How to give the BEST blow job?

[redEva]

OK! Yeah, I know – it is not pure BDSM, but still, one of the never ending mysteries ( for me at least ). Not that anyone complained so far (not that I would admit even if they had ) but… apart from the all around fantasy of deep throating (and that one too – if someone could enlighten me – how exactly do you manage to do it for extended period of time without evacuating last few meals?! ) and some other imaginary always-in-the-story described actions - what is in your experience really really cool, and details please – maybe we can learn something.

And… just by-the-way did you ever tried blowing strong raspberries on His balls? :[

[Jones, Nikka]

… apart from the all around fantasy of deep throating (and that one too – if someone could enlighten me – how exactly do you manage to do it for extended period of time without evacuating last few meals?!) and some other imaginary always-in-the-story described actions - what is in your experience really really cool, and details please – maybe we can learn something.[

The secret, in my humble opinion, is Location! location! location! It may take more than a few tries, but if you manage to find the most sensitive part of his penis and massage it with the softest part of your tongue, you could keep him on the verge of orgasm until kingdom come.
Contrary to popular belief, blowing or sucking with lips sealed around the shaft do not give the man any more pleasure than licking and massaging. I have been told that my hot breath on his erection as I tried to speak without letting him out of my mouth was a very sexy detail.

Once, after reading a story here in bdsmlibrary called High-Heeled Hell, F and I decided to try a bit of breath play during oral sex. Like in the story, a rope was wound around my neck with a metal ring handle that could be twisted to control my breath as I went down on him. The whole thing sounds very exciting on paper but I was not in the mood for passing out from the pain and besides F happens to be a safety freak so the rope was tied in a non-constricting, no-slip manner and he barely touched it during play. He did say it made me look very helpless and sexy. I was so turned on by the idea of being strangled as he fucked my mouth that I was holding my breath all by myself without the rope really chocking me. I had two orgasms by the time he came inside my mouth.
And of course, all men find it incredibly arousing to see me us girls swallow.

[Gallardo]

Strong raspberries on his balls??? Care to enlighten me =P

[lilli]

what is in your experience really really cool, and details please – maybe we can learn something.

This is not strictly in the BDSM line of things but someone I 'knew' loved the alternate sensations of hot and cold while getting a blow job, the secret is a hot cup of something (tea, coffee, Water etc) a couple of ice cubes and of course teeth that are not sensitive!!

The alternate sensations of hot and cold used to drive him absolutly wild!

[redEva]

Strong raspberries on his balls??? Care to enlighten me

you know how kids blow "raspberries"? well, have your partner put their lips firmly against your balls and than do that = blow raspberries, but not gently, strong . I've been told it sort of tickles, kind of like from inside

[mmmmmmm]

Well, I haven't been able to get past having a strong gag reflex, so I can't help with that one, but I'm happy to pass along what else I've learned ...

* Loving having a cock in your mouth, admiring it, inspecting it visually, kissing it reverently ... well, enthusiasm in general seems to go a long way.

*For me, kneeling between His legs works best. I am most comfortable there, can get good access to everything and I don't get a backache from it ... so I can keep at it much longer from this position.

* Nikka is right about location, location, location. That place underneath where the head meets the shaft (whatever that's called) ... mmmmmmm ... that seems to be the golden spot. Lightly licking and kissing there ... rubbing your lips there ... that always seems to yield a variety of groans and moans.

* With your perfectly manicured, ladylike nails, gently hold the shaft while you are doing something a bit naughty like glossing your lips with precum ...

* Alternately kiss and lick the underbelly of the shaft -- trace a vein with the tip of your tongue. I'm quite a licker in general ... up the shaft, over the balls, under the balls, over the head ... I give more of a lickjob ...

* Since I can't really deep throat, I tend to hold the base of the shaft and squeeze/jerk a bit when I finally do get to sucking and bobbing on the head (if it ever gets that far ... ) Or, sometimes I just keep my mouth open with the cockhead at my lips as I jerk Him off, milking the cum into my open mouth (or other places).

I'd still like to figure out how to deep throat someday ... I have this fantasy of being able to take a cock all the way in and swallowing on it to make my throat tight on it ... mmmmmmm ... someday ...

[Gallardo]

Interesting, thanks Eva.

[redEva]

Hehe…. Yeah, sensitive spots, the line from under the tip all the way to the ass… yeah, nice tingling spots.

And, yes the bloody gag reflex…. Now, there is something that works for me: if I’m high enough (sexually aroused that is – not on illegal substances ) I swear I could swallow the horse (ok maybe a little exaggeration – but you get the picture). There is a trick to it … lay on your back on the bed and let your head fall down over the edge. You will be spread and exposed to your lover to play with you as he might. Your throat will be nice and open, too, so when you are ready – he can drive it home! Word of caution: have your hand handy by his balls or… the deep throating play will turn into breath play

[Lord Thomas]

For those who like hot and cold sensations, a few suggestions...
Wintergreen, Pepermint Life Savers; and/or Cinnamon Altoids.

Oh and of course there are poprocks...



Of course breath play makes the whole thing much better. Nothing like feeling the throat beneathe your bare fingers as you slide in and out...

And there is always, for those who can't do the breath play, try holding a switchblade to that pretty throat while you use it.




Just a few of my personal favorite suggestions, now open wide ladies....

~LT~

[Katmandu]

Honestly, my Lord; from true experience or written/ imagined fantasy?

[Lord Thomas]

Katz, it does say Knowledge Base on the top of the page, not fantasy.

[Barton]

Glad to see Pop Rocks get mentioned. And the most important thing of all No teeth!!

Barton

[Driveslikeagirl]

So glad to see this topic brought up. If only men knew how much women wanted to learn how to give absolutely perfect blow jobs!

That damn gag reflex! They taught us in nursing school (for different purposes of course) to tell patients to breathe through their nose, but that doesn't completely make the gag reflex magically disappear...

I've read a lot online that men like gentle play with the balls during a blow job, but I have yet to meet one in person who would admit it, let alone give pointers.

And why do men so like women to swallow? Hey, I'm all for it if the man likes it. But my question is, are there some men out there who either don't care, or who are actually repulsed by a woman who swallows?

[sweetplymate]

Glad to see Pop Rocks get mentioned. And the most important thing of all No teeth!!

Barton

*lol* i think this may be a matter of opinion for some as i was always taught this until now...my Master loves teeth used on both cock and balls....must admit NOT using them is a hard habit to break...gonna have to be careful too if i ever end up having to move on in life to another partner good thing right now that isnt an issue...

as far as the gag reflex issue...i have found for me anyway that practice really does make perfect the more we play around with the deep throating the easier it has gotten for me, though i dont think my gag reflex will ever entirely go away...i have also found though, that even tho i gag i dont ever feel like i will actually throw up...

RedEva's suggestion of laying with ones head over the edge of a bed works wonders as well!

[MrJerseyGuy]

I don't know that it works for everyone...and I have no "first hand" knowledge other than educating a few ex-girlfriends who appreciated the advice...

But if you keep swallowing...or trying to swallow, it will stop the gag reflex at least temporarily. And the sensation feels good to your partner...a kind of "massage". You can start out taking it all the way down for a short amount of time, but you'll find that you'll soon be able to give a world class deep throat! (Practice makes perfect!)

This is the technique medical professionals use when they have to put a tube down someone's throat who is conscious. They always instruct the patient to keep trying to swallow. It seems to work.

Best of luck

[myri_SN]

SN says if i use teeth that would be a one way ticket home for me
guess he don't like teeth...
but my problem is if somethign touches my tongue my stomach turns upside down, that isn't quite as bad anymore but i still can't move my tongue or the same happens.

[slavelucy]

Oh and of course there are poprocks...

Oh yeah, someone (i forget who) mentioned pop rocks to me once, they sound kinda cool, sadly, we don't have them over here.

As for the ideal BJ - heh, tricky....in my experience most guys seem to really go for the whole deep throat thing...as for how you do it, i find that the swallowing thing that MrJG advises works pretty well, combined with some serious application of mind over matter.

sl

[myri_SN]

i read once that the perfect training for blowjobs would be eating magnum icecreams. hmm i just wonder..... cause i first bite all the chocolate off then take bites off the rest.... anything wrong wif dat?? bats eyelashes and looks even more innocent than i am.
ic an remember that the first time i mentioned that in chat i got a few 'BITCH' replies and some men just went really quiet. i wonder why

[slavelucy]

i read once that the perfect training for blowjobs would be eating magnum icecreams.

LOL! Ah, now, that's the sort of training little luce would happily live with!

i have quite sensitive reeth though, so i tend to just suck the whole thing (i'm still talking about icecreams)..it takes quite a while.

See, now all this has put me seriously in the mood for one...

*goes to listen out for ice cream van* ("i'm only after your choc ices good fellow" )

sl

[Pandora's Box]

I've loved reading this topic.

My tricks:

I can't do the deep throat thing either, although Jersey I might have to try your trick next time I get the chance. Instead, I have made sure to use my hand in tandem with my lips and tongue.

Butterfly licks up the ridge on the underside of his shaft. Basically, flicking your tongue alternating up each side of the ridge.

While he's full in my mouth, I like to make eye contact and "smile" (well as best as possible with a mouth full of cock LOL) with an impish look in my eyes.

And Barton, some guys do like teeth. However, it has to be gentle. I have found through my "adventures" that many men have greatly enjoyed a light "scrape" much to their own surprise. Trick is to treat the skin of the penis as if it is fine parchment paper.

I actually really enjoy giving head. It is a form of communion, so to speak, for me. It's a very intimate experience.

[Kelli]

I found using my mouth and hand works the best, since I can't deep throat either... yet...

I start by just using my mouth, taking of much of him in as I can, while my hand fondles his balls and perinium. Then I start to slide my hand over his cock, my hand in the shape of an "O." When my hand slides down, I slip my mouth over the head and give it a quick swirl, then bring my hand back over the top. As I bring my hand up, I twist it, which is what he says drives him wild. With my free hand, I caress his anus (he has yet to let my finger in, even though we both think he would like it, he's a little homophobic), so I just lightly caress the opening, which drives him crazy as well. I keep pumping, gradually increasing, and as he cums, I pump my hand as hard as I can over his shaft. He shoots over his head sometimes (he's 6'1" with a long torso). If anyone else uses this, lemme know what you think.

[angelpet]

I love to pleasure a man by giving him a blow job. Being able to deep throat...takes a lot of practice indeed. I found the best position for me is…that if I’m on my knees in front of him and my head is tilted back with me basically looking up into his eyes. If he takes it nice and slow at feeding me his cock and softly massages my throat with his hand as he pushes it deeper, I can deep throat him.
The main thing I have to do on my end…is just relax.
(talking nasty to me, telling me I’m the best cock sucker you have ever had…always helps)
The secret for me is relaxing my throat…
I found with practice, relaxing…helps my gag reflex tremendously.

As for using my tongue…I do this squiggly movement with my tongue on the underside of the shaft…going down and coming back up…this seems to drive him wild. Sucking the head in and out of my mouth…seems to be pretty effective also.

But I believe one of the biggest turn-ons to giving a good blow job is…..
The sounds…the slurps, the slops, the moans and the groans…the SOUNDS of a cock sliding in and out of a moist wet mouth is a turn-on within itself. I love those sounds.

[naomi]

But I believe one of the biggest turn-ons to giving a good blow job is…..
The sounds…the slurps, the slops, the moans and the groans…the SOUNDS of a cock sliding in and out of a moist wet mouth is a turn-on within itself. I love those sounds.


i agree 100% angelpet! i've enjoyed reading this particular thread very much. my man does not allow me to touch his cock with my hands when i am giving him a blowjob. i'm usually kneeling, with my hands behind my back. a particular turn on for me is having his hand tightly gripping the hair at the back of my head. he is able to control me that way (speed and depth) and i can just relax and concentrate on the sensation of his shaft sliding over my tongue and opening myself to the deepest penetration of my mouth and throat possible. i am a bit of a drooler, which turns him on to no end.

respectfully,
n.

[janie]

Why are nearly all the replies here from females?

I rather hoped for some detailed description from men as to what they really like.

Is it just that the men receiving the attention really just don't care much how so long as they are getting it at all, or what?

*remembers "queer as folk" where the best instruction was given by gay men*

janie

[GaryWilcox]

The most important thing for me is not just suction, but focusing that suction entirely on the egde of the lips. You can use the whole mouth to do that, but that just speeds along the process, and I want it prolonged and intense in one area!

I think the most important sensation is the lower lip on the underside of the shaft. Outside of that, I like a vocal girl, someone who is actually turned on by doing it, someone who doesn't mind when I take charge of it with a grip on the back of her head, balling her hair into my fist...

Pulling out of her mouth and making her take long licks across the length, with the lights on and in the living room, is great fun.

[janie]

That's better. Thanks.

[new master]

for me variety is best a little sucking a little kissing along the length alot of slurping some deep throat kissing the balls and maybr im the only one but i love it when my wife'sub slaps her face with it

[privatedesire]

Actualy maybe someone could help me with this.. I use to be able to give excellent head! and I LOVED doing it..

but with my SO now.. he's the only guy i've ever been with that still has his foreskin and my passion for give head has compleatly changed, and i can't get him to cum just by giving head

is there a trick that I might be able to use?

[new master]

Actualy maybe someone could help me with this.. I use to be able to give excellent head! and I LOVED doing it..

but with my SO now.. he's the only guy i've ever been with that still has his foreskin and my passion for give head has compleatly changed, and i can't get him to cum just by giving head

is there a trick that I might be able to use?

fear not private desire some of us just dont come from a blow job. the only way i can cum from a bj is to face fuck my wife sub. ask him if other women were able to make him come from a bj b4 and if he says yes then ask him what they did that your not. communication is key to everyaspect of a relationship even sexual

[jaro_99]

K - well, deep throat looks fantastic and I know women who've wanted to master it...two who have...

But truly its not that fantastic as a physical experience - IMHO!

I think that's mainly cos the pressure from the mouth/tongue/throat doesn't quite get to the right places on (my) cock.

But my current sub and cock slut really loves the sensation of truly taking as much of my cock into her mouth/throat as she can manage. For her it was partly about the challenge and partly about proving she can do anything she sees on a porn video. She loves the position with her head haning off the end of the bed BTW...but that's more in the forkm of face fucking for us from where I can torture her nipples and cunt simultaneously.

So what does work? Well, in my view women often miss the point that its the *down* stroke which counts the most. Just cos we ejaculate upwards does not mean you have to milk it out of us!

Really, I think in terms of maintaining a nice pressure/stimulation there's actually a point maybe about three quarter way down the shaft where your lips should be and this allows your tongue to do its stuff up near the head. Tonguing along the underside is pretty helpful!

But of course the basic up and down thing is the main element.

Its great when a woman wants to play her tongue around all her favourite parts of my cock - I'd encourage that of course! *grin* Licking of (shaved) balls and some *gentle* sucking is also a great starting point.

But yeah - in the end its the up/down or in/out...the sights and sounds. So I guess I'd say just take your time and enjoy it and communicate that enjoyment. There is no *right* way - the fun is in the journey!!!

Cheers.

J