Good points raised there big K, yes trust is to me the key of any good bdsm relationship this trust is earned and flourishes in an environment of honesty, openness and understanding.

This is i feel the big difference between vanilla and bdsm couplings, in the vanilla world, we all know of relationships that "survive" on little more than some mediocre shared interests and historic love.

in a bdsm coupling trust and intimacy are essential, as you say Kuskovian it would be easy for a sub to conceal or hide their transgessions, the fact they choose to tell their doms and wish to be punished to atone for their actions demonstrates the love and trust that is essential in a bdsm relationship

For me 24/7 is not something that i feel in modern society is physically possible at all times, it is however as big K states possible within the mind, when needs result in the couple being apart.

As for the things that i as the dom take control of, this depends, and to some extent evolves, as stated trust is essential, this is earned not given and is a two way street, as such i find that more and more my sub begins to seek guidance and approval from me in relation to more and more aspects within their lives.

As the relationship develops and they learn to accept, appreciate and enjoy my control over them they look to me for greater guidance, becoming dependent upon it for their own happiness and peace of mind as they embrace the dynamic of our relationship.

within the confines of trust and understanding my sub embraces her submission, and feels safe and protected, it sounds odd i know, almost a dichotomy but there is no weakness in true and complete surrender only strength, also total submission results in my sub feeling free and liberated.

Statements which i know sound at odds with themselves, but they are true never the less.

Good thread though AdrianaAurora