My wife tried to bring the D/s life style to us about 12 years ago. I made the mistake of calling it 'weird'. That was the best word I could come up with at the time. The introduction of D/s was very uncomfortable to me. I have a preference for bondage sex that D/s. I know she likes D/s. I have seen her on this site and others. But since that unfortunate day, she has refused to talk about it much to me. She says that I am not a dominant, which I agree. That is just not my personality.

Well it is 12 years later and I have discovered her in a relationship with a master again. Is it possible that my wife will ever try and let me be the Dominant she needs or am I doomed for her to do this again? I really want our marriage to work. I have great kids but as a husband I need to feel secure.

Any advice would be great.