Favorite aspect of BDSM

[Master13]

BDSM covers a lot of ground. What aspect of it most appeals to you?

[GaryWilcox]

I really like the prospect of someone tied down... Domination came in a close second, but honestly, I like to tie.

[Dslave]

For me, it is the combination of pain and humiliation that leads to discipline. If it didn't lead to some sort of exercise of discipline and some greater learning experience it wouldn't be nearly as fulfilling to me.

[angelpet]

I would have to say "Dominance/obedience" is my most favorite. And then I would have to say "Discipline: Light/Playful" would be next with "Bondage" coming in Third. "Humiliation" would be my least favorite. And Dang...I have all kinds of room for "Other"!

[sweetplymate]

yeah, i wanted and "all of the above" option so instead i had to settle for Domination/obediance as for me the rest of it comes along with obeying my Master

[Katmandu]

Well, I want to say Bondage is first, but I like the pain as well, although mostly the pain as I'm tied down. But then again, it takes a strong Dom to get this sub trussed up, therefore, I like/need the Dominance/ Submission aspect. Don't care much for the humiliation, though. I mean, why? If you want your sub to be less-than human, what value is there in him/her? Maybe I'm just conceited. Maybe I just need a good strong Dom to tie me up and.....
that brings us back to 'doe' !

[Gallardo]

I voted for bondage but humiliation came in a very very close second. Kat's comments on "less than human" made me ponder. On further thought, I think it's a vote between reality and fantasy.

In life, few things rival a helpless woman in bondage, unable to resist the evil plot to befall her. In fantasy, it is much more satisfying (for me anyways) to push boundaries, those of safe, sane and consensual. Hence it is much more fun to humiliate a sub - to treat her "less than human" and to push her against her will not only physically but mentally as well.

Having said that, I disagree that humiliation is equivalent than "less than human". In fact, it is "more than human" or at least, true to oneself. Different strokes for different folks?

[Learn Humility]

Don't care much for the humiliation, though. I mean, why? If you want your sub to be less-than human, what value is there in him/her?

I always try and tailor my handling of a submissive to meet her needs as well as mine. D/s is, after all, a relationship that in some respects is very much like any other. May subs enjoy the humiliation aspect, and the fact that it is a particular turn on for me is a bonus.

To have the submissive perform in a humiliating manner increases my feeling of power of her, particularly when there is resistance, or the sub displays a demeanor of accomplishment and class to the vanilla world.

I have found that most subs find it humiliating to be walked down the street collared and leashed, while some can feel quite proud. Some find it humiliating yet quite enjoyable to be urinated on, while some are grossed out by the idea.

But I don't see how either activity makes a submissive "less than human".

[devil_in_high_heels]

i'm new to all this *blushes*, But i'm all up for bondage and dominance/obedience.

[Rex]

I find bondage to be the catalyst for bdsm "play". seeing my woman tied down to a point of her not being able to move anything but her eyeballs. This would surely mean that various spin-offs come into play. She is helpless -- useless -- totally dominated -- in full submission -- feeling almost like an object (and loving it) -- so total obedience automatically kicks in. Depending on what foreplay is stirred up, the endorphins build to a point that your "toy" wants more than just penetration. She leaves me to devise different methods of satisfaction -- whipping -- clips -- no pins or blood because i know the limits of her endurance -->
*thinking* this might be getting a little long winded for some but as we are all in the same circle of fantasy, I'm sure you get the drift.
Bottom line: its bondage for me with all the rest falls into place naturally.
Just play sane and safe to gain her trust and eventually, you can both extend the boundaries. Its mentally stimulating planning your next cession.
Have phunn :-[

[rob.wilson]

I want to change my vote! I voted for Bondage but after thinking about it, the "other" catagory is best for me.

I was at a club spanking a young women yesterday and was happily in "Dom Space", but the morning before the girlfriend and I were playing a game where she served me like a maid would. No sex or bondage was involved but the intensity of it was astounding.

I think I'm attracted to all parts of the BDSM puzzel. So lets move my vote to "Other" or "All of the above!"

[sirken]

I voted for Domination as think there can be none of the others until that is established in the relationship

[alura]

I guess that's true, but wouldn't you say that it's also important to know what YOU personally like before you go into any relationship? That way there's no room for emotional or physiological damange. (dang, I can't spell today!)

Of course, that's only my opinion and only one of zillions, I'm sure.

Although, I must admit that the idea of a big dominating me, as long as I know that he loves me (and he doesn't leave scars or draw blood) is extremely titillating. I guess my biggest fantasy has always been to be 'owned' by someone and expected to trust them, no matter what. The idea of eating at a man's feet after he's fed me, having him feed me scraps/tidbits is equally exciting. Of course I also have more interesting fantasies, like bathing my lover and then drying him off with my tongue.....

Whoa! DOWN, girl!

Lord, this place is bringing out the real me, that's for sure!

[alura]

Do you really look like your picture or are you hiding like the rest of us? -grin

I voted for Domination as think there can be none of the others until that is established in the relationship

[sirken]

The number one favorite wasnt on the list so I said Domination but as you said the true number one is trust and growing on the journey, learning everything about each other, so you and that person can become as one, the images stirred by what you wrote brought back fond memories thank you

Ps::: the hair is grayer now comes with age and experience

[TaintedLovexx]

Mmmm, obediance.

[Sam'sJasmine]

I picked dominance/obedience, the pleasure and excitement I get from me wanting to obey and/or being made to obey turns me into a wet slut. I enjoy the feeling of being ordered to do things that are not within the sexual "norms”; I like being a slut to Him and only Him. I also like to fight and laugh during play. Hence the uppity bottom. I love it when he wraps my long hair around his hand and makes me do what he wants, whether its to suck his cock, get ready to go somewhere, or throw me down on the bed, pull down my jeans and give me a hard hand spanking, the paddle, the crop, or the whip (or all of the above hehe ). I enjoy the other aspects of BDSM, but nothing gets me wetter faster than being dominated.

[Misanthrope]

Well, I'm more of a masochist than anything, so you can guess what I picked. Gonna visit my Mistress soon, and luckily for me she recently got a new riding crop. Since we will be taking a 5 hour car ride to visit her folks, I expect to have a very sore ass before it even starts.

I like bondage, but have yet to have much experience with it.

Not too much into humiliation, but I don't mind it.

[candiL]

for me, humiliation & discipline hardcore are the most.

i like having someone make me do something that i wouldnt have ever thought of doing. grosser & crazier the more it excites.

[peter de sade]

for me, humiliation & discipline hardcore are the most.

i like having someone make me do something that i wouldnt have ever thought of doing. grosser & crazier the more it excites.

Glad to hear you love humiliation and discipline. So do I and I am happy to share some ideas with you as to how I could take a willing sub like you and really turn her on with some wild situations. We can really go to the limits, if you are willing to make the journey.

Peter de Sade

[salpecam]

It has to be obedience. For me, the knowledge that she will do as she is told is a lot of the enjoyment. When the moment comes, she will obey, regardless of:
1. Where we are.
2. Who can see us.
3. What I will do.
4. Whether it will hurt.

[sweetlitlwon]

Darn its so hard to choose just one but I think for me overall it is being Dominated however domination in my relationship means bondage,humiliation and yes sometimes pain.So I guess Domination has to be my choice.

[alura]

I was reading this thread again today and you know, I have to renige on my answer because I really agree with you. The ultimate turn-on is being Dommed, plain and simple.
Kneeling at their feet and knowing that the next moment, a heartbeat away, might hold anything....and everything.

Darn its so hard to choose just one but I think for me overall it is being Dominated however domination in my relationship means bondage,humiliation and yes sometimes pain.So I guess Domination has to be my choice.

[Kaori-san]

I was reading this thread again today and you know, I have to renige on my answer because I really agree with you. The ultimate turn-on is being Dommed, plain and simple.
Kneeling at their feet and knowing that the next moment, a heartbeat away, might hold anything....and everything.

My thoughts exactly, just being ordered to do whatever a Dom says, being their good, little pet. Thats the best for me over all others.

[Dangermouse]

I would have to say my favorite aspect is bondage combined with teasing and denial. (M/f, or F/f) There is nothing quite so erotic as being brought to the very edge of climax only to have it stopped and then begin the process anew, over and over. The longer you last the better the rewards are!