After i chose my name here, I realised it could be misinterpreted...

I have been interested/practicing bdsm, starting with my first lover who introduced me to bondage, spanking, and other aspects of bdsm...he was older than me and had a naturally dominant personality. I am naturally a little shy at first.

I have tried at times over the years to be happy with less than kinky lovers and this has always proven to be frustrating.

As I ascend into my late thirties, it has become more obvious that I am a switch not just submissive, and I have recently found someone to share this with, and he has asked me for things I know little about...I hope to learn more about all aspects of bdsm here, though my experiences span many years and perhaps I have tried more than most, I still feel very inexperienced in some areas and realise I have much to learn. So far my experience has made me quite good at spanking and being the aggressor, but there is so much more to it.

I was going to lurk longer and read more first, yet I am compelled to go ahead and follow the suggestion that new members should be polite and introduce themselves...