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    [help needed]Engagement rings

    So me and my wonderful and beautiful, (and fantastic) slave is getting married August 4th.

    We've found matching rings that look good. Now's the problem. We want to engrave something on them that is very symbolic of our relationship, comitment and love.

    Our names don't really aply since we've changed her name to "slave". I don't want a ring saying "slave". It would feel silly, (kind of unmastery).

    We don't want "Master" and "slave" or "owner" and "property" either. It just doesn't feel right, because it's too stereotypical.

    Any ideas are very welcome. One idea that stuck though is having one word with connection to BDSM devide it up into two and have each part on each ring. Now here comes the reason why I'm making this long winded post.

    We can't think of a good word.

    If you have a better idea up your sleave, (or slave) don't hesitate to share it with me. How did you do when you married your slave?

    thanks
    -Tom and Slavie

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    Will try to think - but currently distracted by the idea of having ideas stored in one...

    cariad

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    How about using the word consensual. It is obviously used in the BDSM term SS&C, but more significantly is a foundational value of your relationship. It has the added advantage of being explainable, albeit to a limited extent to vanillas.

    c n e s a ... o s n u l

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    Quote Originally Posted by cariad View Post
    How about using the word consensual. It is obviously used in the BDSM term SS&C, but more significantly is a foundational value of your relationship. It has the added advantage of being explainable, albeit to a limited extent to vanillas.

    c n e s a ... o s n u l

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    You're a star darling. Off-course that's genious. But consensual isn't particularly specific for our relationship. It's basically true for any relationship outside rural India.

    How about?
    o e i n e
    b d e c

    What do you all think of that one? "Obedience" is definitely an importand facet of our relationship, if not the most important.

    It's still open. We're far from making a choice. More words that could work? Please share.

    I thought I'd add a pic of the rings. The text will go on the front of them. In big letters.
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    that is a neat idea, c.

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    I like cariad's idea! Dividing up the word is a great idea, but doing it in the way she suggests- that's just perfect!

    And congratulations to you and yours, Tom.
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    love the rings!

    and i like cariad's idea as well...very unique

    or..

    you could take the first letter of a few words that define her love/service to you...as well as yours to her and put them on the rings...

    so her ring has the letters S O L (submission/slave, obedience, loyalty/love) just as an example...and yours could have D L T S (Dominance/Discipline, loyalty/love, training, strength....)

    just examples...you don't have to use all of those words and each letter could mean something different or have multiple meanings to you and her...but it would be nice for her to look down at the rings and always be reminded of what you are giving and sharing with each other in your relationship.
    "To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering."


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    Quote Originally Posted by baby girl(W) View Post
    love the rings!

    and i like cariad's idea as well...very unique

    or..

    you could take the first letter of a few words that define her love/service to you...as well as yours to her and put them on the rings...

    so her ring has the letters S O L (submission/slave, obedience, loyalty/love) just as an example...and yours could have D L T S (Dominance/Discipline, loyalty/love, training, strength....)

    just examples...you don't have to use all of those words and each letter could mean something different or have multiple meanings to you and her...but it would be nice for her to look down at the rings and always be reminded of what you are giving and sharing with each other in your relationship.

    Great idea. But. We had a discussion and came up with this demand on the text on the rings. What we write on the rings must mean something in it's own right. I don't want it to need an explanation. It needing some thought and need to work it out is all right, (like Cariads suggestion).

    Thanks for your effort anyhow.

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    Hmmmmm, obedience does not work for me, since it is only a one way thing - you are not obedient to her.

    How about the word service since that is a two way thing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by cariad View Post
    Hmmmmm, obedience does not work for me, since it is only a one way thing - you are not obedient to her.

    How about the word service since that is a two way thing?

    cariad
    You mean a word that also shows my emotional commitment? Wouldn't it be better to have two different words then? Service is a little bit....vague? One with "obedience" and the other with.... "loyalty".... or something that means my dedication to her, and willingness to take responsibility for her.

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    Tom,

    I like cariad's idea, but I am a romantic at heart. You should consider it as I am sure your salve would be most appreciative.

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    Well i was thinking that marriage is a form of bondage, you are binding your lives and hearts together. So what about something like bound heart or something in that vein? i will try to think of something more poetic.


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    Quote Originally Posted by gladgirl24 View Post
    Well i was thinking that marriage is a form of bondage, you are binding your lives and hearts together. So what about something like bound heart or something in that vein? i will try to think of something more poetic.


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    I was trying to come up with a word which was applicable to you both, although may have slightly different meanings for you both. I agree service could be a bit vague, although, assuming your relationship is as I imagine it to be, is applicable. Whatever word(s) you choose I think it is important that it is not gimmicky, it still needs to be powerful, stylish and classy in 30 years time!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cariad View Post
    I was trying to come up with a word which was applicable to you both, although may have slightly different meanings for you both. I agree service could be a bit vague, although, assuming your relationship is as I imagine it to be, is applicable. Whatever word(s) you choose I think it is important that it is not gimmicky, it still needs to be powerful, stylish and classy in 30 years time!

    cariad
    30 years!!! Now I'm swooning. God that would be wonderful. Sitting with my slave on a porch, raisin skin. Me in a rocking chair, her on the floor....both of us looking into the sunset.

    Where was I....em....ok. I think 30 years is a good goal to aim for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cariad View Post
    I was trying to come up with a word which was applicable to you both, although may have slightly different meanings for you both. I agree service could be a bit vague, although, assuming your relationship is as I imagine it to be, is applicable. Whatever word(s) you choose I think it is important that it is not gimmicky, it still needs to be powerful, stylish and classy in 30 years time!

    cariad
    smiles... I painted a pic of us sitting in a double rocker, both old and outlines of kids and grandkids off to the side.. was very similiar..tot he thoughts here.

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    Hi Tom,

    Well, I don't really know you or your slave very well, so comming up with a word that describes your relationship uniquely is a bit difficult, but an idea is to use latin words. A few examples (and I don't speak latin, so you might want to check these with someone who does if you like them):

    tutis: trusted, protected, safe

    inservio: to be a slave, serve, be devoted to

    pareo: to be obedient to, obey.

    dominus: master, lord

    ardor -oris m. [flame , burning, heat]; of bright objects, [gleam]; of feelings (esp. of love), [heat, eagerness]; meton., [an object of love, loved one].

    confido -fidere -fisus sum [to have complete trust in , be assured]. Hence
    partic.

    ... just throwing the idea out there... I wish you both all the best!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Avely View Post
    Hi Tom,

    Well, I don't really know you or your slave very well, so comming up with a word that describes your relationship uniquely is a bit difficult, but an idea is to use latin words. A few examples (and I don't speak latin, so you might want to check these with someone who does if you like them):

    tutis: trusted, protected, safe

    inservio: to be a slave, serve, be devoted to

    pareo: to be obedient to, obey.

    dominus: master, lord

    ardor -oris m. [flame , burning, heat]; of bright objects, [gleam]; of feelings (esp. of love), [heat, eagerness]; meton., [an object of love, loved one].

    confido -fidere -fisus sum [to have complete trust in , be assured]. Hence
    partic.

    ... just throwing the idea out there... I wish you both all the best!

    Avely
    Thanks, those are nice. We've decided that if we have two words it must be what we want to tell the other we feel.

    She's settled for having the word "obedience" on hers. I on the other hand would like to have something that's a combination of "authority" and "loyalty". "Care" would be nice to fit in...but it may get a bit crowded. Got any latin ones for that?

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    If you want to use the same word for both, I'd go with devotion.

    For a counterpart to obedience, for some reason I really like dominion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Avely View Post

    tutis: trusted, protected, safe

    inservio: to be a slave, serve, be devoted to

    pareo: to be obedient to, obey.

    dominus: master, lord
    love love love these ones....why not all 4 of them, all the way around the rings so that no matter what way the rings turn on your finger, you will see a part of your relatioship?

    congratulations to You and yours, Sir

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    Ohhhh, nice idea Avely! Hmmmmm, very nice.

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    I think they all good ideas and I esp like Avely's idea of the latin.

    congratulaions to u both

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    Just been searching for ideas for the wedding bands inscriptions and came upon W.I.I.W.D. 'What it is we do'. Some great suggestions coming in and I'm sure you'll find the right one that works. Good Luck.

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    If you wish to take the Latin route...

    Dominus (Master) and ancilla (house slave) or obsequor (obedient).

    That is based on rusty school girl latin. If you are going to go down the Latin route I will check with ColinClout first for you, since he is a professional in such matters, unless someone else here is a wizz in ancient languages.

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    Well, the wedding bands do resemble the links of a golden chain. My idea would be to engrave them with something like "love chain". That would sound romantic even for those who have no idea you are into BDSM.

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    I really liked cariad's idea of a Latin word. So, following that theme, I found these that I thought you may consider:

    debeo - to be morally bound to
    spondeo - to betroth, promise, pledge
    perennis - everlasting, uninterrupted
    sempiterna - eternal
    verus - true, real, proper, right
    perfectus - complete, done, without flaw
    iunctus - connected, joined together
    conjugium - wedlock
    licet - it is right, just
    totus - whole, entire, complete, all
    plene - completely, wholly, fully

    Hope this helps you out!

    So will you share a pic when after you have them engraved?

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    Quote Originally Posted by pixie_dust View Post


    So will you share a pic when after you have them engraved?

    off-course we will. It's the least we can do to repay you all.

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    Tom congrats and great job on the rings Hope you both are happy. Sorry I can not help you with advice here. Because I haven't thought about marring my slave yet. But I do know one thing tho. She will never leave my side her choice. Grats again and May your days be happy.


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    That's wonderful news, Tom. I'm so very happy for you both.

    I like the idea of the safe word, but like Avely, I lean towards something in Latin. Semper fidelis- always faithful, Non sibi sed dominus - Not for one's self but one's master, Do ut des - I give so that you give back
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alex Bragi View Post
    That's wonderful news, Tom. I'm so very happy for you both.

    I like the idea of the safe word, but like Avely, I lean towards something in Latin. Semper fidelis- always faithful, Non sibi sed dominus - Not for one's self but one's master, Do ut des - I give so that you give back
    ...and then we've got the issue of space. We're not doing the normal squigly engraving. Too gay for my tastes.

    We're doing it with old fascioned type writer types. The engraver told us that it will look crowded with more than ten characters. We're also engraving the outside of the rings. The point with the ring is to tell the world of my love.

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