I really hope this thread doesn't get shut down. It is a topic that hasn't been addressed since I've been a member. Many people new to BDSM come to the forum hoping to learn about the various kinks. Part of that learning is trying to understand the nuts and bolts and psychology of what makes a kink work for those who enjoy it. Not understanding does not always equate to not accepting. If a kink gives pleasure to the participants and doesn't harm anyone, I fully accept it. However, sometimes I struggle with understanding. The more people generously share their mindsets about their kink, the more understanding I achieve. In stating "these are the problems I perceive with this kink," I am hoping someone will explain, as Silke did, why those problems are not problems for her. So many of us are here to learn and figure out just how BDSM might work for us, a thread like this is really helpful.

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