"As for justifying myself....well I don't really need to justify myself to anyone but those I love ya know?"

Justify might be the wrong term. Because I'm in a similar situation in a one on one myself. Surrounded by vanillas, in love with a woman I have a D/s relationship with.

And you *are* right, I don't have to justify a damn thing to anyone but her and me.

I by no means want to see this turn ugly. I can see why it can be a touchy topic, if I've ruffled anyone the wrong way I do apologize for that.