Feedback from new subs?

[Warbaby1943]

Uncle Ed is MIA!

I sent him a PM. Mail box was full. I sent him an email and haven't heard from him. Hope he comes back.

[submissivewife]

He did just bury his mother...so be patient. I do hope he will be back.

[Warbaby1943]

He did just bury his mother...so be patient. I do hope he will be back.

I didn't know that. I thought it may have been for some other reason.

[submissivewife]

Yeah, from what I understand he's taking it very hard.

[Warbaby1943]

Yeah, from what I understand he's taking it very hard.

Thanks for the info.

[wkcbitch]

If you are trying to learn how to control submissivewife give it up.

She is a good girl...she listens to her elders..most of the time...we do stuff for each other all the time...and controll subwife...you are absolutely right..she is the MOST stubborn wench alive. LOL!

[wkcbitch]

NO WHIPS EITHER! If I can't have my crop you can't have your whip....

I love you sissy..WEG!

[submissivewife]

She is a good girl...she listens to her elders..most of the time...we do stuff for each other all the time...and controll subwife...you are absolutely right..she is the MOST stubborn wench alive. LOL!

I'm not stubborn!

[Warbaby1943]

I love you sissy..WEG!

Now that's better. Tojo may not have to make that trip after all.

[dzire2pleeze]

Sorry I didn't even see you there amongst all the shennanigans dzire2pleeze.

Welcome & thanks for a lovely intro. We'll hold you to your promise & make sure you don't get away.

Nice to have you aboard, jump in & enjoy yourself- as you seem to be doing already.

Tojo

I am most definitely enjoying myself. thank you. But i think i will have to go back to school with Wkcbitch. Just can't seem to get the hang of avatars and all the other cute things this site has to offer.

Wkcbitch hope you enjoy your studies and, by the way, thanks for the warning about subwife.

[Tojo]

Click on 'User CP' up the top to find avatars dzire2pleeze. Then just click on 'edit avatar.' Any probs, please ask.


Tojo

[dzire2pleeze]

thank you kindly, Tojo. Found an avatar that is most appropriate for me. It wasn't my favorite, but it says a lot about me. I guess i'll just keep learning one thing at a time. appreciate your help.

[Tojo]

My pleasure d2p- to make a cool signature under each post, go to 'edit signature' in the User CP.

Ask away, we're happy to help.


Tojo

[wkcbitch]

I am most definitely enjoying myself. thank you. But i think i will have to go back to school with Wkcbitch. Just can't seem to get the hang of avatars and all the other cute things this site has to offer.

Wkcbitch hope you enjoy your studies and, by the way, thanks for the warning about subwife.

No prob! Thats what I am here for.

[buzzy]

new sub, new to lifestyle, and loving it. I have a loving,caring and sadistic Mistress teaching me ways. Life is good.

[buzzy]

how's it going? Great, wonderful life has never been so full. I have a great Domme, who delights is teach me the ways of a sub and how to keep my mouth shut, less something "cheeky" comes out and she has to have a discussion with me. Then, sometimes being cheeky is so much fun for my sadistic, loving, tender Mistress. lol. Life is good, I enjoy the site and reading the many threads posted. some lack manners in the chat room but that happens. take care to all

[cadence]

I am still relatively new to this site, and have enjoyed it thus far.
I would like to join the Academy, but am unsure if I should or not, finding the time would be my biggest problem.
I would ask advice from people who do offer, but I always feel as if I am being a bother.

Everytime I log in to ask a question, I find that a similar question has already been asked in the newer posts. Complete with answers that are extremely helpful.
I hate to ask a similar question and be repetative.
I do find this site to be one of the better ones I have been on in regards to information and of course the people who are here.

[hugsnkisses]

Hey Tojo...
I've read a lot of your posts in the last few weeks...you're really sweet to be so concerned and helpful
I stumbled upon this site months ago, not knowing much about anything. Everyone has been very friendly, patient, helpful... I've had a ton of support on this interesting journey... couldn't be more pleased with all the people here! I think it can be intimidating for new people to post. I can count the number of posts I've had (not under Fun & Games) on one hand...took me months to start... not at all because of anyone here or from any negative feedback..just didn't feel like I knew enough to contribute anything to the forums. I think everyone here is doing a great job creating a very warm, caring, supportive community!!

[hugsnkisses]

aria...
You should definitely join the academy..especially if time is your biggest concern. If needed you can always put a note in your profile that you are limited on time and would prefer to request tasks when you have more time to perform. One of the nice things there is that you can be assigned tasks or you can ask for permission to perform certain tasks. You are not obligated to accept any that you are not comfortable with or don't have time for. You may also negotiate with the TMs if you need more time or something changed... I love it Definitely encourage you to try it...and if you dont' like it, then just take yourself out

[Tojo]

Thanks hugs&kisses- what a lovely thing to say.

A sub is a treasure.


Tojo

[Echoes]

I am much like hugsnkisses,
the support is wonderful here with so much warmth and openness, no hesitation in offering to help and to talk and so much to read, to learn...but I do know I don't know enough to be able to contribute anything and am still getting a feel from the newness.

I am not in a relationship and not submissive to anyone so I am not even sure if this alone would allow me to say I am one.
I only know what I dream of, how I feel inside and what I cannot stop feeling every day.

It is however a breath of relief to be embraced...for that is the feeling you all have given me and soon I hope to return this.
Thank you

[Tojo]

If you feel you're a sub, & dream about it, Echoes- to my mind at least, you are one.

There's always someone more experienced, who's 'more into the scene' or whatever. It's how you feel within that matters.


Tojo

[moptop]

I'm a new sub and new to the forum, and I don't want to disappear - but I'm certainly shy. Seeing this thread makes me feel a little better. I'm having a bit of trouble with the site - want to get onto the academy, can't, do I have to be a member, thought I was now I'd registered, confused?? anyway, am going off to browse the link Tojo provides here, thanks, Tojo.

[vampyres{ID}]

I am a new Sub (Well not really new but far from knowing everything, or even much)

I am not afraid of being Judged, never have been.

I have found the perfect husband who is trying to be the perfect master for me, What I expect of him is to push my limits, and rule my life, I expect to be diciplined as a reminder of what will happen should I missbehave. (I have no longing to be disobedient but I do so enjoy the punishment) I am far from Shy I love to be openly humiliated. Very much a turn on to be a half naked (Or completely naked) foot stool while there is company around, I have no qualms about being put on display or put out for use by others. Basically I want a master who will use me as he sees fit.

[tessa]

Thanks to Tojo for even asking. I am getting so much from this site, so I will give back, in this form at least.

"How it's going?" For me, it is going wonderfully. I have read some useful information that has helped my with my relationship. I've also read some really twisted ideas that has made play time pretty damn fun.

"What's good or bad?" Good: everything is. The site is easy to navigate and user friendly, not to mention just fun. Bad: nothing from the site...I just get lost in all my wandering around.

Are we supportive enough? YES! I have found it amazing how helpful and kind everyone is. ~gives suchaminx a big hug for helping me so much~ Just to be around others who know what these feelings inside me are like...well, that's just the breath of life for me sometimes.

"not too overbearing?" Um, well...wouldn't mind that if it happened but no, not too overbearing.

"Have you found that perfect Dom/me?" No one is perfect (despite what I may have previously believed), but He is perfect for me.

I can't imagine how this helped, but hopefully in some way, maybe?


tessa

[DrkRvn]

Things with my Lord and me are going very well... Mostly its been a matter of trying to find time to do anything big, but He gives me small tasks and instructions on how to behave everyday.

Currently he is trying to break me of a few bad habits, bitting my nails, sticking my tongue out at him. If I do so then I get spankings. I also am not aloud to play with myself while am am alone or cum with out permission... for that I get a cropping...

I've started a submissive journal which he like to read. I have never been great at journaling, but hopefully i will be able to keep this one up.

I already have a lot of ideas and fantasies and things I know i like or would want and Kishi is really still trying to figure alot of it out and how to do things, how to read my reactions, what sort of things he likes. Hopefully once school starts again and I am on a more regular schedule we will have evenings free to work on some more intricate things. I time deters us from trying some stuff right now.

[Can's Peaches]

As I have said in other post's I am a new sub. Just wanted to thank everyone for being so nice.

I have read alot of the threads and have learned alot about the lifestyle and about myself as well. Everyone has been so nice and I have finally found a place where I feel like I belong.

I have never felt comfortable in any relationship that I have found in the past. Never felt that I could be myself. Never really understanding what was missing from my life. Then I meet Sir and started learning more about the D/s lifestyle. It is like a light bulb went off in my head. I have always been a sub just didn't know what that was. I have found a relationship that feels so right and I can't wait to move to be with him.

I will let everyone know how it is going once I move. *kisses*

[jaylia]

How it's going? What's good or bad? Are we supportive enough & not too overbearing?So far most of the people here are great, i'm very shy and it takes me a bit to get a feel for any group before i feel comfortable to open up and participate, but i do lurk alot and my courage is building. Some people find online frees them up, but for me it's quite the opposite. When you are talking face to face you can pick up on all those little social cues(body language facial exspression, tone of voice and what not), where as online you can't.

I often wonder what happens to the ones we answer questions from & wonder if they're OK.

Have you found that perfect Dom/me?My Dom and i were married for 13yrs before our relationship took this new twist, there was always some D/s and bondage in the bedroom, and i always longed for more but so much of it for me is wrapped up in trust. Even though he's aways proven himself trustworthy it has taken a long time for me to reach the point where i felt i could completely bare my soul to Him(i have trust issues). So to make a long story short, yes i do believe i have found the perfect Dom.

So yes i'm okay and you will probably see me start to post more and more.

[moptop]

I just feel like coming back here for an update. After all, it was only August last year that I came to the realisation of my sub nature and needs, so it is still very new to me. I was just so lucky to find this site. I love it, it has become a great part of my life, not just for the advice and support you get from people like Tojo and Tom of Sweden (and many, many others), but for the friendship, and the artistic life I have also found here.

The man who brought me to this world has gone away, as I really always expected. I have had a couple of fun experiences in between - managed to pack a lot into a very short time - but I am now in the process of falling slowly and carefully but I think very very deeply for a wonderfully beautiful, mentally challenging, aesthetically demanding, behaviourally exacting, scarily intelligent, deeply romantic, wildly sexy, hugely interesting man here in France. Hell, I don't know many English men who can quote English poetry to me, let alone a French one... he's scary (in the best possible way). And I've never met anyone who has such a sense of building up the anticipation... brother, I'm in such trouble and loving it. More to the point, we are both in a first realisation of eachother - I met him on line, we had our first personal meeting yesterday, just lunch and talking - but we are both finding ourselves very drawn. He is not that experienced - 3 or 4 years - so we are going to be on a voyage of discovery together, I think. Early days, I know, but he has so many of what seem to me to be the right attitudes... above all, his firm belief is that it is the sub who makes the Dom, i.e. a Dom is nothing without a sub; he likes to be proud of his sub, for her to be proud of herself and what she is for him; and he believes that once you have the mind, the body will follow. Which absolutely works for me.

But, just in case - I know that I have a wonderful community of wise people and friends here, for advice and a shoulder to cry on (and I even have some wise friends, too! lol), in case it all goes horribly wrong, or just in case he pushes me too hard - I think he will push me very hard - and I'm feeling feeble.

So thanks, guys, for being here, and thanks, Tojo, for caring.

[shifha]

This is the only forum, anywhere on the web, that i have felt totally welcomed and free to voice opinions, thoughts and whatever. This means a lot to me, as i spent so much of my life repressing my feelings and thinking i was pretty crazy. It is just amazing to me to find a community of people who think and feel as i do, and who are really good, nice guys ( well, most, anyway, lol). i often dont write, even though i would like to, simply because there are lots of more expressive posters who say it better than i can.
As for how its going? i feel liberated, loved and satisfied, so either i have low expectations or my Master is doing something right!