Thread: hi

**louise** · 09-01-2006

hi! my name is louise, i'm 27 and live in the netherlands i have been reading the stories for quit a while now and just recently found out there is a forum as well.
i have had sub-feelings for as long as i can remember, but have never linked it to bdsm, until 1,5 year ago. it was as if the world made sense again.
small problem though: i am married to a vanilla man who will never ever change...

sigh... maybe there's more of you out there who are in the same situation? how do you deal with it?
there you have it, a small introduction in my very best high-school-english (ahum)!

grr louise

Uncle_Ed · 09-01-2006

Hi Louise!

I know that you'll find you're one of many in this particular predicament.

This is the place to find friendly advice-so stick around!

Ed

**maddie** · 09-01-2006

Hello louise and welcome to the forums! I hope you'll find lots of interesting things here.

**dzire2pleeze** · 09-01-2006

greetings, louise....you are most certainly not the only submissive in a vanilla relationship. stick around and you will undoubtedly find an outlet for your frustration.

**Tojo** · 09-01-2006

Hi & welcome louise, thanks for saying hi.

Oh yes many of us are in straight relationships & dream about kinky stuff.

I, like many others get my kicks online as a rule while married to a lovely lady who's pretty much straight.

Hope you enjoy it here.

Tojo

**Silke** · 09-01-2006

Hiya and

to the forums, louise. Sorry to hear about your dilemma...maybe we can take care of the kinky frustration for you here...

I hope you'll find this an interesting and friendly place to hang out. Enjoy!

cariad · 09-01-2006

Hello louise and congratulations on such excellent English.

As has already been said there are many people here in the same situation as you, and whilst there is no magical answer it is always comforting knowing you are not alone. Most people seem to focus on getting the most of out of their vanilla marriage in real life, whilst using on line as an outlet, sometimes just as a reassurance that they are not mad, and sometimes as a way of having a virtual kinky relationship.

But don't rush into anything, you are with friends here, who both understand and care.

cariad

**master 327-834-200** · 09-01-2006

What more can I add to the comments of my friends here? Settle in read lots and ask questions if you want and maybe check out the Academy, but most of all have fun.