Quote Originally Posted by Silke View Post
'k then...here's my story.

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Ever since that time, we've pretty much shared everything...including the domly one in our lives. *grins* We have a ball plotting mischief, we share the fun and the sadness, support each other, flirt a LOT *giggles*, share our fantasies, wreck Master's nerves....lol, ok, strike that last one - I think he's enjoying it. We've become sisters.

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I think this is what Q was looking for in his post. It's such a sensitive subject, tempers flaired. Some people felt invaded, were put on the defensive. They are the ones lucky enough to be living this arrangement (IMO), and others that truly don't have a desire for it felt the need to speak out. Thank you Silke and Tojo for sharing the intimacies that we don't necsesarily need to know about. I'm glad you all did, because (I hope) that it will move this thread forward positively. Its not a matter of jealousy, it's about 2,3,4-... however many it takes to make a group of individuals enjoy each other. Occasionally, one might get jealous or one might feel neglected. Thats what a poly relationship deals with. Sexual benefits aside, its FUN. Some of us like to play together, not occasionally but all the time, and I sincerely hope that everyone can understand that. Do we have that truly intimate one on one experience? If we are allowed the time to grow, just as a vanilla or a mono bdsm couple has, possibly so. I honestly can't say for sure, because I'm guiding us into it, but I never want to hurt angel. If she puts the breaks on it out of discomfort, I will listen to her, but so far, she's ready to embrace it as much as me. Some of us need this. It's not about committing to a single person. It's about a few people that have searched all their lives for what makes them whole, and they have finally realized that they can't find it without a couple of partners. For those that can, hell yeah, *tips the hat to you*. Congratulations, you've aquired what most search for, but please, don't pass judgement on the others that find it a different way. I'd spend some time getting into graphic details, but instead, I'll say...I don't have the...um...equipment that keeps angel happy all the time. She has a fondness for... let's just say that I don't have it all...

Thank you Q for the thread that you started. I've learned alot from reading everyone's responses. Sorry I've cheated it and posted without answering your questions. I am trying to get there, but I can't post the answers because I haven't lived through the dynamic yet. *Crosses fingers* perhaps eventually I'll know and be able to respond from experience instead of desire.