how to humiliate husband

[subcpluk]

hi
is there anyone can help us he gos nearly all the way than at the last point the defence comes up !!!! how can i humiliate him so there is no turning back !!!


thanks chrissy

[Ruby]

Hi Chrissy,

To answer your questions a bit more information would help.

Just what is it you are attempting to do to/with your man?

Is this something he wants to happen?

Ruby

[Ruby]

Clarification from Chrissy in a private message: Husband says he wants 24/7 D/S relationship, then pulls back.

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Hi Chrissy,

For many people, there is a huge turn on thinking about living as a 24/7 submissive. It's a fantastic fantasy.

Then life happens. Work, family, friends, kids, etc.

What sounded hot in a moment of passion, doesn't sound so hot when others enter the picture.

Have you ever seen the "Twighlight Zone" episode where the man got everything he ever wanted? As it turns out, he died and went to ... Hell.

Why do you want him to be your 24/7 submissive?

What does that mean to you? To him? How would it change what you are already doing? What expectations would you place on each other?

What will you get out of it?

What will he?

I'm not asking you to answer those questions in a pm or here on the forums. Please think about those questions. Communicate with your husband. Truly define what it is you want today, knowing that you may want something else tomorrow.

We live in a real world, with lots of choices and more than 31 flavors of ice cream. Perhaps the reason he is holding back, is because he'd like to experience more than just one flavor.

Ruby

PS

On a side note. Humilation does not have to be part of a D/S relationship. If it works for the two of you, great. If not, then try something else.

[Timberwolf]

Ruby as always, talking excellent sense.

[Helen D]

I agree with everything Ruby says, and would only add that 24/7 is perhaps the biggest responsibility for a Domme as well as a sub.
There is so much involved in any power exchange that the total unreversible aspects of becoming a 24/7 slave is a whole quantum leap beyond the type of relationship where a subblie may eventualy walk away from it.
Sometimes even the longest journey must begin with one step.
think about it carefully with your partner and see if it really is a journey you both wish to take.