My current boyfriend is not into bondage, and I have only discovered my interest in it in the last few months. At the beginning of our relationship I told my boyfriend that I thought that a relationship with a collar seems so wonderful because the collared partner is publicly marked as being owned. He did some research then bought me a thin chain and padlock and kept the key. Since then I have researched BDSM and believe that me wearing a collar is disrespectful of the BDSM community and of collared couples as my boyfriend and I in no way have a D/s relationship. I want to stop wearing the collar, but I do not know how to explain why. He is not my Master; I can do this, but I just don't know how to explain to him that collars are significant of deeply committed D/s relationships without hurting him.

I hope this question is appropriate for the forum. I don't have any other resource to turn to. Thanks!