Background: My Master and I have been together for years and are engaged, we live together and there are kids and careers in the mix, we are both inexperienced to a degree as i have only had one other dom and he has never had a sub before me.

The Problem: we never seem to get the right balance in our lives, either things are going well or they are just not going, when he is stressed he feels unsure when hes unsure i feel less submissive. We both end up unsatisfied with our lives. Then things click back into place and it all goes well for a couple of weeks.

The Questions: Is this common? Is it exasperated by the fact that we are both quite new to this? Will it go away with practice?!