Crying?

[pixie_dust]

More and more, recently, I find myself shedding tears when my Dom and I are intimate. Most of the time, I don't understand where the tears are coming from. I only know that the feelings I am experiencing at that time are so intense, they seem to need a form of "release".

The first time this happened to me, I was somewhat confused, to say the least. It was after a fairly intense scene, and I had gotten up to get something to drink. As soon as I sat down, I just broke down and started crying. He came in and held me, asking if I was alright and telling me how much I meant to him and that he loved me. He was quite concerned as to whether he had hurt me either physically or emotionally, to which I assured him that I was fine, and that there was nothing wrong.

Since then, we have both learned that my tears and crying are part of what I feel for him and are not to be regarded as a negative aspect, but a positive one.

[maddie]

*nods at pixie_dust*

Happens to me fairly often. The better the "play", the more likely I'll cry. I think it's a cathartic thing. It's not intended. It's like it's such an intense relief, such an intense high, that when it's over, I can't help but cry.

[learningtopleez]

Its an emotional release, but also, on my part, something that is very intimate. To trust someone that much, to allow them to be that close to whom I am, emotionally, physically, mentally, is too much for me to bear at times and i release it in the form of tears. its a beautiful and wonderful feeling for me.

Sheepish, I just wanted you to know sweetie, that when I read your words, well, not to be funny, but I had tears in my eyes! You described perfectly and exactly how I always feel when I am with Max. In the beginning my crying sorta freaked me out! But after talking to him, and others that had the same thing happen to them, well, it let me know that it was just that! An emotional release caused by something so powerful that it literally overwhelmed me. Part of it was my love for him, and part of it was what you said, the fact that I could trust and give every part of me to another. But he is never overwhelmed....he just takes me in his arms and holds me, and cuddles with me, and then looks into my eyes and says, "I love you too beautiful." *sigh*

and big hugs to you Violenteer's_Slut

[~hellish one~]

ooh i'm an emotional one for sure! crying from physical pain is actually something i have found that is easier for me to deal with than crying from an intense emotional situation. with the physical pain crying...i know what is causing me to shed those tears...be it a paddle, belt, clothespins..~shudders~ so i am more accepting of it. yet, with emotional crying, it always stuns me at first. it surprises me when i apparently cry for no reason. then i have to stop and actually think about my feelings...process what just happened and realize that i wasn't crying for no reason. whether you are crying because you are happy...or crying because you are sad, there is always a reason behind it. even though i know that to be true, emotional crying still catches me off guard!

recently, for example, such a simple thing as being sent to the corner ended up with me bursting into tears. as usual, i was shocked at first, until i was able to stop and think about what exactly it was that had me crying. disappointment...disrespect...humiliation...all those things had brought me to tears. i worked through it all in my head though, and also talked to a couple of wonderful friends to kinda get things off my chest. in the end the tears were gone and i felt better for the whole mess.

i think it's important to talk about these emotions and not keep them bottled up inside. whether you are writing in your journal, talking to your Dom, or wearing out a friend's good listening ear...it's always important to just get it out there. but that's just my opinion. ~smiles~