I was browsing this site and reading and just trying to get to now more..but I have some questions and need some help. I know what I am in to and what Im not..Im just not sure how to go about it. I like rough sex,bondage,pain, kidnapping,rape fantasy and orgasm denial. I like to be told what to wear and what to do when I am around my guy. I havent had a hard time finding a guy like that but I dont know if that makes me a sub or just kinky?which makes it hard for me to meet someone here, i dont know if this is the right place, out of the people that i have talked to most are into alot more stuff that I just could not bring myself to do. I guess I just need to know how to meet a guy here for a relationship that is into the same stuff as I am and not get myself into something that could be dangerous....all help is appreciated thanks