Tonight I was flippant about something, on the phone and it ticked off my dom/fiancee. He had the tone of voice that he was p'd off and wished me a good evening. I called later to apologize and he forgave me, and explained that if I was with him (moving in a week) I'd get a spanking. I admitted quietly, that I deserve it, but his tone didn't seem to change much. THEN it dawned on me that I had hurt his feelings somehow and when I asked he tried to brush it off. So I kept asking, same result, so I assumed it was a yes. So I apologized for hurting his feelings. (Because I had truly not intended that) His tone began to change and we said goodnight with warmth. I sat and cried after hanging up.

Am I crazy? Somehow, somewhere in the mix, I seem to forget that he is a sensitive man. I mean, I knew he was, but I guess maybe I get to thinking that he is so strong, so this/that, that I forget. Is anyone else's dom/any other doms out there this way? I mean, I get that they have to be pretty sensitive to be a good dom and care for their sub/slave well...it's just that I feel damn awful. Being flip/non-submissive doesn't feel good anymore, or is it that I'm feeling bad for having hurt his feelings? How do other subs reconcile this?