I am 23 years old and have never had any experience in BDSM. I have been interested in it as long as I can remember and my desire to have it be a part of my life has grown stronger as I have gotten older. I guess I have always hopped that I would just make a friend or find a significant other that would be into this lifestyle and everything would just be great. But that has not turned out to be very realistic. I have never told anyone of my desires and seem to be as far away and ever from having BDSM be a part of my life.

So with all of that in mind, what would your recommendation be on how I proceed? I would try and make contact with people online via such sites as fetlife, but frankly I am terrified that I would end up finding someone dangerous or with some kind of disease and I will have my life destroyed because of it. Maybe that is a little paranoid but that's how I feel. I could alternatively just keep going as I have and hope it ends up a part of my life.

Anyway, sorry for rambling on. Any thoughts you may have would be appreciated.