Hello all,

I am currently in a vanilla relationship right now. I care for him very much, and we are planning on moving together when I finish college. What attracted me to him from the beginning was his confidence and dominance. He struck me as a Dom, but whenever I bring up BDSM stuff he seems quite turned off. He knows I've dabbled in bondage and other things and own a lot of stuff, but he wont use any of it. I told him of a sex positive group I know of in Seattle (I might be moving there) and he told me he wouldn't be comfortable with that sort of thing.

Do you have any suggestions on how to bring him out of his shell? How can I awaken the inner Dominant in him? How do you erase hang-ups?