Can we please stop calling it "The Lifestyle"? I don't know about you guys, but I'm a regular guy. I don't have any smug sense of satisfaction for how I like to fuck or how I want a 24/7 domineering girlfriend. I think people see BDSM as a bunch of freaks and instead of extending the olive branch of knowledge out, we alienate ourselves as being "lifers." I barely approve of the word lifestyle because of how it's always used for SEXUAL purposes but if there were anything needing of the word it would not be this. I mean, what the hell?! We're just like everyone else only our taste in sex is a little more predatory and brutal. Dow we have a "lifestyle" any different from other people's?