I've experience notions of lesser light bondage with my current boyfriend that I have had for 2 years now and he is just now gradually coming into the bdsm scene of dom/sub. I, obviously, prefer to be the sub, but get ambitious and want to switch roles, but am often too afraid. In internet roleplay I can always do things in words without struggle, but in real-life I am simply very shy until I get into it. But does anyone have any info on how a young-one like me could get the man I love, and loves me, to experience this much more? He seems to be my dom by heart, but keeps it secret from himself. And also is there any actions I can begin to take to slowly reach up to that dominant stature, once in awhile? Any suggestions or practices?