I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to figure out (without coming right out and asking) if someone is interested in BDSM or not, and if not any tips on introducing it without scaring someone off (yes, I have read a lot of the tips already here, some great stuff).

I recently ran into (at work) an old crush from before I realised my own interest, we were both still married when I last saw him and are both single now. There was definitely some chemistry and a lot of flirting going on at work and at the end of the shift I gave him my phone number...he has yet to call, but it's only been one day *damn my impatience*

I am sure that I do not want another vanilla relationship...and I'm pretty sure he is vanilla, but when I see him I get weak in the knees...what's a subbie to do?