Safe Word

[mortsgirl]

If I use a safe word does that make me a horrible sub? I never used one but...

[karin]

no it does not. safe words are in place for your safety. it doesn't make you a horrible sub. it makes you a smart sub if you feel the need to use one.

[_ID_]

mortsgirl - karin is absolutely correct.

There is a thread about this very subject if you care to do a little more reading on how everyone else feels about it.

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6310

And welcome to the boards!

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[TomOfSweden]

If I use a safe word does that make me a horrible sub? I never used one but...

If you feel you have to use it, it means you have a horrible Dom! Just kidding. But if you find yourself using it a lot, it means comunication isn't what it should be. Talk more and leave if your Dom doesn't listen.

[Flaming_Redhead]

No, it doesn't make you a horrible sub, though you may feel like one. I've had to cry uncle once or twice. I hated to do it! I felt like such a failure, but on both occasions I was being pushed on purpose. Knowing how stubborn I am and how I hate to fail, I was asked several times if it was too much. *smiles* Needless to say, I couldn't hold out forever.