Piercing (permanent): no 0
Prison scenes: no 5
Pony slave: no 5
Public exposure: yes 2
Public tasks: yes 5
Pussy/cock whipping: yes 5
Pussy worship: yes 5
Riding crops: no 5
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no 4
Rituals:
Religious scenes: no 0
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes 5
Rubber/latex clothing: no 2
Rope body harness: no 2
Saran wrapping:no 2
Scratching – getting: yes 5
Scratching – giving: yes 5
Sensory deprivation: no 2
Serving:
Serving as art: no 5
Serving as ashtray: no 5
Serving as furniture: no 5
Serving as a maid: no 5
Serving as toilet: no 4
Serving as waitress/waiter: no 5
Serving orally (sexual): yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): no 3
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes 5
Sexual deprivation (long term): no 1
Shaving (body hair): yes 3
Shaving (head hair): no 0
Shaving (pubic hair): yes 5
Sleep deprivation: no 0
Sleep-sacks: no 0
Slutty clothing (private): yes 5
Slutty clothing (public): no 2
Spanking in private: yes 5
Spanking in public: no 5
Spanking in bdsm parties: no 5
Spanking pleasure: yes 5
Spandex clothing: no 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): no 5
Speculums (Anal): no 2
Speculums (vaginal): no 2
Spreader bars: no 5
Standing in corner: yes 5
Stocks (adjustable): no 5
Stocks (fixed): no 5
Straight jackets: no 3
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No 5
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 5
Strapping (full body beating): No 5
Suspension (upright); No 4
Suspension (inverted): No 4
Suspension (horizontal): No 4
Supplying new partners for Dom: No 2
Swallowing semen: Yes 3
Swallowing urine: No 3
Swapping (with one other couple): No 2
Swinging (multiple couples): No 2
Tattooing: No 0
Teasing: Yes 5
Tickling: Yes 3
Triple penetration: No 1
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 0
Uniforms: No 4
Including others: No 4
Vaginal dildo: Yes 5
Verbal humiliation: Yes 5
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 5
Voyeurism (watching others): No 3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No 3
Video (watching others): Yes 5
Video (recordings of you): No0
Water torture: No 0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No 5
Whipping: Yes 5
Wooden paddles: Yes 5
Wrestling: Yes 3

Abrasion: no-1 *
Age play: yes-5
Anal sex: no-1 *
Anal plugs (small): no-0
Anal plugs (large): no-0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): no-0
Animal roles: yes-2
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): no-3
Asphyxiation: no-NO
Auctioned for charity: no-3
Bathroom use control: no-NO
Bestiality: no-NO
Beating (soft): yes-5
Beating (hard): yes-3 *
Blindfolds: yes-5
Being serviced (sexual): ?
Being bitten: yes-5
Breast/chest bondage: no-2 *
Breath control: no-NO
Branding: no-NO
Boot worship: no-2
Bondage (light): yes-5
Bondage (heavy): yes-3 *
Bondage (multi-day): no-2
Bondage (public, under clothing): no-4
Bondage and Sex: yes-5
Breast whipping: yes-4
Brown showers (scat): no-NO
Cages (locked inside of): no-5
Caning: yes-4
Catheterization: no-NO
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): no-3 *
Chastity belts: no-0
Chauffeuring: no-1
Choking: no-NO
Clothespins breast/nipples: yes-5
Clothespins labia lips/clit: no-1
Clothespins body: no-2
Cock worship: yes-5
Collars (worn in private): yes-5 *
Collars (worn in public): no-3 *
Competitions (with other Subs): yes-2
Corsets (wearing): yes-4
Cuffs: yes-5
Cuffs (metal): yes-5
Cutting: no-NO
Dilation: no-NO
Double penetration: no-4
Electricity: no-0 *
Enemas: no-0 *
Enforced chastity: yes-3
Examinations (physical): yes-5
Exercise (forced/required): yes-5
Exhibitionism (friends): no-4
Exhibitionism (strangers): no-5
Eye contact restrictions: yes-3
Face slapping: no-NO
Fantasy abandonment: no-3
Fantasy rape: yes-5
Fantasy forced deep throat: yes-5
Fantasy forced cunt licking: no-2
Fantasy forced rape anal: no-0
Fantasy gang-rape: no-2
Fisting (anal): no-NO
Fisting (vaginal): no-0
Flogging: yes-4
Following hand signals: yes-4
Following orders: yes-5
Foot worship: yes-2*
Forced dressing: yes-4
Forced homosexuality: no (lol no need to force :-P)
Forced masturbation: yes-5
Forced nudity (private): yes-5
Forced nudity (around others): no-5
Forced servitude: yes-5
Full head hoods: no-NO
Gags (cloth): yes-4
Gags (penis shaped): no-3
Gags (rubber): yes-5
Gags (tape): yes-3
Gates of Hell: N/A
Genital sex: yes-5 *
Given away to another Dom (temp):no-2
Given away to another Domme (temp): yes-4
Given away to another Dom (perm): no-NO
Given away to another Domme (perm): no-NO
Golden showers: no-NO
Greetings rituals: no-2
Hairbrush spankings: yes-5
Hair pulling: yes-5
Hand jobs (giving): yes-3
Hand jobs (receiving): yes-4
Harems (serving w/other subs): no-3
Harnessing (leather): no-2
Harnessing (rope): no-1
Having food chosen for you: yes-3 *
Having clothing chosen for you: yes-4 *
Head (giving cunnilingus): yes-3
Head (giving fellatio): yes-5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): yes-5
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: no-1
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): ?
Hot oils (on genitals): no-1
Hot waxing: yes-5 *
Housework (doing): yes-5
Human puppy dog: yes-5
Humiliation (private): yes-5
Humiliation (public): no-4
Hypnotism: no-2
Ice cubes: yes-5
Infantilism: no-0
Initiation rites: no-1
Injections: no-NO NO NO NO NO NEVER NO!
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: no-4
Interrogations: yes-5
Kidnapping: yes-5
Kneeling: yes-5
Leather clothing: yes-3
restraints chains: yes-5
restraints leather: yes-5
restraints rope: no-2
Lectures for misbehavior: yes-0 (those aren't supposed to turn me on though. it's actual discipline)
Licking (non-sexual): ? i don't get it...
Manacles & Irons: no-2
Manicures (giving): no-1
Massage (giving): yes-5!
Massage (receiving): yes-5
Medical scenes: yes-2

Modeling for erotic photos: yes-5!!!!
Modeling for erotic videos: yes-5
Mouth bits: no-2
Mummification: no-NO
Nipple clamps: yes-5
Nipple cloths pins: yes-5
Nipple weights: yes-2
Oral/anal play (rimming): no-NO
Over-the-knee spanking: YES-5
Orgasm denial: yes-5
Orgasm control: yes-5
Outdoor scenes: yes-3
Outdoor sex: yes-5
Phone sex (serving Dom): yes-4
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): no-0
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): no-NO
Piercing (permanent): no-NO
Prison scenes: yes-5
Pony slave: yes-2
Public exposure: no-2
Public tasks: yes-4
Pussy/cock whipping: yes-4
Pussy worship: no-1
Riding crops: no-4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): no-no
Rituals: yes-3*
Religious scenes: (hehe nun=fun) yes-5
Restrictive rules on behavior: yes-4
Rubber/latex clothing: yes-2
Rope body harness: no-0
Saran wrapping: no-0
Scratching – getting: yes-5
Scratching – giving: no-2
Sensory deprivation: yes-5 *
Serving: yes-5
Serving as art: no-0
Serving as ashtray: no-NO
Serving as furniture: yes-5
Serving as a maid: YES-5!
Serving as toilet: no-NO
Serving as waitress/waiter: yes-5
Serving orally (sexual): yes-5
Serving other Doms (supervised): yes-4
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): no-0
Sexual deprivation (short term): yes-4
Sexual deprivation (long term): yes-1 (usually punishment)
Shaving (body hair): no-0
Shaving (head hair): no-NO
Shaving (pubic hair): yes-3
Sleep deprivation: no-1 (i don't sleep much anyways)
Sleep-sacks: no-0
Slutty clothing (private): yes-5
Slutty clothing (public): no-1
Spanking in private: yes-5
Spanking in public: no-3
Spanking in bdsm parties: yes-5
Spanking pleasure: yes-5
Spandex clothing: no-0
Speech restrictions (when, what): yes-5
Speculums (Anal): no-NO
Speculums (vaginal): no-NO
Spreader bars: no-5
Standing in corner: yes-3
Stocks (adjustable): no-0
Stocks (fixed): no-0
Straight jackets: no-0*
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on):no-0
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): no-0
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): no-0
Strapping (full body beating): no-1
Suspension (upright); no-2
Suspension (inverted): no-1
Suspension (horizontal): no-1
Supplying new partners for Dom: no-0
Swallowing semen: yes-5
Swallowing urine: no-NO
Swapping (with one other couple): yes-3 lol good for spicing it up now and then
Swinging (multiple couples): no-0
Tattooing: no-NO needles=evil!
Teasing: yes-5
Tickling: yes-1
Triple penetration: no-3
Triple penetration by 3 males: no-2
Uniforms: yes-3
Including others: yes-4
Vaginal dildo: yes-5
Verbal humiliation: YES-5
Vibrator on genitals: yesyesyes-5
Voyeurism (watching others): yes-3
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): yes-2
Video (watching others): yes-3
Video (recordings of you): yes-5
Water torture: no-0
Wearing symbolic jewelry: yes-5*
Whipping: yes-5
Wooden paddles: yes-5
Wrestling: no-0

Here we go...again.

I've been meaning to update this. Some of my views have changed on these topics after reading different posts and more about the topics so I thought I'd re-post. Quite a few things I had marked as “hard limits” I have changed my opinion on.

I should have waited a while and read more before I answered the questionnaire in the first place. :(

I'm sure they'll change again once I get to actually doing the list. Hah.



Anything with an "*" by it just means I'd be reluctant (or wouldn’t) do it because I've heard of health/danger issues.



Abrasion: No, 0 I still don't really get what this is in a BDSM context so I am not changing my answer.

Age play: No, 2

Anal sex: No, 5

Anal plugs (small): No, 3

*Anal plugs (large): No, 0

Anal plug (public, under clothes): No, 3

Animal roles: No, 1

Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No, 0

*Asphyxiation: No, No

Auctioned for charity: No, No

Bathroom use control: No, 2

Bestiality: No, No

Beating (soft): No, 3

Beating (hard): No, 1

Blindfolds: No, 4

Being serviced (sexual): No, 4 I wouldn’t want it a “submissive” type of service...if that makes any sense at all.

Being bitten: No, 4

Breast/chest bondage: No, 2

*Breath control: No, 2 It would depend on the man.... If he was a serial killer it would automatically drop to a hard limit. Heh.

Branding: No, No

Boot worship: No, 1

Bondage (light): No, 4

Bondage (heavy): No, 2

*Bondage (multi-day): No, No

Bondage (public, under clothing): No, 3

Bondage and Sex: No, 4

Breast whipping: No, 2

*Brown showers (scat): No, No

Cages (locked inside of): No, 2

Caning: No, 2

*Catheterization: No, No

Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No, No I’m afraid of the dark.

Chastity belts: No, 1

Chauffeuring: No, 1

*Choking: No, 2 Same as the breath play kind of stuff?

Clothespins breast/nipples: Yes, 3

Clothespins labia lips/clit: Yes, 3

Clothespins body: No, 2

Cock worship: No, 4

Collars (worn in private): No, 2

Collars (worn in public): No, 2

Competitions (with other Subs): No, No

Corsets (wearing): No, 3

Cuffs: No, 3

Cuffs (metal): No, 3

*Cutting: No, No

*Dilation: No, No Extreme dilation I would think wouldn’t be healthy for one’s body.

Double penetration: Yes, 4

Electricity: No, 3

Enemas: No, 0

Enforced chastity: Yes, No...lmbo.

Examinations (physical): No, 3

Exercise (forced/required): No, 3 (Um, just to clarify, I said 'no' as in I haven't been 'forced' or 'required' by another person).

Exhibitionism (friends): No, 0

Exhibitionism (strangers): No, 3

Eye contact restrictions: No, 0

Face slapping: No, ? It would depend on the man, and I can’t honestly say how I’d feel about it until it happened. Anywhere from a 2-5

Fantasy abandonment: No, No

Fantasy rape: No, 5

Fantasy forced deep throat: No, 4

Fantasy forced cunt licking: No, No

Fantasy forced rape anal: No, 4

Fantasy gang-rape: No, No

*Fisting (anal): No, No

Fisting (vaginal): No, 0

Flogging: No, 2

Following hand signals: No, 1 Ahhh. I don’t really see the point.

Following orders: No, 4

Foot worship: No, 2

Forced dressing: No, 2/3

Forced homosexuality: No, No

Forced masturbation: No, 4

Forced nudity (private): No, 4

Forced nudity (around others): No, 0

Forced servitude: No, No

Full head hoods: No, 2-4

Gags (cloth): No, 3

Gags (penis shaped): No, 0

Gags (rubber): No, 0

*Gags (tape): No, No I’ve heard duct tape is not good for one’s skin.

Gates of Hell: I still have no idea what this is....

Genital sex: No, 5

Given away to another Dom (temp): No, No

Given away to another Domme (temp): No, No

Given away to another Dom (perm): No, No

Given away to another Domme (perm): No, No

Golden showers: No, 2

Greetings rituals: No, 0

Hairbrush spankings: No, 4

Hair pulling: No, 4

Hand jobs (giving): No, 4

Hand jobs (receiving): No, 4

Harems (serving w/other subs): No, No

Harnessing (leather): No, 0

Harnessing (rope): No, 0

Having food chosen for you: No, 1-2

Having clothing chosen for you: No, 2-3

Head (giving cunnilingus): No, No

Head (giving fellatio): No, 5

Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): No, 5

Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A

High heel worship: No, No

Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No, 0

Hot oils (on genitals): No, 2

Hot waxing: No, 3

Housework (doing): No, 3 I like cleaning!

Human puppy dog: No, 0

Humiliation (private): No, 4/5

Humiliation (public): No, 4/5

Hypnotism: No, No I personally don't believe in it.

Ice cubes: Yes, 4

Infantilism: No, No

Initiation rites: No, No

*Injections: No, No

Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No, 1

Interrogations: No, 3 (And if you have a sexy accent it pops up to a 4, lol).

Kidnapping: No, 4/5 Safely of course....

Kneeling: No, 3

Leather clothing: No, 0

Restraints chains: No, 4

Restraints leather: No, 4

Restraints rope: No, 4

Lectures for misbehavior: No, 2

Licking (non-sexual): No, 2

Manacles & Irons: No, 2

Manicures (giving): No, 4 (Yay! I'll do pedicures too!)

Massage (giving): No, 4

Massage (receiving): No, 4

Medical scenes: No, 3

Modeling for erotic photos: No, 3

Modeling for erotic videos: No, 2

Mouth bits: No, 0

Mummification: No, No

Nipple clamps: No, 3

Nipple cloths pins: Yes, 3

Nipple weights: No, 0

*Oral/anal play (rimming): No, No

Over-the-knee spanking: No, 5

Orgasm denial: No, 4

Orgasm control: No, 4/5

Outdoor scenes: No, 3

Outdoor sex: No, 4

Phone sex (serving Dom): No, 3

Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No, 0

Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No, No

Piercing (permanent): No, No

Prison scenes: No, 1

Pony slave: No, No

Public exposure: No, 4 Only if it was ‘private-public.’

Public tasks: No, 2

Pussy whipping: No, 2

Pussy worship: No, 5 If I am receiving...and I hope it wouldn’t feel like the man was submissive to me....

Riding crops: No, 2

Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No, 2 ...still not sure what this is either...hah.

Rituals: No, No

Religious scenes: No, No

Restrictive rules on behavior: No, 3

Rubber/latex clothing: No, 0

Rope body harness: No, 0

Saran wrapping: No, 0 I don't get the appeal.

Scratching – getting: No, 2-4

Scratching – giving: No, 3

Sensory deprivation: No, 4/5

Serving: No, 3

Serving as art: No, No

Serving as ashtray: No, No

Serving as furniture: No, 0

Serving as a maid: No, 1

Serving as toilet: No, No

Serving as waitress/waiter: No, 1

Serving orally (sexual): No, 4

Serving other Doms (supervised): No, 0 It would depend on the context of ‘serving.’

Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No, No

Sexual deprivation (short term): Yes, 3

Sexual deprivation (long term): Yes, No (LOL, this was a funny one for me to fill out).

Shaving (body hair): Yes, 4

Shaving (head hair): No, No

Shaving (pubic hair): Yes, 4

Sleep deprivation: No, No NO ONE messes with my sleep! :D

Sleep-sacks: No, No I don’t get the appeal.

Slutty clothing (private): Yes, 3

Slutty clothing (public): No, 3

Spanking in private: No, 5

Spanking in public: No, 0

Spanking in bdsm parties: No, 0

Spanking pleasure: No, 5

Spandex clothing: lmbo

Speech restrictions (when, what): No, 1

Speculum (Anal): No, 2

Speculum (vaginal): No, 3

Spreader bars: No, 2

Standing in corner: No, 1

Stocks (adjustable): No, No

Stocks (fixed): No, No

Straight jackets: No, No

Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No, No

Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No, No

Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No, No

Strapping (full body beating): No, 1

Suspension (upright): No, 0

Suspension (inverted): No, 0

Suspension (horizontal): No, 0

Supplying new partners for Dom: No, No

Swallowing semen: No, 4

Swallowing urine: No, No

Swapping (with one other couple): No, 0 I guess it would depend on far it would be taken...I'd only do it if it was something he (my partner) couldn't live without.

Swinging (multiple couples): No, No

Tattooing: No, No

Teasing: No, 4

Tickling: No, 4

Triple penetration: No, 4

Triple penetration by 3 males: No, 0

Uniforms: No, 3

Including others: No, 0

Vaginal dildo: Yes, 4

Verbal humiliation: No, 4

Vibrator on genitals: Yes, 4

Voyeurism (watching others): No, 3/4

Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No, No Only a hard limit for the fact that I don’t want to share.

Video (watching others): Yes, 4

Video (recordings of you): No, 3

Water torture: No, 0 I suppose. Still not really sure on this whole deal.

Wearing symbolic jewelry: No, 1

Whipping: No, 1

Wooden paddles: No, 3

Wrestling: No, 5

What thorough lists!
I'm sorry but I won't post my answers here. It would take two hours but I am going to type up the lists and TRY to discuss them with my husband.
Maybe if he has an idea exactly what I want I may change his mind about BDSM.

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Originally Posted by MissConfused

What thorough lists!
I'm sorry but I won't post my answers here. It would take two hours but I am going to type up the lists and TRY to discuss them with my husband.
Maybe if he has an idea exactly what I want I may change his mind about BDSM.

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Nods. It does seem to take fooooooooooooorever.

Good thing I was bored this morning. :)



p.s. good luck!

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Originally Posted by hopperboo

Nods. It does seem to take fooooooooooooorever.

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tell me about it, it took me god knows how long to post it and now its disappeared lol it's been replaced with a smiley face!

Ohhh, this thread is too useful to be buried!

Abrasion: No 3
Age play: No 1
Anal sex: Yes 4
Anal plugs (small): Yes 3
Anal plugs (large): No 0
Anal plug (public, under clothes): Yes 3
Animal roles: No 0
Arm & leg sleeves (armbinders): No 1
Asphyxiation: No 2
Auctioned for charity: No 0
Bathroom use control: Yes 4
Bestiality: NO NO
Beating (soft): Yes 4
Beating (hard): Yes 3
Blindfolds: Yes 3
Being serviced (sexual): Yes 2
Being bitten: Yes 3
Breast/chest bondage: No 3
Breath control: Yes 3
Branding: No 2
Boot worship: No 2
Bondage (light): Yes 2
Bondage (heavy): No 2
Bondage (multi-day): No 1
Bondage (public, under clothing): No 3
Bondage and Sex: Yes 3
Breast whipping: No 2
Brown showers (scat): NO NO
Cages (locked inside of): No 2
Caning: No 2
Catheterization: No No
Cells/Closets (locked inside of): No 1
Chastity belts: No 3
Chauffeuring: No 1
Choking: Yes 4
Clothespins breast/nipples: No 3
Clothespins labia lips/clit: No 2
Clothespins body: No 2
Cock worship: Yes 4
Collars (worn in private): Yes 5
Collars (worn in public): No 3
Competitions (with other Subs): No 2
Corsets (wearing): No 4
Cuffs: No 5
Cuffs (metal): No 5
Cutting: No 3
Dilation: No 0
Double penetration: No 2
Electricity: No 0
Enemas: No 1
Enforced chastity: No 3
Examinations (physical): No 1
Exercise (forced/required): No 1
Exhibitionism (friends): Yes 3
Exhibitionism (strangers): No 3
Eye contact restrictions: Yes 3
Face slapping: Yes 4
Fantasy abandonment: No 2
Fantasy rape: No 4
Fantasy forced deep throat: No 3
Fantasy forced cunt licking: No 3
Fantasy forced rape anal: No 2
Fantasy gang-rape: No 0
Fisting (anal): No No
Fisting (vaginal): No No
Flogging: No 3
Following hand signals: No 3
Following orders: Yes 5
Foot worship: Yes 4
Forced dressing: No 2
Forced homosexuality: No 1
Forced masturbation: Yes 3
Forced nudity (private): No 3
Forced nudity (around others): No 1
Forced servitude: No 1
Full head hoods: No 0
Gags (cloth): No 3
Gags (penis shaped): No 3
Gags (rubber): No 3
Gags (tape): No 2
Gates of Hell: No 1
Genital sex: Yes 5
Given away to another Dom (temp): No 0
Given away to another Domme (temp): No 2 only if daddy is there
Given away to another Dom (perm): No No
Given away to another Domme (perm): No No
Golden showers: yes 3.5
Greetings rituals: No 2
Hairbrush spankings: No 3
Hair pulling: Yes 5
Hand jobs (giving): Yes 4
Hand jobs (receiving): yes 4
Harems (serving w/other subs): No 3
Harnessing (leather): No 3
Harnessing (rope): No 3
Having food chosen for you: No 2.5
Having clothing chosen for you: No 2
Head (giving cunnilingus): Yes 3
Head (giving fellatio): Yes 5
Head (receiving cunnilingus female only): Yes 4
Head (receiving fellatio male only): N/A
High heel worship: No 3
Homage with tongue (non-sexual): No?
Hot oils (on genitals): No 0
Hot waxing: No 2
Housework (doing): No 2
Human puppy dog: No 2
Humiliation (private): No 2
Humiliation (public): No 1
Hypnotism: No 1
Ice cubes: No 3
Infantilism: No No
Initiation rites: No 0
Injections: No 0
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage: No 3
Interrogations: No 2
Kidnapping: No 3*
Kneeling: Yes 4
Leather clothing: No 2
restraints chains: No 3
restraints leather: No 2
restraints rope: No 3
Lectures for misbehavior: No 2
Licking (non-sexual): No 2
Manacles & Irons: No 4
Manicures (giving): No 1
Massage (giving): Yes 3
Massage (receiving): Yes 4
Medical scenes: No 0

Modeling for erotic photos: No 2
Modeling for erotic videos: No 2
Mouth bits: No 3
Mummification: No 0
Nipple clamps: No 4
Nipple cloths pins: No 3
Nipple weights: No 3
Oral/anal play (rimming): Yes 3
Over-the-knee spanking: No 3
Orgasm denial: No 3
Orgasm control: Yes 3
Outdoor scenes: No 3
Outdoor sex: Yes 5
Phone sex (serving Dom): No 2
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends): No 1
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce): No 2
Piercing (permanent): No 2
Prison scenes: No 3
Pony slave: No 2
Public exposure: No 3

Public tasks: No 2
Pussy/cock whipping: No 3
Pussy worship: no 2
Riding crops: No 4
Riding the "horse" (crotch tort.): No 3
Rituals: No 3?
Religious scenes: No 1
Restrictive rules on behavior: No 3
Rubber/latex clothing: No 1
Rope body harness: No 3
Saran wrapping: No 1
Scratching – getting: No 3
Scratching – giving: No 3
Sensory deprivation: No 3
Serving: Yes 4
Serving as art: No 2
Serving as ashtray: No 1
Serving as furniture: No 3
Serving as a maid: No 2
Serving as toilet: Yes 4 piss only
Serving as waitress/waiter: Yes 4
Serving orally (sexual): Yes 5
Serving other Doms (supervised): No 1
Serving other Doms (unsupervised): No 0
Sexual deprivation (short term): No 3
Sexual deprivation (long term): No 1
Shaving (body hair): No 1
Shaving (head hair): No NO
Shaving (pubic hair): Yes 5
Sleep deprivation: No 3
Sleep-sacks: No 1
Slutty clothing (private): No 2
Slutty clothing (public): No 1
Spanking in private: No 4
Spanking in public: No 2.5
Spanking in bdsm parties: No 1
Spanking pleasure: Yes 5
Spandex clothing: No 1
Speech restrictions (when, what): No 1
Speculums (Anal): No No
Speculums (vaginal): No No
Spreader bars: No 3
Standing in corner: No 3
Stocks (adjustable): No 2
Stocks (fixed): No 2
Straight jackets: No 2
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on): No 2
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by): No 3
Strap-on-dildos (wearing): No 1
Strapping (full body beating): No 2.5
Suspension (upright); No 3
Suspension (inverted): No 1
Suspension (horizontal): No 1
Supplying new partners for Dom: Yes 3
Swallowing semen: Yes 4
Swallowing urine: Yes 3 only you
Swapping (with one other couple): Yes 3
Swinging (multiple couples): No 2-3
Tattooing: No in the bdsm sense 3
Teasing: Yes 3
Tickling: Yes 3
Triple penetration: No 0
Triple penetration by 3 males: No 0
Uniforms: No 2-3
Including others: Yes 2-3
Vaginal dildo: No 2
Verbal humiliation: No 2
Vibrator on genitals: Yes 3-4
Voyeurism (watching others): Yes 3-4
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others): No 3
Video (watching others): Yes 3
Video (recordings of you): No 4
Water torture: No 2.5
Wearing symbolic jewelry: No 4
Whipping: Yes 3-4
Wooden paddles: No 3
Wrestling: No 3


I'm already wanting to change things lol

:bump: Had to dig it up...might as well share. :D

This is an excellent post! It may take some time because I have a busy schedule, as does Daddy, but I will think seriously on these questions and answer them. I hope that Daddy is able to find the time to do the same (if not in writing then in conversation.) I will show him this list on Saturday when I see him! :hubba::hubba::hubba: