Hi, folks.

I'm new to this, but I'm interested and curious. I have an introduction in that thread a few weeks back.

My husband has given me permission to explore a bit of BDSM with a Dom, so I've been shopping for one. I've met two online, have been chatting a bit. Something I've noticed about both of them is a bit of showing off, and I dislike it.

They're both professional, accomplished men, one 44 and the other in his 50's, and they have a lot of interesting stories to be sure. The thing is, in these gettin' to know you chitchats, I feel like they're trying too hard to impress me, and it's a turnoff. I confess that I am a huge advocate of subtlety, in my usual life.

So my question is, is it just me and I'm incredibly nitpicky? Or is this behavior something I have good cause to question?

Thanks, folks!