I was watching Jerry Springer the other day (yeah yeah, hush, it's an occasional guilty pleasure ) and they had a BDSM couple on there. Yes, it was a lot of bullshit hype. But there are a couple of things that got me.

Her "dominant" had filmed her being a puppy girl in the park. Using the term "little bitch" and to go fetch, etc. She said that when she saw the tape of her doing it that she felt utterly degraded and ashamed.

On the tape however, she wasn't having too much problem with it. But in the studio, in front of the audience, she described it as an utterly negative humiliating experience to see that tape.

After seeing her "dom", I could understand why she didn't want to delve as deeply into the lifestyle as he. He was one of those order barking doms. Order now, ask questions never.

We've all seen it before and many of us have experienced it before. I mean you should have seen this dork. He came out in leatherette short shorts, a black netting shirt, a leather collar with 5 O-rings... yes, he was ready for a dungeon fetish party. Before saying anything to her, he charges out on the scene waving her collar and ordering her to put it on.

So of course, this is the image that national TV exposure gave d/s. Or this is the image that these two portrayed. Which that bothers me, but not as much as the core of it. At least the core of it to me.

As a submissive, you do many things that could be considered as "odd", "embarrassing" etc for your dominant. But... in a healthy d/s relationship these acts are mutually reaffirming. Both dom and sub both give and receive.

I guess all this rambling comes down to the fact that she wasn't getting what she needed out of it. I don't think he respected her. I think he was one of these little insecure twits that uses d/s to get laid and to feed his inner kinkster. It was a one way street.

And then, beyond that... this is what millions of people saw as a representation of bdsm.

Don't know if there is a point or order to all this. But apparently it was something I felt the need to express.

Carry on...