So, I'm a switch now.

[Hime]

So we've been exploring our newly poly relationship and having a lot of fun. A few months ago, I looked into online dating to see if I could meet some women to date on the side, or possibly bring into our relationship (all with D's knowledge and permission, of course). Since there seem to be a lot more submissive women than switches or Dommes in my local dating pool, I had sort of thought "well, I can switch a little if I have to, but I don't think I can really get into that kind of persona."

I'd messed around a bit with this really great lady I met on the dating site, but we hadn't gotten really kinky except for the occasional ass smack or something. I think we were both sort of nervous about what to do about us both being submissives. But then last weekend, we were making out in her car in a parking garage in the middle of the night, and she adjusted her seat back so that I was positioned over her, and within a couple of minutes things just clicked and I was pulling her hair and making her beg me to suck on her tits, and she was moaning that she was my slut ... and I loved it. I wasn't expecting that.

I was amazed by how sexy and powerful I felt. I sort of let go of the rules that I must have in my head somewhere about what it's okay for a girl to want or to express, and just let myself enjoy her. For the first time I wasn't concerned about whether I was pleasing enough or attractive enough. I could just appreciate how gorgeous and sexy my partner is.

A few days later, we were talking online and ended up going through a whole scene in cyber. It wasn't anything especially hardcore or elaborate, but it was enough to make me feel confident that I can be in control and actually know what I'm doing. Part of this is because I've learned from watching D and A (our soon-to-be live-in gf) do it, but I think part of it comes from inside of me, too, from parts of me that I hadn't really connected with before.

We're seeing each other again tomorrow, and I'm so excited. I don't feel like my submissiveness is at all diminished, and I still belong to my husband and love to serve him -- in fact, after I got back from my little adventure last weekend, he spent most of the next day putting me through my paces. But this is part of me, too, and it feels really good to be okay with exploring that, to finally be in a place in my life where I'm not afraid to be someone different from who I thought I was. That's a huge step for me. And I just wanted to share it with you lovely people.

[Euryleia]

Congratulations. It sounds like you're developing good skills and having fun. Best wishes as you take the next steps.

[Alex Bragi]

Mm.. sounds like it was quite serendipitous. *ss*

[angelic.zest]

Congrats, Hime! So happy to hear about your newly found switch side!!

[jeanne]

Wow! That's lovely. Thank you, Hime, for sharing your news with us!

[Warbaby1943]

Good for you. Sounds like you have opened up a whole new chapter in your life and one you seem destined to fully enjoy.

[DowntownAmber]

Lovely story, thank you so much for sharing!

[gemmy]

this is a very interesting post as i've always wondered how one could reconcile being a switch as i've not a Dominant bone in my body and have no desire to so wondered how that would come about for someone

thank you for sharing!

gem,
xo

[Slutsie]

Very interesting, thanks for sharing!

[icey]

glad you enjoyed it it must have felt very different for you.

like mastersgem i cant imagine dominating anyone it just isnt there for me.
i hope its ok for me to ask but what really interests me is afterwards, do you feel how you do after sex as a submissive? or does it take a while to readjust?

[Hime]

glad you enjoyed it it must have felt very different for you.

like mastersgem i cant imagine dominating anyone it just isnt there for me.
i hope its ok for me to ask but what really interests me is afterwards, do you feel how you do after sex as a submissive? or does it take a while to readjust?

Immediately afterwards, I felt pretty much the way I usually feel after a positive sexual experience. It was not the kind of profound fulfillment that I experience when I submit to my husband, but it was a really happy feeling. I felt strong and beautiful, and I also felt happy that I had obviously really pleased my partner.

One thing that I thought was kind of interesting was that it did make it a little tricky switching back into being submissive. When my husband and I woke up the next day and he asked me to do a task for him, I needed to play with him for a couple of minutes before I really felt like my head was in the right place, whereas normally the minute he tells me to do something I snap right into my role as submissive. I don't really think that's a bad thing, just a different element. Being submissive still feels like my true nature and the happiest place for me to be all the time, but I don't feel like I'm losing that, just gaining something different.

Thank you everyone for the words of encouragement.

[cadence]

Thanks so much for sharing your story Hime, it is good that you are able to ease into your new found discovery so easily.

[Ozme52]

Sounds lovely for you Hime.

[browny]

Wow. thats wicked Hime. Im glad you've discovered a new side of you. Hope you and your partner have fun exploring you newfound inner switch.

[gloombunny]

That's awesome.

And kinda hot.

[Logic1]

So you opened up a "hidden compartment" in yourself you didnt know you had then?
Congratulations!
sure sounds like you two had great fun
*thumbs up*

[gloombunny]

So you opened up a "hidden compartment" in yourself you didnt know you had then?

I bet she enjoyed it, too. At least, I know I'd enjoy opening up Hime's hidden compartment.



IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN WINK WINK

[Hime]

I bet she enjoyed it, too. At least, I know I'd enjoy opening up Hime's hidden compartment.



IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN WINK WINK

Subtle.

[Logic1]

Subtle.

rofl
not really, but real funny

[Lion]

Sounds amazing, give us updates please