Getting Away From a Violent Partner

[Ruby]

Dear Forum Family,

Please help by providing advice. Before you ask, T and I are fine. This thread is for those who've contacted me requesting assistance, those who may be planning to get away or those in the future who will find this thread as a valuable resource for their lives.

Here's the scenario:

A sub/slave is ending a relationship with his/her partner. They may have been married and are now divorced or just terminating a contract. The former partner is violent and is threatening the sub's safety and life if the sub:
a. goes to meetings in the BDSM community
b. reaches out to the BDSMcommunity
c. wants to stay active in the BDSMcommunity
d. and/or do anything that they deem unacceptable behavior

TG has written some amazing articles about the nature D/S relationships, defining who has the power, what is abuse, etc. And we all know that in a good healthy relationship its all about respecting the other person, their wants, needs and desires. But we're not talking about a healthy relationship. We're talking about stalkers and violent people who have lost touch with reality. They truly believe their former sub/slave has no rights, is just a piece of property, etc, etc. Said person also has a history of physically and/or mentally abusing their former sub/slave.

What advice would you give this sub to protect him/herself?

What steps might you take or have you taken to protect yourself or a loved one?

Besides the "safe planning" link at the US National Domestic Hotline, http://www.ndvh.org/help/planning.html, what other links or resources would you recommend?

Thanks in advance for any and all practical advice.

Ruby

PS - If this has been discussed in the past and there are old links in the forums that have valuable advice, please link away.