Yep, you heard me right.

Hi A/all, I'm Mal and the Domme of a very feminine Sub (I'll refer to her as Pet in the future). She and I have been on and off working with D/s lifestyle choices and only recently decided we wanted a 24/7 relationship. That said, we have a few problems with training ideas and "accomodations" due to her disability, a joint condition called arthrogryposis, which causes contractures of the joints (dislocation of her hips, inability to open her mouth very wide, wrists able to bend but not flex, etc) and can be painful.

As a result, my Pet is very tolerant to pain and even seems to view it as a turn on. She most definitely attempts to Top from the bottom and control my reactions to her, a fact about which we've had many discussions, mostly concerning the fact that her disobedience is a turn-off to me and makes me want to fall back on more vanilla techniques.

At the moment, we have a bag of punishments from which she must draw a card if she requires discipline. The disciplinary actions range from caning to a cold shower to writing an essay on what she did wrong that will be posted on the refridgerator for one week. However, these punishments are still fairly tame and do not really push her limits -- something that is important to both of us if we are to continue to make this whole thing work. Besides this, I need a few disciplinary ideas that will hammer home the fact that I am her DOMME and that she will NOT continue to show me such disrespect. Fluffy punishments just don't work with her.

The other issue is, of course, my Pet's limited abilities. She cannot kneel, walk very far, or even stand up for long periods of time. She does not have good balance, and things that hurt her joints (like cold showers) are problematic. Even being bound can make her stiff and cause pain. This, as you might imagine, makes things difficult!!

So, all that being said, I would love any tips the more experienced Dom/Dommes in the forum can offer me. (Which is basically everyone as I am a functional newbie, LOL). Suggestions, comments, promises you don't intend to keep....

Right. Shutting up now.

-MissMal