So, my boyfriend and I have been dating now for 6 months and 3 weeks--it'll be 7 months on the 16th--and we have an incredible sex life. He's known about my love of The Lifestyle from about 3 months in. I told him how I crave dominance and pain, and told him that since I was developing very strong feelings for him that he needed to tell me if he could provide that for me, or if we needed to end it.
He told me that while he's never tried BDSM and he's not usually in control, he wants us to work out and would try.
Since then, he's been learning about The Lifestyle and BDSM, and D/s relationships.
He's been really wonderful--very open, and if I tell him that I need to be dominated, he will do it immediately.
Only lately has he been acting dominant almost all of the time. Even when I'm not in the mood, if he wants me, I have to do it anyways. ~drools slightly~
I just get really scared, because in the past, when he's acted like this, he'll frighten himself and back off.
I love the feeling of submitting to him.
I really want to show him that it's okay for him to enjoy bringing me pain, because *I* enjoy it.
I just don't how to do that.
Any suggestions?