Help with online punishment

[LickmyBoot22]

I am new here and I am curious to see if anyone here has any good ideas. I have been involved in an online relationship for a couple months with a sub-male and we plan to meet next month but until then he is instructed each day to perform some sort of task for me. I enjoy denying his orgasms for several days each week. He does pretty good but he recently lost control and luckily he admitted it to me. I was at a loss of what type of punishment I should give him. I find it rather hard since we live so far apart.
Is there anyone here who might have a similiar situation and what do you do to punish? We are not into extreme pain or humiliation so somethings might not work for us.
Bren

[Warrior]

Well, I am in a similar situation. Although in general, I prefer cyber to remote control. Also, I find that I can be quite spontaneous and rarely get stuck on what to do.

Here are some random ideas -

get him to kneel (at least long enough to make his knees sore) and lightly pinch himself all over.

Get him to bring himself colse to cumming, then have a cold shower, then go for a run, wait a bit, then repeat - this should tire him out.

No pillow or sleep on the floor for that night.

Dance and sing naked.

Get him to write lines (with pen and paper).
For example - "I will not have an orgasm without permission" X 50.

Get him to write a 500 word document.

Have him miss watching his favourite TV show/radio programme or some other habit he enjoys (no dessert?).

I don't know how useful any of the above ideas will be to you (considering I made most of them up on the spot) - but I hope they are of some help.

[vinsint]

Make him cum 3-4 times in a very short time span, in an effort to make him very sore for a few days.

"Tuck it in" all day while at work, very uncomfortable.

Flog himself until his ass is red. If you have a cam, you can surely inspect it.

Have him fuck something he normally wouldn't in an effort to embaras him. I think I read somewhere a dom mad her sub try some vegaetables around the house, handfull of crushed ice, napkin holder...

shave all his hair and let the stubbies torment him for a few days.

* thinks *

[Barton]

Wash with ice water.

Barton

[Canopus]

One punishment teyha hates is to stand in a corner for a certain amount of time. With her hands behind her head. Nose touching the wall.

Sure, nothing dramtic, or intense, but she learns her lesson. It gives her time to think, to reflect on what put here there. Gives her a deep sense of humilation.

What you need to do is get inside your subs head a little more, find their fears, concerns. Perhaps more importantly what they like. That way you can design the punishment, rewards that suit you

Remember the first rule of D/s - There are no rules

Canopus

[LickmyBoot22]

I want to thank everyone for their responses. There were some great ones... I personally loved the Wash with ice water and Make him cum 3-4 times in a very short time span. I also like the idea of doing something while he is at work. Tucking it in is good and I am trying to come up with something else to constantly remind him of me and his transgressions.
I know the more we get to know each other it will be easier to gauge what works best for him and for me. I love how every D/s relationship is so completely different and something I might have loved to do to one person just doesn't seem as fun with someone else. We are going to be meeting in just a couple weeks and then I can really get into his head.
Thanks for the suggestions and keep 'em coming.