OK, I have a real problem with this. I don't get it - I mean, I do, a bit, I suppose - yes, I like to squirm a bit, so to an extent it is obviously just a question of levels. But - there is a thread posted recently with a sub presenting humiliation pictures of herself, on her master's command. You've probably seen it. I have two real questions coming out of that thread:

1) what's in it for the sub? I mean, to those of you who practice humiliation - is this really something you crave? Is it something you've always craved, and asked for, or is it something you have learnt to want, because your dom trained you into it? Is it something you do just to please him? And if you have learnt it - when does that bringing down of one's partner become mental/emotional abuse, rather than consensual domination? Does it make you horny? happy? miserable? What?? I don't get it.

2) All you doms who answered that thread enthusiastically - no, really, does seeing an unknown sub humiliate herself like that really please you? In my switchy-bi dreams, I have no desire to humiliate; I only see beauty there. Why do you want to debase a woman like that? (or man etc). How does this mix, in a relationship, with love and respect? What??? Get it even less?

Thank you. Oh - in case you hadn't noticed, yeah, I do have limit issues here! So... I'm trying to learn. Just like Tessa.