Hello

[Xmaster1]

I hate doing intro posts and when the website eats the first one, well it isn't fun.
I am a 48 y/o male dom. Not looking for anyone specifically but I enjoy training new online subs, and enjoy the challenge experienced subs offer. I am not into S/M. More D/S, some bondage, pet play, etc.
Been in and out of the lifestyle IRL and online for 20 years and still learning.

[coffeelover]

Hello. Hope you enjoy yourself and meet some cool new people.

[Domin8or]

Welcome to this place. Enjoy it.

[Xmaster1]

Thanks. I am. Some nice people here so far.

[denuseri]

Welcome to the site; it was nice meeting you in chat last night!

[Xmaster1]

It was nice meeting you as well. Thank you for the warm welcome.

[maddy1991]

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[Xmaster1]

how do you train online?

Well it might start in email or even forum posts then progress to IM or here in a private chat. First I find out what you think you want, let the sub (I will use you to make it easier) know what I expect if you decide you wish to be trained. You are given a set of rules and punishments for breaking the rules. Most likely you will break rules and be punished. Rules will be added or changed as I learn more about you. No two masters are the same but once you are trained you will know how to behave with most masters and not embarrass me.

[maddy1991]

I'm really interested but I am nervous because this is all new to me. (: I just need some guidance on what to do.

[Xmaster1]

Well I hope to be in the chat room later. We can talk some if you want. There is no real right or wrong just what feels right to you.

[maddy1991]

How do you train a person online?

[maddy1991]

Well how do I start it? I'm kinda scared to ask this next question because it's probably obvious but would I be able to hide this from my boyfriend? I'm afraid that he wouldn't approve. I am 150 miles away from him except for about 1 weekend a month.

[Xmaster1]

You start by talking to like minded poeple. Take it slow if you need to. Play with a few different people. Find out if you really want to be a sub or domme. Relax take deep breaths. This should be fun and exciting. Hiding it from your bf can come back to bite you so be careful. You can use IE 8 or 9 inprivate browsing to keep it out of your history. Don't save passwords. Get him involved if you can!

[maddy1991]

I think hiding it would be best for now. Maybe later down the road I could get him involved. I am super excited about getting into this and learning more about the lifestyle. I am shy though so it might take some warming up to..

[Xmaster1]

Oh yeah I know about shy. I may be the shyest don you will ever meet. No rush anyone worth it will push you but not harder than you can handle. Keep askin questions.

[maddy1991]

I love asking questions (: I'm pretty positive I would be a sub, not a dom. I'm too indecisive to make my own choices, let alone tell someone else what to do. So when you give someone a set of rules, how are you sure that they follow them? And what kind of rules are they? Would you give me chores to do? And then how would you punish someone from so far away? Is this mostly based on trust and communication?

[Xmaster1]

Absolutely. I trust you to obey and report when you fail to obey. The hardest part of being an online sub or slave is punishment and pain. You have to administer your own physical punishments. However punishment could be to write a letter explaining why you failed to obey and how you feel knowing you disappointed me.
Yes tasks or chores as you put it. Withholding orgasms or making you play multiple times per day. So many options. Need to know you better to know what you like and dislike. For example one sub hated having to kneel on the floor so that became a punishment for her. Another loved it so it was a reward.

[maddy1991]

I see. I like how that works. ( :

[Xmaster1]

Now say you cheat. I've told you to wear a thong and short skirt to go shopping in (yes I know a very mild task) and you say you did but instead you wore sweatpants. Who did you cheat? Me? Not really. I imagined you in the sexy reveiling outfit. You cheated yourself by not accepting your resposibility and pushing your limits.

[rosebud]

Hello Xmaster, Welcome to the Library!
Have fun!

xx rosie

[Xmaster1]

Thank you dear one.

[phyllis]

I am a relative newcomer to this lifestyle.Being a lesbo I am not very succesful in finding a partner who is anxious to share the joys with me. Can you suggest what would help ? Thank youi

[rosebud]

I am a relative newcomer to this lifestyle.Being a lesbo I am not very succesful in finding a partner who is anxious to share the joys with me. Can you suggest what would help ? Thank youi

phyllis, this is the 'Introductions' thread. Your post should perhaps, be placed in the
'General BDSM Q&A' thread....